We are hovering in the clouds and dreaming, and the working day flies by unnoticed, and even the displeased grumbling of the chief can not spoil our mood. After all, we are waiting for a romantic date!
But time is inexorably walking, people are getting closer, opening themselves to each other and getting to know each other better, and sooner or later any serious relationship approaches its critical point. It seems that love has not disappeared, but the passion has faded, affection has appeared, and in the beloved person some unpleasant moments began to appear. We begin to notice its shortcomings, annoying habits, etc. And in this case, to keep love is a difficult matter, but it is necessary if you want your relationship to be always bright, interesting, and not boring and insipid, steadily leading to a rupture. Usually, as scientists say, such a turning point comes three years after the beginning of the novel. For three years, any love will exhaust itself, and either it will be replaced by love, or the ways of the former lovers will disperse in different directions.
So what if there is no mutual understanding with a loved one? Many psychologists and various specialists in family relations believe that one can revive relationships with kind words about a loved one. It is necessary to praise your chosen one more often (to be chosen), to praise for all his (her) successes, and to say these words quite sincerely, flattery in such a matter is completely inappropriate! Your favorite decided to surprise you and cook dinner? Even if the dish is burnt and generally cooked incorrectly, it does not matter, because he tried for you! So do not skimp on the kind words, thank him, show how important it is for you! You will make a person pleasant, and such situations bring lovers together, awaken feelings in them. And if you yourself have the opportunity to somehow please your loved one, make it easier for him to do some household chores, do not miss the chance, and show how you love and care for him. And do not forget to make compliments to your loved one, emphasize the femininity of your chosen one and the masculine qualities of your partner. Do compliments just like that, without any reason, but again do not forget about sincerity in dealing with your loved one.
Also, in order to preserve mutual understanding, it is very important to introduce something new and vivid into the relationship, not to yield to the gray routine. Especially it concerns those couples who live together and after a hard day's work return home, squeezed out like a lemon. As a rule, there are no forces left in the evening, and during the working week people get tired so much that all weekends aimlessly lie on the couch with a remote control from the TV in their hands. In this case, it would be nice to gather strength and change the situation. Invite your girlfriend to a movie or restaurant, arrange a romantic evening for her, do not be lazy and make something special for her! You can go to some memorable place for both of you, which will bring pleasant memories of the past. Often very suitable place where you first met or kissed. Believe me, as soon as you take yourself in hand and go somewhere with your loved one, fatigue will take off your hand! To you again will return that mischievous feeling of young love.
Many people, having passed the "candy-bouquet" period, completely forget that gifts are given not only for New Year and Birthday. Small and pleasant gifts are always appropriate! Especially selected with a soul, with a heart, with a sincere desire to surprise a loved one, to cheer him up. Make your half nice, give her some nice little thing, and you'll see that even such a small and, in general, simple step can noticeably revive the relationship with the beloved.
Often, lovers who have been dating and live together for so long have become so used to each other that they already have almost no strong desire to constantly touch their loved one. More precisely, this desire is, but it is not so pronounced. But everyone loves the gentle touch of a loved one! And especially pleasant is a gentle relaxing massage, which is able to give the body a long-awaited rest after a busy day. And it would be great if the lovers did not spare time for fleeting kisses and hugs, because physical contact, as scientifically proven, promotes rapprochement and mutual understanding! Thus, you can combine business with pleasure.
For mutual understanding with the beloved, strangely enough, it is very important that the lovers do not forget about themselves, about their self-esteem and their development. We often surrender to love, devoting all our free time to the object of our adoration, completely forgetting about ourselves and then complaining, they do not like us, they do not understand us. But in order to remain interesting, you need to love yourself and do something for yourself! If you have any hobbies, do not throw them, do them, develop your skills, do not miss the chance to get a promotion at work. It is very useful to have some hobbies that your partner does not share, and which you can do alone or with like-minded friends.
After all, if you always have some kind of corner, some special atmosphere, you will always be attractive to your partner! But this is quite simple, to remain constantly new and a bit unusual. Just do what you love with pleasure, delightfully! Remember that going beyond the relationship is simply necessary, first of all in order to preserve the freshness of the look at the relationship with your loved one, and also to give proper attention to your beloved and, of course, how to miss your beloved half.