Ways to increase self-esteem

Mind, will, intuition. Many believe that being confident is not blushing in front of an audience and never getting behind a word in your pocket. In fact, the state of confidence is "done" by the intellectual, emotional-volitional and intuitive components. In order to feel like a fish in water in any situation, you need to have a sufficient level of intelligence, be able to control your emotions, actions and combine existing knowledge with feelings, which is called intuition. And still always set a goal, go to her without fear of difficulties, and give others the opportunity to express themselves, not condemning or criticizing them.

What distinguishes self-confident people? As a rule, they are successful. For a long time already the words "confidence" and "success" have become synonymous. Those who do not leave the ground from under the feet at the sight of the interlocutor, have charisma, they are energetic, they know how to make contacts and carry out what has been started to the end. Such people are able to share work and rest. If you need to work hard, neither melancholy with depression, nor prolonged illness with the mountains of tablets will not become a hindrance. But when the time of rest comes, they without the slightest remorse will disconnect the mobile phone and indulge in pleasant idleness. The planks of the height of self-esteem should be sought in childhood. There are several points that shape it.

Prenatal period and childbirth
At the basis of uncertainty, according to psychologists, is the mother's fear of future motherhood. He appears before birth, because being in the womb, the baby feels how much he wants and expects. If a mother thinks about giving a new person to the world or doing an abortion, the baby first feels this unpleasant feeling and it is likely that in adult life he will be distrustful and apprehensive to the surrounding people.
Until recently, midwives clapped newborns on the pope, so that they began to cry and began to breathe. What happens? The child was preparing for the birth of 9 months, toil, overcoming the birth canal, and the first thing the world did was hit him. How can he trust him and feel safe? It's good that today such a meeting is not practiced, - psychologists are happy about it.

First creativity. What does it look like? Without a smile, you can not do without it: sometimes a child can paint with what he ate half a day ago. Parents, do not scold him for such an act of self-expression and do not say fu, otherwise from a young age a child may have the conviction that everything created and implemented by him is bad and causes condemnation.
First steps. If the baby crawled for a short time and quickly learned to walk thanks to the support of parents, maybe, in life, he will go confidently. The feeling of support and solid soil underfoot will forever remain with him. How calm and confident you feel in a new team, how to enter a room with strangers depends on whether you were allowed to open lockers in your childhood and put "order" there. It turns out that the ban on the discovery of new horizons remains in memory forever.

The first teacher . She introduces a first-grader into a new world for him, in which, to some extent, she plays the role of mother. It is she who can finally destroy or, conversely, strengthen the faith in yourself of your child. It all depends on whether the class will be divided into excellent pupils and thieves in spirit and in what "caste" will be a child.

... I learn by walking
Self-reliance is based on internal and external factors. The first include knowledge, skills, experience, personal qualities, hobbies. An expensive car, a big country house and a model wife give a feeling of pseudo-confidence. It is interesting that sanguine people stand out as inner confidence - thanks to a positive perception of the world, but choleric people are more likely to be pseudo-confident. It turns out that even in appearance one can distinguish people with high and low self-esteem. Each of them has its own gestures, facial expressions, postures, type of speech, which create the so-called confidence corset.

The path of confident
Step 1. Get rid of fears. The easiest way - to write them on paper, to smile and burn - the fire clears.
Step 2. Keep a diary of success, write down your small victories every day. For example: "Today I said no and I do not feel guilty because of this." To refuse means to have your point of view.
Step 3. Work with quotes. Favorite aphorism will constantly remind you of something important, strengthen your views and build self-confidence.
Step 4. Do what you enjoy, - a hobby, a pleasant pastime, communication with friends. The joy of the results will inspire confidence in yourself.
Step 5. Competently plan your life. Of the daily scheduled, only 60% is usually performed, so correctly prioritize and make reasonable decisions.
Step 6. Set realistic goals, carry them out from the position "I already have it". Remember your condition.
Step 7. Communicate more often with confident people and learn from them self-presentation, gestures, restraint and other qualities that you lack.
Step 8. Write your moral and ethical principles on paper. Your position is the soil, personal opinion, without which it is difficult to imagine a confident person.
Step 9. Sign up for oratory courses, this will help get rid of the fear of public speaking and new people in the environment.
Step 10. Do a simple exercise every day for a few minutes: stand with your back to an even vertical surface (wall), press the back of the head, shoulder blades, heels. This will form a correct posture, you will seem higher, and to high people are treated with respect.