Formation of the child's personality in the first six years of his life is an important stage in the further development of the person's personality. During this period of life there is active development and formation of the child's brain, the baby can be occupied, interested and trained without any special stimulation. Nevertheless, this does not mean that the child needs only to be educated and trained, do not forget that childhood, colorful and bright, is only once in a lifetime, therefore everything that your child does should bring him joy and maximum pleasure.
As a rule, many parents in the first years of their child's life start learning and development on their own, and that it is time to learn something to remember before the school, when it's already "oh how it's time." Then active learning begins, which does not bring particular benefits. I remember the situation when I came to visit my friends, and their daughters had to learn the multiplication table. How sad it was to look at that picture when a child with tears taught a tablet of multiplication, but for the fact that the girl does not remember everything well, her parents shouted at her. If you look at the origins of the problem, then most likely you would have to scold the parents themselves, because it was not lazy to learn their "two-two-four", and they were too lazy a couple of years ago in the form of an interesting and entertaining game to present your kid a useful for future learning material.
So, in order not to get to the point of tears, whims and dentures, it would not hurt to take on the important consistent and qualitative development, upbringing and shaping of the preschooler's personality, and this should be done practically from diapers. If your baby is already not the first day stomping, do not despair, as they say: "Better late than never". In any case, all the training and development of the child, started before the school, will bring its useful fruit in the future.
Development and formation of the child's personality for up to one year
The child learns the world around the first year of his life, masteres the basic elements of tactile perception of the world, speech and physical skills, and his psychomotor development is realized. Communicating with the baby during this period of his life is an important aspect of upbringing. Lullaby foam, mother's smile, gentle hugs - this is what is so necessary in early infancy. It is very important for the mother to voice every action, so the kid gradually accumulates his rich vocabulary. And if you think that when the kid does not say anything, then he does not understand anything, then, most likely, you do not understand your child. A child under the age of one knows, understands and thinks more than you can imagine. On you depends only on how much quality and useful information you give him.
It is very important, at the age of up to one year, to master the first developmental games, for example, to add pyramids, cubes, in the course of the game to establish the relationship between some action and the result of this action. For example, when you throw something, it always falls. How does it fall? Loud and not very much. That is, the object falls and produces a sound, depending on the material from which it is made, and on its dimensions. It would seem that from the long-familiar processes you can make a lot of important conclusions, which is exactly what your child is doing. For example, when a dog barks outside the window, then, most likely, you just do not notice it, because for many years have already got used to these sounds. Your baby, as a rule, clearly catches both barking dogs, and many other sounds, because for him it is a process of knowing the world around him.
The period of development of the child from one year to three years
After a year, one can say, the rapid development of the child begins. He begins to actively replenish his vocabulary. And even if your baby is not very willing to talk, do not despair. All the kids are different. Simply with patience continue to talk to him about everything in the world. He understands you very well and, believe me, he hears and hears.
From the age of one year, the game plays an increasingly important role in the upbringing and formation of personality. Children of infancy and toddler age participate in various subject games in which the child operates beautiful, bright toys and objects, first carrying out the simplest actions (shifting, throwing, etc.), and later watching the changes in toys (destruction of buildings from cubes , as well as pyramids, the movement of clockwork toys, etc.) and trying to establish the cause of these changes.
At this age, an increasing role is played by games involving as many movements as possible. Do not neglect this child's book. My daughter at the age of one year and three months fell in love with books, which simply made mom, dad and grandmother read her these books. Do not buy books that are meaningful, informative, with a large text load. For toddlers, there are a lot of books-cards with short rhymes, picture books with names of animals, household items, plants, toys, etc. This is just the best option for early development.
In the upbringing of the baby, it is important to remember and familiarize yourself with the moral principles and rules of etiquette. Do not forget to tell your child: "a pleasant appetite" when he sits down to eat or "good night" when he goes to bed. Tell your child what you can and can not do. The child should already understand that not everything that he wants to do is good and allowed. Only here to offend and punish the crumb is not worth it, because the kid will cease to understand the word, and get used to screaming and physical punishment, as to the usual communication. The same applies to the education of children of senior preschool age. It is very important to form friendly and trustful relationships between parents and their children.
Age from year to three is also characterized by the fact that the child often teases and naughty. This is the characteristic of a given age. Parents need the maximum patience, because a small child only knows the world around him. And you do not need to raise a child with the "carrot and stick" method, praise and prohibitions, because you too were small and passed the same stage of your development. The more you forbid, the more the child will do for evil. No wonder they say that the forbidden fruit is sweet. Simply everything that you absolutely can not do or just can not do, you need either to hide it as much as possible from the kid, or explain in an accessible form why it is forbidden.
From three to six - "Why?"
Age from three to six years is a period of certain tasks and tests. Shout, yelp, or evasion, the use of the omnipotent "no", attempts to control reality with only one great desire - this is exactly what should happen at this age. And only spiritual power causes the child to act in a similar way, distorting which, you can get serious problems in the future. The entire energy potential of the child should be channeled into a useful channel, to the fulfillment of those tasks and tests that will teach the acquisition of mental and emotional balance.
A child of between three and five years of age has a very strong intention. The kid talks about his intention and does everything possible to get what he wants. The adult is more sensitive to what desires are, and which should not be translated into reality. But here, if in early childhood to suppress and stop the child's sense of intent, then it will be hard for him to believe in his strength and ability in adult life.
John Gray advises to adhere to the following principles of positive parenting: different from others, making mistakes, wanting more and showing negative emotions is normal, expressing your disagreement is also normal, but you should not forget that mom and dad are the main ones.
A child under the age of three is a small researcher, worthy of praise, explored and approved. Do not be lazy to find useful answers to the favorite "why" of your baby, you want your child to grow a full-fledged developed personality, but this, in many ways, depends on you, dear parents.
Parallel: child development - development of parents for the benefit of all
The more parents deal with their child, the easier everything is given, for whatever he undertakes. For some adults, it is not at all interesting to study, say, "simple" things: to make applications, to draw primitive pictures, to count to ten, to learn the alphabet, etc. But it's very interesting to do with your child! You seem to be returning anew twenty years ago! I remember myself: when I was 7-8 years old, then I really wanted to read adult books and solve adult problems, and now, when everything is clear and understandable, I immerse myself immensely in the world of childhood with my beloved daughter! I wish you the same!
Literature for Responsible Parents
In order to understand as deeply as possible the features of the development, upbringing and formation of the personality of a preschool child of this article, how little. There is a lot of interesting and useful literature that can help young parents raise a happy and successful personality. I will not give you a list of all possible and accessible books for reading, but here are a few of the most interesting after all I will recommend. It:
- Danilova Lena «Encyclopedia of educational games»
- Ledloff Jean "How to raise a happy child"
- Masaru Ibuka "After Three Is Late"
- Alexander Vasyutin "The best book on raising children"
- Irina Manichenko "10 laws of education"
- Irina Manichenko "10 Secrets of Education"