Conversations around the wallet
At the very beginning of the relationship, when the costs and living are you still separate, to discuss their financial issues with a lady's heart to a man is not comme il faut. If already now he continually slips into a conversation on monetary topics, then, what will happen next? But even if such conversations do not bother you, some phrases should be taken with caution.
Dangerous beacons:
- "They pay me so little. I want to look for a new job, because I can not afford anything! "It's not so much an application to" complain "as a hint:" I can not even satisfy my requests, and even yours - even more so. "
- "Over the past year I earned ... I rest only in ..., and I go to dinner exclusively in ...". Such a money show is not so much a status as snobbery. Therefore, the next move will be: "Yes, and my girl must earn ..., dress in ... to match me!"
- "Actually, I think flowers are a waste of money, but if you want ..." Go, and without the right to return! Any your sincere desire will automatically be written down in the column "whim of the ordinary" and, accordingly, ignored.
"Widow clique" or three crusts of bread?
A separate subject for close scientific interest is a man who invited you to a restaurant. Firstly, under the word "restaurant" you can understand completely different institutions. As the sad experience shows, sometimes this proud word is called and McDonald's, and smoky eatery on the waterfront. And secondly, it is very revealing how he treats the menu and controls your order and, accordingly, your expenses.
Dangerous beacons:
- "Do you like ice cream or strudel?" That's right - you did not even have time to consider it properly, and he already sets limits and limits for you. The conclusion: either a double egoism (he does not even imagine that your desires may differ from his plans), or an open manipulation (and suddenly you order a three-course dinner and cause irreparable damage to his wallet?).
- "I myself will make an order!" Even if he wants to impress by ordering exquisite foie gras or Thai shrimps, it's still too self-confident: you may have intolerance or banal dislike for one or another product.
- "Does everyone pay for himself?" We are still not in Europe, and he called to the restaurant. Inviting someone else's money is a dubious merit.
Calculate it by purse
The most "monetary" thing of any person is, of course, his purse. Will he be able to tell about the financial habits of your chosen one? Money is stored in the pockets of pants, shirts, jackets. Not because the wallet was lost, but from the principle. Beware: the wind in the head of such a man walks no less than in his pockets. He despises money and spends it with ease. And then he lives with the same ease in debt. A thing with a claim. Its owner clearly knows the account of his cash and prefers to deal with terminals, and not with cash. One thing: the expenses generated by cards are difficult to control. Maybe he will not notice the purchase of a new mink coat? An ordinary double purse is a favorite companion of slightly conservative men. There are almost every second civilized homo sapiens. Alas, nothing special about it can not be determined: a purse is more a habit than an indicator. A favorite accessory of extremely tight-fitting men. "I carry all my equipment with me and ask them not to look in there," says the borset. And her master has long since fallen out of fashion and obviously does not understand fur coats. Or the money he really chickens do not peck, or he carefully tries to convince the surrounding. A dark horse. Better stay away.
I came to you with greetings
His visit is a wonderful test for greed and ... courtesy. Look at both! The behavior of a man in a foreign territory is more than indicative. Unceremoniousness and the ability to behave like home at home do not best characterize any guest. But care, tact and lack of empty hands - fatty plus in the "personal business" of your chosen one.
Dangerous beacons:
- "It brought us Coca-Cola ..." Regardless of your sympathy for carbonated drinks, the rules of good taste are generally known: coming to dinner, it is worth to take at least a bouquet, and in a good way - and a bottle of wine or champagne. Interestingly, he is not aware of the basics of etiquette or deliberately and demonstratively ignores them? "Only tea and biscuits?" And eat - I'm from work? "If you did not invite him specifically for dinner, then he should take care of his stomach in advance and certainly not make claims to you.
- "Wow, but nothing hut!" Is she on you? And how many meters? "And do not forget, my priceless, to ask about the keys from the safe, where the money lies ...
Economical economy
Not always the desire to save says greed or bad attitude. If a man does not seek to spend his money on the most expensive wine or cheese (although you are sure that he can quite afford it), this is not an indicator of skopidomstva. Maybe he has more significant expenditure?
Dangerous beacons:
- "I am unpretentious in food, that's why I will be quite satisfied with dumplings." Alas, they will not suit you and your digestive system. We hope he does not object that it's "your problems"?
- "My mother believes that it is better to buy a new sofa than the 10th time to go to rest in this stupid Egypt." It's good that his mother can count. But it would be better in your relationship, she did not count.
- "Did you buy new boots for yourself? I can not understand you women! You have those gray ones! "There are grays, but there are no black ones! And in general, you spent for this pair for the time being your own and entirely your own salary.
Sometimes the attitude of foreigners to money touches, and sometimes - enters the state of catharsis of moderate severity. What interesting money traditions do foreign men have?