When the candles that lit up the romantic supper go out, your heart begins to beat harder. But not from the anticipation of what will follow the dessert, but from the fear of pain - your eternal companion of tenderness and passion. Why are the sweetest moments of communication with your beloved delivering you so much torment? And is it possible to get rid of them?
I do not want and can not?
The cause of negative feelings during sexual contacts for a modern woman may be psychological incompatibility with a partner. And the wrong education, when parents from childhood inspire the girl that sex is immoral and dangerous. All this leads to the fact that the body begins to resist all the forces unwanted "intrusion", resulting in a strong muscular tension.
Another problem is the "rancor" of pain: if you ever had something unpleasant, you will never forget it and in a similar situation you will expect their appearance. Sometimes it happens in and so: the man has not even touched the woman yet, and she is already clenching her teeth in pain.
To get out of the vicious circle, first of all, you need to change your views on intimate relationships. Read the literature devoted to this topic, watch love-erotic films: they will help awaken sensuality.
If you love a man, try to make him the most desirable. Create a situation where sex would not be possible, but you could show tenderness for each other. For this, a swimming pool, a cinema or a club. Touching the beloved and viewing his face and figure, you will give free rein to your imagination and feel the desire.
It would be desirable and it is pricked
The path to enjoyment during sexual intercourse for a modern woman is fraught with many dangers - unwanted pregnancy, sexual infections, allergy to latex ... Feeling frightened, the girl can not relax and feels pain due to physical stress.
In order not to think about possible troubles, concretize your fears and think about how to protect yourself. Address to the gynecologist - he will help or assist to pick up contraceptives. And avoid contacts on "dangerous" days.
The feeling of safety and sexual contact for a modern woman is also influenced by the place of making love. During your intimacy, you should not be bothered by the thought of whether the creaking of the bed is heard behind the wall, whether the mother or the child will come into the room.
Easy, dear.
Perhaps your "love torment" is related to the fact that your chosen one has a rather large genital organ. If you are silent, the man may not know about your problem. Physically, he does not feel any obstacles, which means he underestimates his power and does not control his efforts. While you do not explicitly ask for "lower turnover", the partner may not realize that the sounds you are making are not voluptuous moans, but screams of pain.
Talking with a partner on this delicate topic, do not stint on praise and do not get tired of repeating what a wonderful lover he is and how proud you are of the size of his dignity. And then, with regret, say that your fragility and diminutiveness do not go well with his brutality. Such a confession will make him be more gentle.
The pose is very important. Sex in the "classical performance" is preferable to love balancing act. Also, you should often take the initiative from the man, turning out from above. So you can control the process yourself and not be afraid for any unforeseen consequences.