Quite simply to find loyal friends, it is even more difficult to save long and warm relations with them. Far from all this really works. Usually we establish friendly relations in childhood and adolescence, while we are still so naive and ready for friendship all the while we are completely open. We choose friends in a similar way, following the childish naivety.
Having grown up and not once faced with betrayal of people close to us, we are approaching the choice of friends very carefully. First and foremost, it saves us the reverberations, but also makes us lonely. There may be as many friends or friends of different levels of reliability as possible, and for some reason we can not completely trust them. And how do we know the extent of the relationship with friends?
It is necessary to understand that all of us are far from ideal, sooner or later your girlfriend can do something that you do not expect at all.
Determine for yourself the degree of sincerity that is acceptable between you. Can you expect that your girlfriend will not tell the story about yours, what did you entrust to her? Can she not envy you, having heard ovashih incredible successes?
If this does not frighten you, then do not get upset if your secrets are known to everyone, or it suddenly becomes cold and alienated with respect to kvam. It is possible that when you trust your friend with your misfortune, she will be called to help you, but it may also happen that this help will lead you to unnecessary consequences.
What is not necessary in any case to share spodrugoy?
We will highlight several dangerous topics, frankness in which can become a stumbling block between you and your girlfriend.
Your family or marriage
Etimes should be inaccessible, since they only apply to you and your loved ones, especially if there are any problems. Even if everything is superb, do not boast to your girlfriend with gifts and relationships, children and acquisitions, if your friend does not have it yet. You need to show mercy and pity her, saving you from jealousy.
If your personal qualities are sensitive and tact, you yourself do not want to tell about it, frustrating your close friend. No matter how she did not like and did not rejoice at your victories, her personal failures can be too much against your successes. If you can not restrain joy and must necessarily share it with your girlfriend - be modest and restrained.
There is a type of women who like to discuss with her husband's girlfriends his slips and weaknesses, his own failure. But I think that you should not disclose your family to the family, it will not solve your problems. Exaggerating their shortcomings, it may win a stronger sympathy, but you certainly call on yourself and the family.
I had a girlfriend, she always talked about her husband only good, but knew that he was cheating on her, lounging around. We all wondered and only made a gesture. But it so happened that we came from our beautiful husbands, and she was able to raise from her neputevogo spouse a wonderful family man and master. She achieved this by too strong a belief in him and always encouraged with kind words. You can even put it that way -programmed it for a decent future and personal growth.
With regard to sex
Etatem - taboo for discussion, everything should remain only between you and your partner. If you continue to discuss with your girlfriend the details of your intimate life, it may happen that your friend will publicize your conversations about this or else he will touch you for living, in general, he will use the information for his own benefit.
Theme of career and business
The most terrible possible enemy of friendship is success. In any case, you will want to share your career achievements or get good advice from your friend. You exchange plans, ideas, and then it turns out that they are not implemented. The first thought that will come to your mind is that your girlfriend has waxed, but this is not completely true. In this case, the culprit is not at all a friend, but a brain that, as it turned out, does not distinguish the plan and the action that has been carried out. We only need to brag to someone else's unsuccessful successes and our brain immediately qualifies it as a fact that happened and does not give us an opportunity to put extra effort into achieving the desired.
In order to achieve the desired result, you do not need to blame your girlfriend for envying that she can not provide you with the necessary assistance at the right time, just do not share your plans with anyone, or with a friend, or with anyone else.
If you are more successful than your girlfriend, do not blame her for laziness and slowness, boast about your achievements to highlight your superiority, just help her, motivating achievement of results in your career. If your girlfriend is even lazy or not so self-confident, then try to shake her, pull him out of the house, find talents in her and emphasize them, remember her potential abilities and abilities that will inspire her to win the victory.
Rejoice at her side with her victories and successes. At first, you can even exaggerate its success, so that it is even more inspired by new achievements. It will not only be grateful to you, your friendship will be transformed into a game and friendship will become stronger. Then you can, without being careful, share all the successes and achievements, and will no longer fear her pride or fear that she will overlook you.