A small creature, from the moment of its birth, needs a reliable guide, which will teach him to know the world around him and protect him from various ills and diseases. The conductor of a newborn is his own mother.
Each of us is experiencing a certain alertness or even fear, facing in life with something unknown. For the newly born child new all around! There is already no warm and cozy mother's womb, a pleasant twilight disappeared, and a faint noise became simply deafening. The baby is frightened and ... reacts with a loud cry. This is a completely normal instinct. The same instinct causes the crumb to flinch and throw up the handles for any sharp sound, squint, often blink in bright light. The baby is very strong and at the same time absolutely ... helpless. And he can die if he does not have reliable guides in this world. And the best guides, than mum and dad, for the child not to find. It's Mommy, like no other, can calm the crumbs. The newborn still perceives himself and her one whole. When he wakes up, and mom is not around, gets scared and begins to cry. Take the baby on the handles. Feeling the warmth of your body, hearing the beating of the heart and the familiar voice, he feels safe. Mom, do not go! - he says his behavior. It is necessary to learn to understand the wishes and requests of the baby from the first days of his life.
During the first months the baby does not understand that you are two different personalities. And when mom does not, it seems to him that there is not enough of it. Therefore, it is so important that the infant does not lack physical contact. Often take it on the handles, hug, hold on to yourself, lull. This gives him a sense of security. Psychologists and pediatricians even recommend to always wear crumbs in sling or kangaroo rucksack. So Mom will have the opportunity to do household chores without worrying that the baby can feel lonely. African women always carry their infants with them, so their children develop better and more actively, being in constant physical contact with their mother and watching the world around them.
Another no less important issue: swaddling or not?
Newborn babies were worn for many centuries. And only at the end of the XX century experts began to talk about the fact that it is harmful to the developing organism. After all, in nature no biological species limits its young in the movement. On the other hand, there are studies that prove that babe, tightly wrapped in a warm blanket, is much calmer. He feels protected, but because he cries less and sleeps better. It is assumed that such a cozy "nest" reminds the baby of life in my mother's tummy. Watch for the crumb: he himself "will express" to you "for" and "against" swaddling.
I do not know him at all! - this is the reaction of kids to strangers. At first the little woman smiles at everyone who bends over to his bed. And in the eighth month the situation suddenly changes. When someone unfamiliar turns to the child, he begins to cry loudly. Kroha began to be afraid of strangers. And he feels fear, even sitting at mom's hands. Do not worry - this is evidence of normal development. And the reason, most likely, lies in the fact that the karapuz is already unmistakably recognizing the mother among other adults. And if someone tries to behave like her, this causes distrust and suspicion. Do not express displeasure with such behavior of the crumbs, because the kid feels everything. Closer to one and a half years the fear of strangers will pass.
How to calm the crumbs? Do not take lightly to his crying! Even if it seems that the baby has no serious reasons to be afraid, assimilate: for him everything is very important! Do not worry. Regardless of why the baby burst into tears, do not take his emotions. Take the baby on the pens. Hold tight and a few minutes, shut up. Shake it, stroke the head. By this you will let know that you sympathize with him. Put a little to your chest. When a child sucks, serotonin, a hormone of happiness, is produced in his brain. A crumb will drink mother's milk, and this will calm him down.
Do not make me show courage. If the kid was frightened of his grandmother, which he had not seen for a long time, let him sit on your lap and get comfortable. Do not try to break the fear. Is the carapuse afraid of the loud sound of a musical toy? Better take it to the far corner and leave it there. The child will get used to it and will probably reach for it soon enough.