In our world, the theme of male betrayal is so widespread that, probably, only the most naive girls piously believe in the ability of their beloved to be faithful to her alone to the grave. I want, of course, to believe in the best and it's very painful to face the betrayal of a loved one whom you completely trust. However, why, after the betrayal is discovered, we women only begin to look for reasons and ask ourselves "why do men lie to their wives and change?".
The man is polygamous.
Firstly, it is worth considering that, despite many things in common, men and women have, nevertheless, differences in outlooks and their attitude to the same event. Therefore, the very concept of "treason" is examined and evaluated by them in different ways. Often you can hear the opinion of men that they do not change their wives because they can have sex with another woman, because they do not like that woman, so they do not betray the feelings of their wife. In this belief, men are firmly convinced, and it is difficult, almost impossible, to convince them.
By nature, a man is polygamous, do not forget about this fact. Of course, it is difficult to find an excuse for them, but it is worth considering this as a mitigating circumstance for him.
We will try to understand the main reasons why men change.
The first point is the monotony of personal relationships, which are called "fatigue from gray everyday life". Here, male treason is seen as an introduction of novelty, dilution of uniformity and monotony of life with paints, a breath of fresh air. Think, maybe, really, you meet him in the same home dressing gown with the same expression, do not betray much importance to your appearance, or only when you go out on a visit or work remember that you need to put on a fresh blouse and slightly make up. And remember, when was the last time you did to him some pleasant surprise? How long have you changed your home environment and just walked together to a restaurant, a park, a visit?
The second reason is a feeling of sexual dissatisfaction, a lack of love for oneself from your woman. It also happens: a woman believes that she cares about her man by ironing, washing, preparing for him, and he must be in the seventh heaven from such love. But do not forget that the food needs not only the stomach of a man, but his feelings, emotions, too, should be fueled by interest in his partner. Naturally, if a woman is cold, reserved, rarely allows her man to get sexual satisfaction with her, especially if any fantasies in bed are a definitive taboo for her, then he will most likely seek consolation on the side. Women who want to preserve the love and loyalty of their husbands should think about their sexual development and emancipation with the only one with whom she so much wanted to share and create together without concealment, so why be embarrassed?
The third reason is a man's desire to show off to his friends or prove to himself that he is a real "macho" and can master any woman he wants to seduce. Most often this thinking appears in men 40-50 years old, when the decline of sexual activity is approaching, a man feels it and urgently tries to catch up and proves to himself and everyone that he is still young, active and in demand from the opposite sex. However, this kind of thinking is also found in young guys.
The fourth reason for infidelity is jealousy, resentment, even anger toward your woman. A man believes that his betrayal is absolutely justified, if his life partner is constantly unhappy with him, often "saws" him for trifles and spoils the mood. Here, the woman should analyze the situation and try to look at everything from the outside, objectively: is it really such a "Megera" and it is worth being kind or, just a man looking for an excuse for parting with that which accuses her of pickiness, and does not try to establish an attitude , mutual understanding with his chosen one. It happens that a man changes bad luck, if a woman once betrayed him.
In general, it is possible to enumerate for a long time the various causes of male infidelity, these four were the main in prevalence. Each case is individual. Therefore, one should not make hasty conclusions without studying the causes and consequences of the relationships of each individual pair. Men usually lie when relations have reached a dead end. Here, perhaps, it is not necessary to neglect the help of a qualified psychologist who can specify exactly your mistakes, having corrected which, everything can be settled in the most favorable way.
A man is a longtime hunter, who needs thrills, bursts of emotion. Perhaps for us women, the warmth and tranquility of the home is happiness, however, it is also worth remembering about the needs of your beloved man. And it's not a secret that a man loves his eyes, so taking care of his appearance will add to the love and respect of your man, if he really loves you.