At the moment, the wedding has become very fashionable. At the time of the wedding, the couple in love becomes forever married to the Lord, blessed for a long, happy life together and for the birth of children. But sometimes the newlyweds are married and after a few years of family life.
To conduct this beautiful ceremony, the newlyweds must be carefully prepared. Often neither parents, nor even grandmothers and grandfathers can advise anything. In their time, it was not accepted to get married, because you could pay for a career or a party ticket.
According to church rules, the bride and groom should be kept at least three days of fasting, and then one must confess and take communion. Fasting for a believer is abstinence not only in eating, but also in sexual relations. It is advisable that during a fast, a person conducts a lonely lifestyle, detached from stormy and noisy activities, spend most of his time reading prayers.
At their request, the married couple come to a conversation with the priest to ask in detail about the meaning and significance of the future church rite, to receive a blessing for photographing the wedding, as well as to find out what things should be taken to church.
What you need to take to the wedding
- Official certificate of marriage, issued by the registry office. Although, as you know, marriages are made in heaven and the clergy are loyal people. In most cases, the church does not require its presentation, relying on the honesty of the married lovers. In our time it is customary that before marriage the marriage of the newlyweds is officially registered. Therefore, if you plan to perform two events in one day, then the newlyweds must go to the registry office, and then to the church for the wedding.
- Wedding rings, which the newlyweds had previously exchanged in the registry office. These rings will be used for the wedding ceremony. In the church the priest once again will put them on, but already consecrated, on the fingers of the newlyweds.
- Two icons. For the groom, as for the future head of the family - the icon of Christ the Savior, for the bride, as for the future keeper of the family hearth - the icon of the Mother of God.
- Wedding candles (a sign of pure love and chastity and God's grace) can be purchased directly in the church or icon shop. They are strikingly different from ordinary church candles. In appearance, the wedding candles are quite large, and can be decorated adorned with patterned curls, flowers, and figurines. Candles are chosen by the newlyweds themselves, but it is important that they are sanctified. It is better to take candles with special handkerchiefs so that the wax does not drip on the bride's dress and the groom's suit.
- White towel or towel and four linen handkerchief of small size. On the towel (a symbol of the purity of marriage), the wedding bride and groom step at a certain moment of the wedding, and the priest bandages the hands of the couple in love, symbolically combining the two fates into one. Two linen handkerchiefs wrap up two wedding candles, and with the remaining two handkerchiefs, wedding witnesses hold church crowns over the newlyweds.
- Neckline crosses , which at one time christened the bride and groom. Both the newlyweds and wedding witnesses must be baptized and must profess the Christian Orthodox faith, if the wedding takes place in the Orthodox Church. Crosses should be on the neck, they do not need to be removed and given to anyone. If parents did not baptize you, then before the wedding it will be necessary to pass the baptism ceremony first.
A wedding dress and a wedding dress, as they say in Odessa, are two big differences. As if you would not like to look fashionable, the dress for the wedding should not be provocative and too frank - bright colors (for example, red), deep decollete, bold length and high incisions in the church are unacceptable. The best thing is to follow the classic style and white color. This is a guarantee that the priest will take you to the wedding and the fact that the parishioners of the local church will not condemn you. If any part of the outfit does not comply with church rules, it is better to cover it with a light scarf to match the color of the dress or throw bolero.
To the bride's hair, there are also some requirements: it's better to have a classic styling without any "frills" and ornaments. At the same time it is desirable to fasten the veil higher. If the hair does not provide a veil, then you need to take with you to the wedding a light scarf, which you can cover your head during the ceremony.
It is customary to have witnesses at the wedding, they are also called a friend and a friend, and it is necessary that the guy is single and the girl is unmarried. When carrying out the rite of the wedding of witnesses there should be two, they will be trusted over the heads of the newlyweds to keep the crowns. Sex, age, marital status in this situation do not play a role.
Naturally, you will want a celebration to take pictures and video. Shooting in temples is usually allowed. But it's better to discuss all the questions with the priest beforehand in order to avoid unpleasant surprises. In the temple, specific lighting and high-quality photos and videos should be entrusted to experienced people.
Wedding process
The wedding ceremony takes place in two stages - engagement and wedding. The priest carries out the rings on the tray. He approaches them, lights candles, gives them to the hands of the newlyweds. After that, the bride and groom conduct a triple exchange of rings. The newlyweds move the rings three times on a tray to each other and then put on their own clothes. This means that the newlyweds give themselves to each other for life.
During the wedding, the priest oversees them with crowns and blesses. Then read the Gospels, then a bowl of wine is brought, from which the groom and the bride need to drink 3 sips. Wine is a church sherry or Cahors. After that, the young couple become one.
The priest further connects the right hands of the newlyweds with his hand and drives them around the analogue three times. It is a symbol that the marriage of the young will become the eternal union of souls and hearts.
After that, the newlyweds are brought to the royal gates. Next image of the Savior kisses the bridegroom, and the image of the Mother of God kisses the bride. Then they change places. Further, the priest with the Cross gives them to kiss him. After the wedding, these icons will be hanged by the newlyweds in their house in the bedroom above the bed.
Signs associated with the wedding process
Before the wedding in the morning you need to put the lock under the threshold, as soon as the newlyweds cross the threshold, you need to lock the key with a key, throw out the key, and save the lock for a long happy family life!
If the candles burn smoothly and smoothly during the wedding, it means that a happy and happy life is waiting for the young, but if the candles crackle, then life will be restless.
Wedding candles after the ceremony must be kept at home for life.
White towels on which the newlyweds stood, no one should be given in hand and it is necessary to keep houses for happiness.
During the wedding, the newlyweds in the eyes of each other should not look, this can lead to treason.
At the end of the wedding for the perfect sacrament, the young people thank the church with fresh bread, which must be wrapped in a linen towel.