I will give a simple example . Its own, just a year ago, simply adored woolen dress, I have not yet worn this winter. It is in perfect condition, but for some reason it seems to me unfashionable, ugly, old somehow. I want to go and buy, albeit almost the same, but new. I think you sometimes feel like that. But there are people, psychologists still call them "bouncers", which need variety constantly. They are interested in trying different things, and in the "non-stop" mode: today one, tomorrow is the second, the day after tomorrow the third. In general, life beats the key! But they will take up a new project, just not to bring the old (not the best reputation in the eyes of the authorities) to the mind, better buy a new TV than repair the old (unreasonable waste), prefer a new acquaintance with the meeting with old friends (sooner or later they will not remain at all). The list can be continued. In general, the outlook is not the most rosy. Most people - "poprygunchikov" craves new impressions and bright unforgettable emotions. Let's see what really stands for a constant thirst for novelty and can this process be slowed down?
Appreciate or discount?
Psychologists say that such "jumping", as a rule, are those who, in childhood and adolescence, have been left unsaid. No, my relatives certainly approved their actions, but they did it with reservations: "Okay, but you could have done better", "Nothing, but you could have done more", "You are able to show the best result." For example, the kid proudly told his mother that he had removed all the toys, and she answered: "Okay, but you did not make your bed." Or the schoolboy informed his parents that he had only two "quads" in this quarter, and his parents said something like "Well done, of course, but your neighbor on the desk generally has only" five ". Try to pull yourself in the next quarter. " That is, the child was not allowed even a few legitimate minutes to rest on his laurels, to enjoy his own, albeit small, but successful, immediately switching his attention to new accomplishments that await him ahead. Thus, he was unconsciously taught not to appreciate, but to depreciate things, people, achievements.
And gradually a person comes to the conclusion that positive results are not so important, once after achieving them, one must immediately start a new task in order to "catch up and overtake".
Slow down the pace
Of course, we can not correct the past. But to change the way of life "Today I'm interested in one thing, and tomorrow completely different" in the present and the future on the shoulder to any person. There would be a will and a little bit of willpower. What do I need to do?
Do not idealize new beginnings. We are looking forward to something new, we are looking forward to how it will be. And it seems to us that the "beautiful far" will in any case be better than reality. Try not to idealize the new projects. If it's still difficult for you, do not think about them at all. Better concentrate on finding those pluses that exist "here and now." Plan your life. Knowing about your peculiarity to throw started at the halfway point, give yourself a promise for some time to continue what has been started, even if you do not want to do this and are already beckoning for new horizons, and see what will come of it.
What if you like it? For example, give yourself a vow that at this place of work you will be delayed, say, for a year; that you will meet regularly with "old" friends once a week. They praised themselves. For all, all the achievements, even if in your opinion, even trivial. And do not limit yourself to simple "Well done" or "Excellent work", use bright and original compliments, they are much better remembered. At first this will happen sooner "on the machine", but gradually you will get involved and begin to get pleasure from this "laudatory" process.
Will you stop interfering?
If such behavior is a sin of someone close to you people, psychologists advise not to criticize the "bouncer", do not take offense and do not call him "to the answer." After all, he was criticized in his time, and that's what it led to! Patience and endurance. You pretend that his non-stop does not bother you at all, concentrate on yourself, do your own business and certainly do not take responsibility for his "tails". As a rule, such a policy of non-interference acts on "bouncers" like a tub of cold water, and they begin to analyze their behavior and work on mistakes.