A large family and its main problems


From time immemorial the union of a man and a woman was considered a saint. The value and importance of the family is recognized by all the world's leading religions, the world holiday - Family Day is dedicated to it. In today's world, the family has not lost its importance, despite the widespread illegal copy - the so-called "civil marriage". However, as a surrogate will not replace the original, so no semblance of a real family can ever be a worthy substitute for a legitimate union of loving people.

As you know, society can not exist without a family, and it is the parents that make up its foundation that are responsible for the appearance and upbringing of children, their development. However, this hard work is carried out in different ways. Someone lives for themselves, believing that they are not obliged to make any contribution to the demography of the country. Someone brings up one child, cherishes and cherishes, sometimes bending the stick, and releases into the world a complete egoist. Someone considers it their duty to give birth to as many children as can be fed and fed, and there are also families that, along with their families, also raise adopted children.

A family in which more than three children are growing in our country is considered to have many children. What are the advantages of such a family? How does a large family and its main problems differ from those in ordinary families raising one or two children?

It should be noted that the very attitude of society towards large families can be considered one of the main problems. Opponents of families with a large number of children, the main argument is that, given the unpredictability of today's life, one should focus on material income and limit the number of children that a particular family can actually raise. Supporters consider abortion an unacceptable evil, and a large family is the basis of the country's well-being.

However, representatives of families with many children have enough problems without discussion. Moreover, the material side is not the main one at all. And this is not accidental, because many children are born either in families of believers who rely on God's providence, or in families where wealth allows them to shoe, clothe, feed, educate and educate. And on the contrary, as life shows, high material income and excellent housing conditions do not contribute to large families: in such families, as a rule, the only child.

But it is impossible to completely dismiss the material condition, especially if we take into account that the benefits and subsidies allocated to large families do not correspond to any real need. There is also such a pattern - poor living conditions and meager income significantly limit the number of children in the family. Of course, the very attitude of parents to understanding the necessary conditions and prosperity is of great importance: after all, each family has its own value system. Someone and your own cottage will not consider sufficient for the birth and education of several children, and someone will have enough for this ordinary two-bedroom apartment. The worst thing about this is that the children act as "hostages" to the parental attitude to well-being.

Even worse, when they become "hostages" of self-realization of parents. In today's world, women are much more attracted by the laurels of a business lady, a career on a par with men than the role of a housewife in a large family. And even if she tries to combine a large house and a career, it is unlikely to succeed: the forces given to work require restoration, and the woman at home needs only rest. And the children need a mother, no nanny can completely replace it.

One of the problems of any family is communication. In fact, even having one child, parents often complain that they can not be alone, that they are tired of communicating with him, from the need to constantly give their attention. However, just in a large family, with this simpler - older children themselves can look after the younger ones, take them, play. And this is remarkable at once in several moments: the father and mother have time to solve other problems, and the children get used to taking care of each other, learn to be patient and responsible. They have to do a lot on their own, and because of this they master many skills before their peers, grow much better adapted to life. In addition, in their family-collective, children are accustomed to obey the elders, appreciate discipline, relationships, be tolerant of their demands, condescending to mistakes.

It is clear that the main and additional problems are enough for large families, and for families with one child. Another thing is that these problems are somewhat similar, in some ways - different, and in some families parents have to decide alone, and in others - others. For example, in epidemics of acute respiratory infections and influenza, families with many children have harder times - as a rule, if someone brings an infection, they will get over everything, and, therefore, the funds for medicines will go incomparably more. Admission to the university, living space for the grown up children, funds for weddings - all this and much more is the life and problems of families with many children. The family is bigger, and there are more problems, because not all parents are ready to find enough strength, courage and love to decide on three or more children. There is no one to condemn. But one can not and do not respect those who decided on such a feat as a large family.