Many remember the nightmare of their childhood: when my mother or grandmother was literally forced to eat up the hated manna porridge. So why then, when we become parents, we repeat everything from the beginning, running after our child with a spoon and repeating the words that, in childhood, they themselves often heard from their parents: "For my mother, for my father, for my grandmother"?
The reasons for this incorrect, from a pedagogical point of view, behavior of parents, are several:
Fear that the child will be hungry. Parents should understand that the child has the strongest instinct, which controls his need for food - hunger. If the baby is really hungry, he will never refuse to eat. If a child with tears in his eyes sits near a plate full of food, and refuses to eat despite persuasion and threats - it means his body does not need food.
* A common stereotype: "Upritan is healthy". In fact, this opinion can not be called true. The need for food for each kid is individual. Here much depends on the innate characteristics of his body. The same is true of completeness: some babies themselves are large and plump, others are small and thin. If the baby is forced to feed, he can actually gain weight quickly, but this will be at the expense of his health. In the child, the stomach is gradually stretched and the metabolism is disturbed. A metabolic disorder, in turn, can provoke the development of such serious diseases as obesity, diabetes, heart failure, etc.
* The desire to prove this way to the child his love. A very common cause of food conflicts is that parents subconsciously feel that they do not pay enough attention, love and care to their child. That's why they try to make up for their imaginary or real guilt before it with the help of reinforced feeding. It turns out that in this way parents simply try to solve their psychological problem by torturing their own beloved child.
Increased anxiety. Some parents constantly feel that their baby is pale, stunted, thin and drained. Even if this is the case, the problem of a child's poor type may not be a lack of nutrition. And if the parents begin to overfeed the child, then all their anxieties are soon added to the lack of their children's appetite.
Well, if a child really does not eat well, what could be the reason for this?
The reasons can be a lot: bad health, climate change, stress. If, with the health and well-being of the baby, everything is in order, then his poor appetite can determine the reasons:
* Growth criteria. It is noticed that healthy children in the first months of life usually never suffer from a lack of appetite. The thing is that the child grows up to 9 months, and then his growth somewhat slows down, accordingly, and the need for food decreases.
* Poor psychological climate in the family. A child always feels when his parents are depressed, upset, or worried. He absorbs the mother's bad mood like a sponge - and hence the loss of appetite.
* Slowness. Temperament is given to the child from birth. Choleric and sanguine cheerfully suck the mother's breast, and the phlegmatic does it lazily, often falling asleep in the process. Becoming older, such a child can freeze with a mouth full of food, fixing his gaze somewhere in the distance. But you should not rush such a baby - he just can not rush! And this manifests itself not only in food, but in everything that he does and does.
Parents who have problems with feeding their children, it is recommended:
* Never force a child to eat dishes that disgust him. Of course, this does not mean that the baby should eat only cakes and chocolates. But, nevertheless, the food should give him pleasure. Tasty dishes can be useful, and useful - tasty.
* The child's diet should be arranged. Categorically refuses to have breakfast - do not. But before lunch - no snacks.
* Do not also interrupt the child's appetite with sweets, gingerbread and cookies. If a child has already managed to crush a dozen chocolates before eating, then it should not be surprising that buckwheat porridge will seem to him tasteless and unappetizing.