A common opinion among parents
In recent years, it is widely believed that an early child is better placed in kindergarten to 3 years, that it is supposedly faster and easier to adapt to the new environment. As a rule, nursery children have fewer problems with getting used to kindergarten, since they call a tutor mother, they love a kindergarten, and they gladly go there. But in this case, it must be remembered that in such children the development of a sense of attachment to the home and parents is disrupted. This can serve not very good service in their adult life.
Therefore, if you have the opportunity to sit with your child for three to four years, do not give up this opportunity. In addition, the birth of a second child - this is also not a reason to take to the kindergarten senior. Since childhood, the established contact between children is a good foundation for their relationship in the future.
Making a decision about the kindergarten
If you still discuss, take the child to a kindergarten or not, keep in mind that a kindergarten is not an absolute step in the development of the child. Most likely, this is a forced necessity, which is dictated by the circumstances of life. Ability to communicate with peers and independence develops not worse and in conditions of home education, and even about intellectual development, general erudition and psychological comfort and to speak it is not necessary.
If you decided on a family council that a child should go to a kindergarten in the fall, then for the remaining time, try to prepare yourself and him for this event.
Adaptation of an early child to a kindergarten
1. Stop worrying if your decision has already been taken. The child does not need to project his anxiety, do not discuss possible complications with him. Take the position of conscious necessity.
2. Pay attention to the regime of the day. Over the summer, the child must be rebuilt so that he can easily wake up an hour and a half before leaving home. If your baby does not sleep in the daytime, teach him to just lie down alone in bed. Teach him some games. Very useful finger games. Try to teach the baby to walk big in the toilet at one time. Teach your child to go to the toilet in a small way, not when "you really want to," but beforehand: before walking, before going to kindergarten, before going to bed.
3. Is your baby difficult to feed? Do you sometimes come across lack of appetite or selectivity in eating? Try to maximally bring your child's menu to the kindergarten menu. Try to reduce the calorie content of food, it may after a while lead to an improvement in his appetite. If urgent requests and a strict tone to quickly eat everything cause a child to have a nausea, then this is a serious reason to think about the child's visit to the kindergarten. But in any case, children who have a bad appetite need to talk with the educator and ask him to be patient and gentle in this matter. Very frequent problems with food are the reason why babies do not want to go to kindergarten.
4. It is necessary to temper all children, and especially those who go to kindergarten. The most effective and easy way - walking barefoot in the summer on the ground in any weather, indoors. This strengthens the nervous and immune system. Very useful water procedures (bath, shower, sea, lake), try not to limit the stay of the baby in the water and do not particularly monitor the temperature of the water. Accustom the child gradually to a cold drink (milk, kefir, juice from the refrigerator). From the point of view of the contrast of temperatures, ice cream is both tasty and useful.
5 . Very often there are children who break up with their mother cry. They have to be persuaded for a long time. If after the mother's care the baby feels well, does not ask about his mother, does not feel sad, and easily tolerates the regime of the day, then it is most likely necessary to change the existing "tradition" of parting. And there are children who are very nervous in my mother's absence. They have worse appetite and sleep. In this situation, it is best to contact a psychologist. Such behavior of children, as a rule, is a consequence of the behavior of parents. The increased anxiety of the mother, the unwillingness of parents to see in the child's behavior elements of manipulation of people - all these reasons can provoke such behavior of the child. In such a situation, first of all, the mother herself must change her internal state.
In practice, to teach the baby to part with his mother, best of all, creating such situations, so that the baby himself asked to visit his mother. For example, he needs to make a surprise for his mother, or Mom needs to go to the store, and he played with friends. When you leave for a long time, ask the child, and not the adults to follow the order in the house.
Let's entrust the child that he has managed to make your arrival, let him see for himself when it's time to go to bed or eat. At the meeting, ask the child in detail about the day he lived and do not forget to praise him for his successes, tell him how much you managed to do during this time, because he helped you.
6. Follow how the kid plays with other children. At this age, only relationships with peers are beginning to form. Giving the baby to the kindergarten, thereby, we speed up the process, so it would be wrong to let it go on its own. Does the child approach the group of children playing? If it is difficult for him to do this, help: teach him how to greet the children correctly, offer their toys to children, ask permission to play with them and react correctly to refusal, while finding a compromise option.
Very good, if in the summer you have a children's company in the country. Arrange with the mothers and follow the queue for the children. But with the condition that children can not leave the group during the agreed time and must resolve all arising issues only between themselves and their mother, who was on duty near them.
And now two words about toys. Teach your child to take out in the yard only those toys that he can share with friends. It's the same with toys that bring to kindergarten. Otherwise your child will be known as greedy or will be always in alarm for your favorite toy, with which something will suddenly happen.