To hope that the man himself will guess about your preferences in bed, it makes no sense. The chance to find a man-psychic is one to fifty thousand. Therefore, it will be easier to teach yourself how to love it, that is, to do what you like. But often we can not do this. We are hampered by sexual complexes - the most strange and depraved "destroyers" of intimate relationships ...
Unfortunately, not everyone is very relaxed in bed. And usually two things prevent us. Either his own complexes - "but suddenly he does not think about me that way", "oh, I'm afraid to say something superfluous," or his complexes - "he is not sure about himself, but I ...", "he and so solid problems, and I'm here ... ". So for harmonious intimate relationships, you first have to fight with the complexes. Moreover, they can be corrected. Even the biggest shame lasts no more than 8 minutes, and then passes, because the adaptive abilities of the organism are included. So you are ashamed of being ashamed and get used to it. But we must also take into account the other - 99 percent of men will not fight with their sexual complexes, because it is too painful for them. So this is a battle of one hero, or rather a heroine.
Complex first. In pursuit of orgasm
In our society, the pursuit of orgasm has become just some kind of fetish. Moreover, it is almost the measure of life success. "If she screams under me like cut, then I'm doing everything right," men sincerely believe. "If I do not experience orgasm, that is, the world does not explode in front of my eyes - something is wrong with me," women think. However, the truth is that one and the same woman is capable of experiencing a variety of sensations, which for brevity is called orgasm.
So your task is to understand yourself and explain to your husband that you can not evaluate the quality of your relationship and your behavior by what is shown in porn films, for example. Then your spouse will be less inclined to achieve from you a certain result - "when will she finish!" - and will be set to search for new forms, sensations, ways and caresses in order to get a "more interesting result". Agree, this is the most advantageous position. For you, of course.
The complex is second. Uncertainty of macho
Bedding is the place where the rules of dealing with men sometimes work exactly the opposite. Phrases such as "you do not hold out even to the level of your brother" will not cause a man the usual sporting excitement - "I'll prove to you!". Kind of encouragement "come on! come on! "With the thundering voice that your crazy football fan so loves, many are perceived as" hitting ".
To chew, scold and saw is also not an option, because he will simply be afraid next time to approach you. And everyone will lose. But what works is praise. Since even the coolest macho in bed is never completely sure of himself, he must be supported. For the sake of your praise, he will go for any sexual exploits. Thank him for the moments of happiness, and there will be more of them. Praise him - and he will try. And do not praise when he does not try. From sexual complexes (the most strange and depraved) there will be no trace.
The third complex. "Who was with her before ..."
Bedding is not a place where people need a "bare" truth. You might want to tell him about your best moments in life. Hold on! Nothing intimate with a kiss in the first class is not necessary to sound, because men easily earn inferiority complexes on this topic. Even if the husband provokes you to talk frankly, it should follow from your stories that you spent the best minutes with him.
Only, for God's sake, do not lie. One of the most horrible for a man's sensations is that the one he loves lies. This undermines confidence not only in bed, but in life. On a difficult question from his side: "How many men did you have before me?" You can always give some neutral, purely feminine answer: "Are they men in comparison with you!" There is always something to praise, for why -you are sleeping with him.
The complex is the fourth. "Maybe I'm doing it wrong ..."
"Darling, it seems to me that it would be fine if you still laid your hand on me ..." - this is no breath. Yes, and brains too. Therefore, it is necessary to speak very simply - forward, backward, higher, lower. If he does not take into account your wishes, then maybe he just does not hear them - either you whisper very quietly, or he is too involved in the process. Then repeat this fairly clearly. Maybe several times. You are an active participant in the process and have the right to influence it.
You can not speak, just do it. Put his hand where you want, take off, roll over. Just do it naturally and confidently. After all, there is nothing more natural than to bring joy to a beloved man. And there is nothing more attractive than a confident woman.
What should I tell him
The average size of the vagina is 6-13 cm, the average length of the tongue is 5-7 cm. Therefore, attempts to get the tongue as deeply as possible rarely justify themselves. All the most sensitive points are close to the entrance - at a depth of 3-5 cm. This is the famous G-point, which is located on the front wall of the vagina (a small convex spot, the size and shape resembling a ruble coin). Similar points are at the same depth, but on the sides of it are zones X and Y. It is believed that a woman's vaginal orgasm is experienced precisely from the stimulation of these zones. Perhaps this information will make him forget the favorite male approach "the deeper, the better".