American psychologists believe that today almost half of the changes - on the "conscience" of the Internet. They are echoed also by lawyers, arguing that in recent years cyberstrikes have become the main cause of the disintegration of families. In Europe, too, sound the alarm: in England, a third of young men and almost the same number of women do without real sex, contented with a virtual novel - betrayal on the Internet and communication on dating sites, social networks, ICQ and chat rooms, most often there is a virtual romance - in the Internet. Danes: almost 65% of the adult population indulge in cybersex. Our traitors and fans of virtual strawberries have not yet been calculated, but psychologists say that one in five has problems related to communication on the Web, including sexual topics. Why do people voluntarily get stuck in this very web and can virtual novels be considered treason?
Thirst for acquaintance
According to some advanced Internet users, the virtual novel - betrayals on the Internet has a lot of advantages compared to real passions. Unlimited choice of partners. Anyone who can distinguish a computer from an iron can make a novel in cyber space. Before you - the whole world: blondes, brunettes, fat, thin, romantics, realists ... You want in your city, you want - on another continent. Fast, convenient and simple. As Beatrice Mylham, a researcher at the University of Florida, noted, "With the development of cybersex, there is no longer any need for secret trips and cheap motels: a network meeting can take place in the same room as the spouse or spouse." That's why some users manage to flirt simultaneously with several dozen (!) People.
Absence of obligations
If the correspondence partner is disappointed or bored, it's enough just to put him on the blacklist, and he will not "get it" any more with his messages. And you do not have any quarrels, hysterics and clarification of the relationship - that is, all that inevitably occurs when you break in real life.
You can try on any image. Feel insecure because of the fullness or age? It does not matter, in the virtual introduces a sexy blonde for 25 years. And for reliability, we'll put a photo of a little-known American actress. Or take a photo of our own so that the native husband does not recognize. However, the interlocutor on the other side of the screen can do the same. There were cases when "passionate admirer of brunettes" turned out to be 70-year-old pensioners. No such piercings are immune to any fan of virtual adventures.
Sturdiness . Internet communication creates the illusion of anonymity, so users allow themselves on the web such that they would never be allowed in real life. Here you can describe your sexual sensations: both wet panties, and discharges on the body, bringing the virtual partner to orgasm.
Virtual risks
Virtual love with the same enthusiasm is twisted and men and women, and most often "burdened" family. Someone quarreled with a half, someone thirsts for new sensations, someone lacks communication ... Studies show that cyber-passions most excite men over 40 and ... housewives of all ages, including young mothers.
As for gentlemen, here as in an anecdote, when a young hot guy persuades forty-year-old men to swim to an island full of naked girls, but older comrades answer him: "Why, why? And from here it's pretty clear!" Housekeepers are oppressed by monotonous routine and lack of attention of the spouse (though, most often for inattention of ladies take elementary fatigue after working day). So they run to the Internet - "unwind." Most believe that online novels are an innocent entertainment, almost a child's play. But psychologists have a different opinion.
First , you can fall in love with your Internet partner, because the more people communicate, the more they trust each other. There is an emotional attachment, which can prove to be more destructive than naked sex. The writer has a feeling that on the other side of the display he is understood better than in his own family: he will be asked about health, and about the mood, and even flowers will be given (no matter what virtual). And with a rich imagination, a pen-and-pen partner will seem an angel, completely devoid of shortcomings.
Secondly , virtual flirting is no different from real betrayal. British psychologists came to this conclusion after a series of interviews, during which it was found out that 51% of people consider network passions as betrayal, while 84% are convinced that a deceived partner will certainly feel pain, resentment, disappointment and loss of trust, that is, everything a person experiences , having learned about the betrayal of his half. And from here to the divorce is not far.
Thirdly , for virtual sex, you can "get hooked", as on drugs or alcohol, considering real love relationships as fresh, and "terrestrial" partner as a bore and conservative. And Internet addiction, like any other, is difficult to treat.
Viva is romantic!
Therefore, before responding to the sexual appeal of a certain Andrey from Kiev or shaking hands tapping the answer to the mysterious Dan from Uzhgorod, weigh a thousand times. Maybe it's better to turn off the computer, go to a partner and make "it" as temperamentally as during a honeymoon? It is not out of place to listen to psychologists:
Every third virtual novel grows into a real one. Are you sure you're ready to go this far?
