Treason for a woman has always been and remains a shock. Learning about the betrayal of her husband, in the soul of a woman at the same time fighting such feelings as anger and resentment of her husband, uncertainty in the future and confusion, self-flagellation. There are several ways to get out of this situation. But if the treason itself has not yet happened, what should be then? What if the first signs of flirting only began to manifest itself? What if I discovered an unpleasant fact - a friend flirts with my man?
First, make it clear to yourself that a woman flirting with your spouse can not be called a girlfriend. Such a woman can be a colleague at work, a friend, a former classmate, in general, by anyone, but not just a friend. In order to put everything in its place, you can invite your opponent to the cafe and while you are drinking coffee, speak frankly with her. But this option should be used if the rival is one of the intimate, intimate friends. A frank conversation with a friend in this case will help you either to dispel your suspicions, or to confirm. Perhaps, after a frank conversation, her friend will draw conclusions and wish to keep your friendship. However, this option can be used only if you really have a real friendship.
But most often there is another situation: your husband is flirting with your common friend or acquaintance. In this case, you can talk with the spouse, but only if you have a trusting relationship and tell him what's bothering you. Often in a family where there are also friendly relations between the spouses besides the conjugal bonds, such problems are solved quite easily. If a husband really has someone and he feels certain feelings towards her, he will not lie to you because of sincere respect for you. But if he has someone and he does not feel anything for her, then you can decide together your further actions.
Well, if you love your husband and do not dare to talk to him about your suspicions, then what remains to be done? Wait and follow developments. In the event that you do not doubt that a friend flirts with your spouse, then limit her communication with her at home. But it is better, of course, to nullify any communication with such a friend. If the rival is openly flirting with your spouse before your eyes, then in any case, do not arrange "confrontation" and / or scandals, such a reaction can increase the desire of your opponent to beat off your spouse.
Remember that it is easier to prevent a problem, rather than to eliminate the consequences that it will attract. So try not to get too close with your girlfriends. Girlfriends do not necessarily tell in detail your and your husband's life together. Friendship is certainly good, but even between close friends there must be a certain distance.
If your girlfriend is openly flirting with your husband, then do everything to her husband to pay attention to you and then he will not have time to pay attention to the crafts of your girlfriend. Sometimes if you say to a man: "I noticed that Irochka is watching you all the time, is not indifferent to you, and you, I noticed, reciprocate. Well, if you decide to connect your destiny with her, then I will not hold you! ". And men, as you know, love forbidden fruit. Therefore, after such a direct "recommendation", most likely the husband will lose all interest in flirting the rival.
But whatever it is, in each specific situation, you need to act on the circumstances, because "recipes" that would fit every situation simply do not exist.
In innocent flirting, of course, there is nothing terrible, if this flirtation does not develop beyond the permissible. After all, you probably even once in your life flirted with one of the spouse's employees, for example, at the New Year's corporate evening. This could be the reason why he no longer takes you to the corporate meetings of his friends. If this is so, then your spouse is wise, since he did not become a potential rival to call for conversation, but simply surrounded you with his attention and sincere care and made sure that you did not meet with a potential rival. Why do not you do it like that.