And if so, then the question arises how to avoid jealousy and betrayal, because, as you know, the human flesh is weak. And we are all not without sin. And in this situation, the old advice comes to the rescue, if you can not change the situation, change your attitude to it. If we apply this proverb to our case, we can advise you to try an open relationship.
First, you need to try to figure out what is an open relationship. From the side it may seem that everyone sleeps with whom he wants and when he wants, but in reality everything is much more complicated and thinner. After all, however paradoxical it may be, free relations also have their own rules and laws. First of all, it is respect for that freedom of each other, but you must remember that you love each other, and your task is not to sleep with as many people as possible, but to come to harmony in the relationship. From this it follows that decisions about free relations you must take together, and both must be ready for them.
Secondly, despite the fact that you allow each other physical closeness with another person, while you must be in each other's place in the first place. And if it's important for one of you that you are close at this moment, you should be there and put all lovers aside.
Thirdly, you should understand that not only will you be allowed to meet with someone else, but also your partner. So think about whether you can go for it.
So, after we realized that free relationships also have rules, let's take a closer look and weigh them, all for and against free relations. Is this the way you relate? So, first consider the pros.
Plus 1. There are no prohibitions, there is nothing to break.
As Buddhism teaches us, the unhappiness of man from unrealized desires. True Buddhism teaches us, gets rid of desires, we also offer, get rid of prohibitions that prevent the implementation of desires. If you are physically attracted to a person, but you understand that this is only physiology and you have no feelings for him, and that you are not going to part with your partner. In a standard model of monogamous behavior, such a stimulus can cause serious complications in relations with the beloved. In a free relationship, you can just have sex without commitment with the man you like, and this will not cause anybody any complaints and troubles.
Plus 2. always new sensations.
As practice shows, couples often break up from the fact that partners have become boring to each other in physical terms. And their sex life does not suit them at all. In standard relationships, this always leads to complications, and not infrequently to tears. In free relationships, this problem is solved simply, a little sex on the side brings a fresh stream and into your joint intimate life.
Minus 1. Public opinion.
If you decided on an open relationship, then you need to understand that for sure in your environment there is someone who will take this idea negatively. And it's good if it's one or two distant friends. And if it's parents or close friends, and even neighbors on the landing, you'll have to think once again whether it's worth it, because it's unpleasant when in the entrance I think you are walking. Of course, you can hide or spit on the opinion of society, but it is always difficult and unpleasant.
Minus 2. The chance of losing a loved one.
After all, as we understand, in free relations, not only we have the right, "to the left," but our beloved too. Therefore, there is always a risk that we ourselves push it into the hands of a scatterer. Therefore, before going on an open relationship, you need to think carefully about whether you are ready for them. As we understand, in an open relationship, not only we have the right, to the left. Adequately. Close friends. life.