My three-year-old son always asks me to play my mobile phone. When due to circumstances I, sometimes, have to refuse him, he raises a cry. How to deal with this?
It is difficult for the kid to understand why some toy is allowed to play, then it is forbidden. Inconsistent behavior of parents does not lead to anything good. We should not allow such situations. Never let the child play with what you can later refuse. In this situation, be persistent. Option - to replace your phone with an old device.
My mother reproaches me for giving too many children toys. She believes that they should be given only on holidays. And what is the opinion of specialists in this regard?
Your mother is not entirely right. If you have such an opportunity, you need to give your child joy not only on New Year and birthday, but also simply because you have a need to please the baby. Of course, to a reasonable extent. And most importantly, do not manipulate the purchase of toys by the child's behavior. No need to put a baby condition: "If you do ..., then I ..." It is better to reward the child unexpectedly for him, with the words: "I love you so much! You were so good today! Hold it! ".
My son does not go to bed without a teddy bear. He flatly refuses to go without him in the car. Is it worth pandering to his whims? My childhood also had favorite toys, but that I behave as he ...
The situation should not cause you unrest. It's even good that your child has such a toy with which he feels safe. Psychologists believe that the presence of a toy "pet" helps the child overcome the fear of loneliness, fall asleep. He can entrust his innermost thoughts to him. Specialists even advise to acquire such a toy, especially if the child has increased anxiety and impressionability. By the way, such "friends-girl-friends" are often in the form of soft bears, zaek, dogs - reflections of animate creatures. Animate, but not able to speak like a man. So most often it's not dolls. And, of course, rarely when they become robots, transformers and the like.
Do not forget that aggressive games can not be neglected, you need to monitor their content and safety for children. Direct children's aggression against the "world evil".
How better to deal with old, broken toys and with those of which the child has already "grown"?
Getting rid of unnecessary toys you need to observe two rules. First, never force the child to throw away toys, even if they are broken. With each of them, the baby has positive emotions and experiences. These toys were his friends, partners in games. Such an approach can injure a child. If there is still a need for a joint ejection, it's better to cheat, tell them what you collect, take them first to the master who will repair them, and then give them to children who have no toys at all. So they will be given a "second life" - everyone will be happy. Secondly, do not throw away toys at your own discretion. By chance you can deprive the child of your favorite toys. That she was just like that, you might not even have guessed - she might look unattractive and even broken.
The child paints only "warrior", plays only in militarized toys - it is better to turn to a child psychotherapist. He will help understand the cause of this behavior and deal with it.
My friend scolded me for buying a violet elephant (4 years) for my daughter. But what's wrong with that? After all, children love everything bright?
That the child is not distorted perception of the world, try not to buy a baby crimson mice and green bears, much less "strange" characters; Think about how clear this toy will be to your baby. Children prefer those who reflect the reality that is familiar to them. And no matter how shaken your imagination set "Doll-fashionista", which includes copies of accessories for show business, your four-year-old daughter will be more likely to play with the navel with a bath. Thanks to our advice to parents on the choice of toys for children you can understand and understand much.
I am absolutely against military toys, that is, military. A husband willingly buys them to his son. Our views are not just cardinally different. We have adopted irreconcilable positions. A little more and it will come to a divorce. Who is right?
Each of you has the right to his point of view regarding paramilitary and aggressive toys. Personally, you should think that often a paramilitary toy has a positive effect on the child's psyche - it gives an opportunity to react in a "legal" form to the natural aggression present in any baby. Your child faces a lot of bans every day: you can not offend a cat at home, although it is scratched, and in the kindergarten - a girl who, incidentally, bites, on the street ... Where to spill all these grievances? Games "Shooting" - a great way out.
And in addition, the feeling of being a "winner" will have a positive impact on self-esteem.
But aggressive and paramilitary games are immediately directed to the socially acceptable channel. The purpose of his "tra-ta-ta-ta-ta" should be to protect loved ones, save a wonderful princess, protect animals from poachers. In this case, "aggressive" games, in your opinion, will only have a positive impact. The kid learns that you need to be a defender and, when you grow up, will actually be able to protect loved ones and the weak. Unlike those who were completely deprived of such games in their childhood.
My child always arranges a "concert" in a toy store. It asks that it is rarely possible to get out of there without buying. To refuse simply it is unreal, and on the other hand, I am afraid to spoil it.
Your fears are correct. In hysterics, which are rolled up by some children in stores, parents, first of all, are to blame. Not all babies are able to control their desires and emotions as adults, especially very few. And to test this ability is not worth it. Buying a toy every time, you will not only spoil the child, but also fix the wrong model of behavior. And if every time you take away from the store without a toy, you can also hurt the psyche. The best way is to try not to drive a child to where there are so many temptations. Only when you are ready to buy your child a gift, lead him to the store and give him a holiday.
