Symphony of Love
If you expect to get married seriously and for a long time, then some similarity between you and them is simply necessary. Imagine that your souls are musical instruments: it is not necessary that they sound in unison, the main thing is to play harmoniously a single ensemble, performing a love symphony. Carefully look closely, which of the fans shares your interests. And he does it quite sincerely! For example, if you both know good food, then you will not have any disagreements when buying food, cooking and choosing a restaurant. If you are both avid skiers, there will be no controversy on how to spend a vacation. But the similarity should not be absolute! Living with your exact copy is rather tedious. All people need some kind of diversity.
Also we feel the need for a close person to fill our shortcomings. For example, if you and your spouse do not have financial talents, then who will manage the family budget? If both are not used to keeping order, who will pick up his socks and your blouses? If you both adore singing aloud, then who will listen to you?
If you want the marriage to be lasting, choose the husband of the one who has those qualities that you do not have. Undoubtedly, it is rather difficult: your chosen one should be similar to you and at the same time complement you as much as possible.
Who has the initiative?
Who will tell you how to get married correctly: one likes, but rarely calls, another less sympathetic to you, but falls asleep with e-mails and SS-masks - there is no retreat from invitations to meetings? A man by nature is a conqueror and always tries to achieve his goal. If he wants you to be with him, he will find time and ways to win your heart. And this means that he will pamper you, call, insist on spending an evening together, go to a restaurant, a club.
But some men behave as if they are not allowed to care for you. What's going on? Real fear sometimes prevents strong, courageous and successful (when it's not a woman) first to take decisive action against you. He's afraid of getting rejected! Universal recipes, how to help your dear self-control, alas, does not exist. Only one woman's intuition, supported by delicacy, will help to find a way out.
If your relationship still strongly requires certainty, try to resort ... to separation. Just disappear for a while from his horizon. If you really mean a lot to him, he will find you. And if he does not do it - well, forget about him: forcibly you will not be nice. The heaviest option, when it does not appear for weeks, does not ring, does not write, and then at the meetings sings the serenades about love, convincing you how you need it. Think, maybe you should find the strength and throw it out of your head or write it down as "just friends."
It does not count!
Sexologists believe that it is best when the spouse is older than his wife for three to four years. In their opinion, this is the optimal age difference between partners, in which the most harmonious sexual relations develop.
However, no one claims that this is the guarantee of family well-being. A happy and harmonious marriage is not created by the rules. Who in the family is older - husband or wife - is not so important. The main thing is to be able to compromise, respect the wishes of the other party and hear the partner.
Studies have shown that the brain of a man is arranged differently than a woman's.
By nature, the woman is the keeper of the hearth, and the man is the hunter and experimenter. And this difference manifests itself from early childhood: the girls play in the mother's daughters, the boys - in the war and dismantle the toys.
The male mindset is able to analyze, find constructive ways to solve the problem. The abstract concepts from the field of emotions (love, trust), he can not operate. The palette of feelings and emotions of a woman consists of thousands of tones and nuances, and the male has at best seven primary colors. We can arrange scenes as many as we want, but they are only puzzled: what is the fuss?
Alas, sometimes it happens that your beloved is a married man. Sometimes he stays at night, occasionally takes you "into the light" (where there are no friends and colleagues), spends part of the vacation with you. And he constantly feeds you with promises to divorce his wife. So it can last for years, and you do not have to guess on chamomile to understand: if he does not hurry to connect fate with you, then he will not do it ever. You're wasting your one life on him, turning it into a total misery. Lawless Heart? Then at least soberly assess your relationship: enjoy the closeness with him, but do not expect more.