When applying seams, it also takes time for complete healing. But we are all individuals, so the births take place in different ways. If there were no complications, observe simple rules, and have sex with your beloved husband.
Consider the possible reasons for refusing sex, which women named and the main rules of sex after childbirth, which will help them. The first thing that needs to be done is to bring the muscles of the vagina into a normal tone. For this, there are special exercises Kegel. The main thing is to deal with the planned, not retreating, and the result will not slow to affect your relationship with her husband.
1. Dryness of the vagina. The level of estrogen in the blood of the nursing mother is reduced. Accordingly, the natural lubrication in the vagina is produced less. Women, whose menstrual cycle has not yet resumed, experience particular discomfort. Many women are afraid to experience pain during intercourse. But the pain occurs only when the vagina is dry. Therefore, it is worth using grease and you will avoid unpleasant sensations.
2. "Laziness" to have sex. A woman is very tired in the first months after childbirth. The body is not yet very attuned to sex. The hormone of motherhood - prolactin, allows now to think only about the child. But this is not a reason to forget about the pleasures of sex with your beloved husband.
3. The shape of the body has changed. Nothing terrible happened. There are special exercises that you can, and even need to perform after childbirth. At the maternity hospital, there is usually a physical training instructor who will help you develop a recovery program.
4. The husband treats differently. The man becomes more cautious, does not want to disturb you once again. He is now, just like you, adapting to a new role. Try to ensure that he cares for the child on a par with you, this will help him get used to faster.
5. Changes in the sensitivity of the breast. Sensations can be very pleasant, or vice versa, cause discomfort. It's all very individual.
6. The shape of the breast has changed. The shape of the breast does not much depend on whether you feed or not. The main factor is the elasticity of the skin. After feeding, the fat tissue of the breast will resume, and the breast will return to the previous volumes. Compliance with the feeding regime is very important.
7. Milk fountain. The orgasm of the nursing mother can be accompanied by small splashes of milk. This hormone oxytocin works. It is produced in large quantities during labor, lactation and during orgasm.
8. Take care of contraception. The method of lactational amenorrhea does not prevent the onset of a new pregnancy. During the feeding period, the use of spermicides, an intrauterine device, or condoms is additionally selected.
9. Select an item. Perhaps the young mother will have to assume the role of a leading partner. So you help your beloved get rid of the fear of hurting you.
10. That you are not disturbed. Note that in the first months of life, babies sleep very superficially and the child can wake up at any moment. Therefore, for sex will have to use the first opportunity. It is very important that my mother relax and be distracted from pressing problems.
11. Where is my orgasm? You will not immediately experience pleasure. Surveys of young mothers showed that most people needed this for more than a year. Approximately half of the women interviewed admitted that they began to experience orgasm 2 times more often.
So you got acquainted with the main rules of sex after childbirth. At a time when there is no sex between you and the husband, it is very important to maintain a trusting relationship with him. You have a replenishment in your family, but this does not mean that you have ceased to be one. You so need approval of each other!
Your sex life will change, do not be surprised, this is normal. Sensations will become different, perhaps brighter. Now let's take a closer look at the main rules, which you should pay attention to if you want to return the old forms.
- Breastfeeding is the first assistant to return the figure to its former form. The production of oxytocin helps the uterus to contract to its original size, and when lactated, the body burns fats accumulated during pregnancy.
- To strengthen the muscles of the chest, you can press.
- To strengthen the muscles of the vagina, do Kegel exercises. For 5 seconds, shorten the muscles and then relax. Do the exercise when you feel comfortable. A slightly improved exercise - imagine that you lift the elevator to the third floor, stay on each floor for 3 seconds. Then also slowly "lower the elevator".
- Make the skin supple to help the contrast shower every 4 hours. After showering, apply a softening baby cream.
- A gynecologist can advise you on wearing a postpartum bandage. Closely monitor your feelings. It is not shown to everyone.
- When you visit the gym, note that the taste of milk may change, so consult with your doctor.
- Reduce the amount of food. The amount of milk produced and the amount of food are absolutely unrelated. The ration of the nursing mother should be qualitative, balanced, contain all the necessary substances and trace elements. Enter for yourself the fasting days once a week.
- Find the positive aspects of your present state. Now you are more feminine than ever.
Yes, the sensations after childbirth are not very pleasant, but the birth of a new life is a huge holiday in the life of a married couple. There are women who recover very quickly, literally in 3-4 months and the figure comes back to normal, and the emotional state returns to the same sensations, and after the birth of sex such pairs begin in two weeks, and for some this process can last for many years. But it's worth a little work and the baby will have happy parents and a strong family.