The baby needs a constant presence of the mother, even at night
During pregnancy, for 40 weeks your child was inside, listened to the blood flowing through your veins, the rhythmic thumping of your heart, your voice came to him, he could smell your scent. He was an integral part of you. And when he was born, everything did not change in a moment - he still considers you a part of himself and vice versa. Even if the kid is at his mother's side all day, he also needs it at night. If the mother is near, the child is more awake as he is calm and feels that his mother is with him. The baby feels the presence of the mother next to the skin, and the tactile sensations are one of the main ones in the infant's developmental period of the child's development, touch replaces the baby with still poor eyesight and hearing. This gives him a feeling of comfort, security and stability. Those who advocate joint sleep argue that staying at night with the baby in the same bed with his mother in the future affects his development for the better: children grow up more calm and independent than their peers. Some scientists even investigated the dependence of where the child sleeps in early childhood and its IQ level, and a group of children who slept with their parents showed better results.
Ease of feeding
In addition, the nursing mother is simply physically more convenient when the baby is sleeping at his side: do not get out of bed every time the baby gets hungry. In addition, the child will not have time to wake up completely and burst into tears, as he will receive the required much earlier. It is only necessary to properly place the child so that he has immediate access to the chest, and does not disturb his mother. To all the rest, as is known, prolactin - the hormone responsible for lactation, is produced at night during stimulation of the breast. This means that the mother, nursing the baby at night on the first demand, produces more milk, which increases the lactation period and preserves breastfeeding for a longer period.
Choice of restless mothers
Some mothers are very sensitive to sleep and wake up from the slightest rustle coming from the baby's crib, often jump up to check whether everything is in order with the baby, whether he is breathing. Such troublesome mothers, of course, it is more comfortable to be at night with the child. Then they hear the peaceful breathing of the baby and sleep peacefully.
Advocates of separate sleep?
A kid can be accidentally pressed down with his body in a dream
However, statistics prove that such cases are extremely rare and occur mainly with those who abuse alcohol or drugs. However, unfortunately, it does happen that accidents occur in ordinary, well-off families. When choosing a joint sleep, parents should always remember, especially if the dad and the dad are sleeping nearby, that heavy parts of the body, such as hands or feet accidentally laid on the baby, can lead to tragedy. Therefore, it is better to put some cushions and pillows between the spouses, where the father will sleep in one half of the bed, and on the other - the mother with the child.
The impossibility of a normal intimate life
If you want, you can always find a way out of this situation. There are other rooms or kitchen, bathroom. You can adjust to the phases of a baby's sleep, thus not waking him. Usually small children at the age of several months sleep pretty hard, and you need to try very hard to wake him up. So forget for a while about languid groans and sobs under the blanket. Who is looking for ways, he always finds them.
The baby will be cured from sleeping together and he will "forever" settle in the parent's bed
This argument scares many parents. Not everyone wants to share their marital bed with an already grown-up baby, who, moreover, takes up a lot of space and parents sometimes have to huddle on the very edges of the bed. But sooner or later the child still wants to have his corner and sleep in his crib. As a rule, this period does not last longer than the baby will be 3 years old. Already before the age of 18, he definitely does not want to sleep with you.
In any case, the decision on joint or separate sleep remains with the parents. Do as you please. Convenient for parents - comfortable baby. And if you planned a joint sleep with a child, but for some reason it is impossible - do not worry much that you are not giving something to the child. It is worth taking this fact as a reality. After all, your experiences can be passed on to the baby, which, you will agree, is much worse.
All pros and cons of sharing sleep with the baby
The passions between supporters and opponents of sleeping with children do not subside. Supporters of the joint sleep for naturalness and sincerely do not understand how you can lay the baby to sleep separately and therefore they sleep only together with the child in one bed. Those who are brought up in a more conservative family, vote for a separate stay at night mom and baby. In this article, I want to weigh all the pros and cons of a joint sleep of parents and children.