The other half is compulsory


Why is the search for the second half the goal of our whole life? How to find the love of a lifetime? Search or just sit and wait? Search, looking into the face of every man and ask if you are my destiny - it's stupid. He does not know whether he is your fate or the woman who is coming to your meeting. He also does not know how you are, who is his destiny.

I like one Greek parable about the fact that people were not what they are now. And they had four arms, four legs, two faces and the signs of both sexes, that is, there was a woman and a man, they were connected, they were one. Accordingly, they were stronger, and more enduring, smarter. They could reproduce themselves.

This did not please the gods, and then Zeus decided to disconnect them. With one blow of lightning, he divided these humanlike creatures and scattered on the Earth. And now we must wander around the Earth and look for our other halves, bumping into strangers. Sooner or later the second half will be sure , but on the way to this half we experience so much pain, resentment, how many tears we shed, how many are mistaken, thinking about someone else's half that, here it is! He is my half. And he, it turns out, is also looking for her, his mate, and, stumbling upon you, was just mistaken, only slightly. And you made a mistake, the pain pierces your heart, your heart breaks at the seams and breaks like a small porcelain figurine.

Every person is born and grows up to find his soul mate and devotes all his precious life to this goal, wanders around the earth and seeks his soul. For each person, this goal takes a certain place in life. At someone it primary, and at someone secondary. Even if a person denies it all, and says that this is all nonsense, he still hopes in the depths of his soul to find the love of the whole life in a miracle. Throughout our lives we search, we wander in search of the unknown, just like in the fairy tale "find me that, I do not know what, bring me that, I do not know what."

And how do you know that he is the one who is needed? How do you know that the other half was found? Maybe it's enough to find someone with whom you can combine life with the bonds of a stamp in your passport and give birth to children, start chickens and plant carrots? Perhaps this is the half that we are ready to search for life. But after all, people get married and get divorced through, if not even a couple of months, but in a couple of years. They utter the words of an oath, that I will be near in sorrow, and in joy, until death part us. Yes, of course, these are just words that used to be sacred, but now they are just words, it's a tradition.

A man offers his hand and heart, and after a couple of months he leaves for another woman, or simply leaves without explaining anything, taking both and taking your heart. Or a woman who keeps the hearth, escapes from her husband, or simply leaves, saying that she is tired of everything, having broken his heart and all the plates in the house. How can you get bored with the person you chose? After all, you said: "Yes, I agree." Nobody forced you. And before the wedding, you did not meet the day, and not two. People before the wedding meet for years, they begin to live together, they already know each other better than themselves. So why does the oath and stamp in the passport break long-term relations?

It is possible that there are no unsuccessful marriages. Leaving the family we are still looking for better than what we have. After all, a person is so arranged that he does not always have what he has, and then the proverb "the greed of the fraera has ruined" is triggered. And having lost already weeping, but will return, pride does not allow. Pride is a powerful sense of self-respect, and we take actions against pride below our dignity. The more powerful is the sense of self-esteem in us, the higher is our high-raised nose, and the more we do not see what's going on below our nose. And below our nose is a second half on his knees with a bouquet of roses and with tears in his eyes he wants to return, but we do not see it. The hurt ego closes our eyes, and we cease to see what is and begin to see the opposite. Because of this feeling, all relationships are falling apart, and it does not allow us to return what is so dear to us, and because of it we believe that we have made the wrong choice that this person is not at all the goal of our whole life. One word, one phrase can hurt our pride, and the grievance inflicted on our self-esteem can ruin everything that we so diligently cherished and kept.

And if, even realizing that all grievances are forgotten, one should not consider that there is no road back. The road back always exists, as well as forward. After all, when you go on the street on the sidewalk, the pavement behind you does not fold and does not disappear. You can turn around at any time and go back. Simply people, persuading and comforting themselves, came up with this expression: "there is no way back". The road is always there, and back and forth and left and right and a whole bunch of directions that you only need to choose. In life, the road is always there, you just need to learn how to turn around when you need it.

And so, when you come back, you can regain the second half, which you left recently or long ago. We need to learn how to say and hear the word "forgive" once again. To meet each other - is this the secret of good relations?