Glossy magazines without fear and reproach freely describe the benefits of sex three together, or thoroughly understand all the advantages and disadvantages of vibrators. Almost every preschool child knows what critical days are, how and what to protect from unwanted pregnancy.
We are all liberated, no longer blush at the word sex, penis, masturbation. Sexual consciousness has changed. Is it so good, has the attitude to intimate life changed radically? Quite often, now the question is debated whether sex is possible only after the wedding.
And interestingly, despite the general awareness and sexual literacy, there are ardent proponents of virgin purity. These are people who adhere to strict morals, zealously guarding the institution of marriage; deeply religious individuals, to whom faith does not allow to have intimate relations before the wedding. The greater part of the people, believe that in our modern world, this is simply not possible, not realistic and nobody needs.
Supporters of chaste relationships, defending their dogmas, rely on the fact that this custom did not arise suddenly. It has long been believed that the girl before the wedding should be without blemish. With this attitude, the wedding itself becomes a more significant event in life, rather than for those who practiced free mores. Perhaps there is a sound grain in this, but the question still remains controversial.
If you recall all the same notorious "age-old" times, how many couples have played a wedding for mutual love? The attitude towards marriage was strict though controversial. I will quote a friend by correspondence and patron of PI Tchaikovsky, Baroness von Meck: "I look at marriage as an inevitable evil that can not be avoided, so all that remains is to make a good choice." No comments. As a rule, representatives of "house-building" in general reject the sensual side of sexual relations, explaining this by the fact that it is necessary to treat sex only as a way to continue the genus. True, they are silent that deprivation of virginity - this is one of the rather strong ways to psychologically bind a man to himself. Of course, it means that one of the partners, by default - a man, already has experience of intimate relationships. Perhaps, since the first sexual intercourse with a woman is usually accompanied by pain, it is also an extra reminder to her of the predominant role of men. True, this is all speculation. But we do not set a goal to get to the truth. Just want to analyze what sex after the wedding.
Now among modern youth there is a tendency, mainly among girls, some fashion for chastity. More and more in the media, we come across statements that the girls intend to start sexual relations only after the wedding. Here, motives and motives remain unexplained. What is the basis for this belief and belief? What influenced this choice: religious beliefs, strict family upbringing, one's own convictions and personal values in relation to sex in general. Or maybe it's just a tribute to fashion, or the usual desire to attract, thus, to yourself attention.
Do such girls think about what will happen after the wedding? Will she be happy in marriage with someone she loved only this time platonic? With those who are irrevocably convinced of the correctness of the choice of abstinence before marriage, everything is clear. The strength of their faith does not allow them to think about such trifles as happiness. And anyway, here the understanding of "happiness" itself differs radically from those who profess a more free relationship. We will not be hypocrites, why hide that there are undoubted advantages over the fact that before the wedding partners were in intimate connection. Then in their lives, besides romance and love, there was only sex, not overshadowed by mutual household grinding. Already at this stage they knew each other, understood and made the appropriate conclusions - whether it is necessary to go even further and bring the matter to the wedding. That's practical advantage: there will not be a ruined family, unfortunate abandoned children.
Now the question: is there sex after the wedding, we can answer unequivocally. It happens! I want to make one more small remark about the quality of such sex. Imagine that the wedding is over, ahead of the mysterious first wedding night. Well, if everything goes well. And if a man grieves: an ideal new wife does not satisfy, and most teach all the wisdom of sex does not want. And you can not hire teachers here. Conclusion: either a mistress, or a divorce, or all together. On the other hand, we have a young wife. It may happen that suddenly, only after the wedding, she discovers that her lover has a micro penis, or he is too quick to finish. And sexual fantasies and preferences of some individuals can simply enter into a stupor! Examples of mass. Here, conflicts, irritation and remorse begin, as a result of all this - treason, deceit and betrayal. A family boat and look overturned. But all this could be avoided.
In no case do we advocate sexual promiscuity! All the same, it's up to you: no one can convince, persuade a self-confident, self-confident person. We just considered whether sex is possible only after the wedding: the pros and cons of this problem. And you, before you start to take decisive action, you need to carefully think, evaluate, calculate the degree of risk. Yes, and "straws podstelit" never hurts. The main thing is not to rush - neither in thoughts, nor in actions.