My two-year-old daughter flatly refuses to share her toys with other children. How can you teach her this?
In two years time to share, has not yet come. Children's egocentrism up to three years is a common thing. A kid has the right not to give his toy until he has played enough himself. This, by the way, will help to understand why other children do not give him their toys. A crumb perceives his things as a part of himself. For a baby, he himself and his toys are one. A grown-up child will simply know that the things he owns will not cease to be him if someone takes them in hand. But after three years, the child begins to develop such personal qualities as kindness, the desire to make a person pleasant, and your task is to encourage it in him. Year 3-4, children begin to have a desire not only to share, but also to make gifts. And it makes sense to talk with the child about what toys you can give, and which ones - not. After all, you are unlikely to be happy if your daughter gives a friend on the playground his scooter.
Now there are a lot of similar toys in the stores, at the same time their prices are very different. Perhaps this depends on how much the product is quality? Please list the main criteria for the safety of toys.
Safety is the first thing parents should pay attention to when buying a toy. That is, first you evaluate the toy in terms of its safety and only, then think about other issues.
Acquire only a certified product.
Pay attention to the manufacturer. Well, if the manufacturer of this toy you have met in different stores, and not one year. It makes sense to get acquainted with the names of the leading brands of toys.
Remember about age characteristics (for example, children under three years old should not buy toys that contain small parts).
Hold the toy in your hands, appreciate its strength, pay attention to the weight of toys, especially rattles.
Pay attention to what is stuffed with a soft toy. The ideal option - sintepon (foam in six months can begin to release harmful substances). If the toy has small balls, evaluate the strength of the matter from which the toy is sewn. Pay attention to how tightly sewn your eyes, nose.
Smell plastic and rubber toys (do not be afraid to make others laugh), you can even try them on the teeth (if you, of course, are allowed). The smell and taste of you are alarming - it is better to abandon their purchase, they can be toxic.
For all toys that have been certified in Russia, the Rostest badge is attached and an instruction in Russian is attached. Take the rule of reading labels!
My daughter does not want to play development games (for example, with a designer, puzzles, lacing). For days he plays with soft toys - then the kindergarten will arrange, then feed them. How to make it play useful games?
Your daughter should not be forced to play useful games. This you can completely repel interest in them. Take a break. And also remember that the playroom of the child should not resemble a school room. And although the period of up to 5 years is very favorable for the development of intelligence, memory, perception, this does not mean that now only special "educational toys" are needed. In reality, children receive most of the experience in the process of games and free exploration of the world around them. This is how a love for knowledge is instilled. Each seemingly "idle" game has a deep developing meaning.
As a development aid, you can use any book with pictures.
My six-year-old daughter begs me to buy her a dog. There are no medical contraindications. But I have a big suspicion that she will treat her like a toy. Advise how to avoid this?
Your fears are partly true, but that does not mean that you do not need to buy an animal. Talk with the daughter about the needs of a living being - at six years old she is quite able to understand it. Charge your daughter with simple duties to care for the animal, for example, to monitor the presence of water in the bowl. And everyone will be happy.
My 4-year-old son likes to play girly toys. The husband is in a panic. I do not see anything terrible in this. Who is right?
Calm down your husband. In 4 years there is no cause for concern. Children tend to be interested in a variety of toys, including those that are traditionally played by children of the opposite sex. Do not shame the child or forbid him to play "girly" games. Most likely, the kid will satisfy his interest and again start playing the toys of this "macho". In the future, it will matter how much time he pays for games "with dolls" and whether he plays in boyish.
Psychologists advise not to surround the baby with a large number of toys. This dispels attention, and as a result, the kid does not play with any one.
The children's room of our friends is simply littered with toys. But their daughter does not play with them. And they all buy new ones. How many toys should be around the crumbs?
It is difficult to give a concise and monosyllabic answer. The number of toys depends on the age of the child, and on their functional purpose. And your friends, you can advise to follow the range of toys in the nursery and periodically change it. "Change" means not only to update. Experienced parents clean toys, to which the baby does not touch for several days. Extracted from mezzanines after a couple of months, they cause new interest in the child.
How not to make a mistake in choosing a toy for your baby, because the assortment is so great? It is difficult to imagine what criteria should be guided first.
Think about the development of this toy: sensory perception, horizon, thinking, emotional development, communication skills, creativity, personal qualities, self-control skills ... Having managed to answer this question, remember what toys are already in the arsenal of the baby?
Perhaps, for the development of this or that quality, crumbs already have enough toys, and this time it is better to buy a toy with a different purpose.
Remember, what kind of toy the child dreamed of, which you paid attention to in the store, what Grandfather Frost wrote about.
Remember what toys he remembered from the children of your friends and acquaintances.
Be sure to ask yourself, but you yourself would like to receive such a toy at the appropriate age? If the child is too young, think about what she might like him.