If your internet addiction is caused by boredom d and low self-esteem, change your life urgently: sign up for shaping, for dancing, start repair eventually. Virtual passions do not solve your problems, and drive them even deeper!
The best way to return to the relationship is the old romance - periodically arrange sexual weekends (even better - spend part of the vacation together, without children, grandparents). Go at least to the Maldives, even at the dacha (just do not build a shed there, do not dig beds and pick up cucumbers) and enjoy each other's company!
If virtual communications are alien to you, but you suspect a partner in them, this is not a reason to break the keyboard on his head. Perhaps he went to a dating site or chat just out of curiosity. Are you sure that he has a real virtual affair? Act wisely, because network novels do not just happen - it's a consequence of problems with a constant partner.
Do not spy, trying to find out who your husband is talking to, and do not give him "heart-to-heart talks." According to psychologists, a wise woman in such a situation will pretend that nothing happens, playing the role of an ideal wife. If the offended wife starts to arrange hysterics,
expelling a mean deceiver from home, he will leave: "You yourself wanted it." By the way, if this happened, wait for despair. Most likely, your chosen one will return soon. The peculiarity of virtual novels - betrayals on the Internet is that they flash instantly, but also go off just as quickly: a beautiful photo on the display badly correlates with reality. First, a man with surprise will find that the waist of his virtual passion in reality resembles a berth tumb, then he will start to get annoyed by dirty dishes in the kitchen (and his wife had perfect purity!), And then he will quickly collect the suitcase. Life is sobering instantly!
Assume mystery. This concerns not only a new image, although it is not worth neglecting it, but also a change in the way of life. Loved the calm colors? Wear bright! Did not you like to cook? Surprise your husband with exquisite dishes. Were they soft and fluffy? Learn the role of a female vamp - the more drastic the change of image, the more interest the spouse.
Return the bed!
Recommendations are effective for ladies whose husbands are fond of Internet-strawberries only. Many people consider online pornography a kind of virtual change, but sexologists say that there is nothing terrible in this - a strong sex needs visual sexual stimulation.
Especially since most gentlemen, as a rule, swagger on porn sites, appetite, and densely and with pleasure "have dinner" already at home with the lawful wife.
It's bad, however, if pornography becomes a substitute for normal sex-that's when the beloved hubby really needs to be urgently pulled out of the virtual embraces of silicone beauties. Better - with the help of a sexologist.
And as a prophylactic add acuity to the intimate life. Sometimes you can watch together "adult movies" - this, as noted by experts, will excite a partner more than viewing alone. Yes, and there will be a chance to apply the theory in practice. And do not forget proven means - new poses, sex toys and, of course, candid underwear.
Crises of family sex
Chronic mutual irritation is a bad sign. Especially dangerous if the crisis catches up with a couple on ... the third year of marriage. Stormy passions last, alas, from six months to two years. In order not to lose interest, you should be associated with something other than sex, such as the birth of a child.
... Seventh - both men and women get tired of the boredom of family life. To her husband did not go to seek the volcano of passions on the side, you'll have to ... become a volcano yourself.
... Twentieth year. People part with half a lifetime. The reason is loneliness alone. Children have grown, like nothing already unites. General hobbies will help you here: building a house, traveling. And sex is the best way to remind each other of love!
Five signs of treason (real or virtual)
Being in the role of a deceived wife is not very pleasant. Psychologists advise paying attention to indirect signs indicating a possible treason.
1. The habit of lingering after work, especially if before it was not; regular visits to friends you do not know.
2. Strange behavior during telephone conversations: the partner seeks
somewhere to go with the phone, do not say who called, erases SMS, etc. The same applies to the computer: the spouse locks with a laptop in the bathroom, does not allow you to view his mail, move closer to the screen, when he works, permanently deletes its Internet history. 3. Frequent hanging on chats and in social networks, too many friends of the opposite sex on his page.
4. Unusual sexual behavior: the spouse either by all means avoids intimacy with you, or, on the contrary, solicits at every convenient and even inconvenient case, which was not observed before.
5. Suddenly captious attitude to his own appearance: careful selection of a suit, perfume, buying expensive linen, etc.