After a while, you notice that he is not involved in the child's upbringing. If you are wondering: "Why can not men bring up other people's children?", Then you are very wrong. Men, like women, are different. A man is a man to a man, and this, in the first place, must be realized. Why are you all the same one? Yes, there are men who are afraid of other people's children. They are afraid of maternal reaction if they "press" too much on the child. If a man genuinely loves you, this does not mean that he will love your child, if only because it is not his flesh and blood. Maybe he needs some time to get used to the new duties, or maybe just cautious, so as not to offend you.
If you do not know why men can not educate other people's children, then look, at least on the average man. Most men do not even bring up their children, because it is responsible, and raising another's child, the man is even more responsible. If something in communication between the "new dad" and your child goes wrong, the man begins to blame other people's genes. If you are a wise woman, you will certainly take a neutral position, then try to understand the claims of the two sides and find ways of reconciliation.
There are men who can raise other people's children and do not see any special difficulties in this. Such men are very good family men, they quickly find a common language with any children. The model of educating strangers, as their own, is borrowed from Americans. They do not divide children. During repeated marriages, children can be from the husband and from the wife, and such children are not considered alien, they are perceived as full members of the family.
Some men can not raise children because of their complexes. Such men in general have difficulty in establishing relationships, lead a closed way of life. If such a man needs you, admit, not to be a lonely mother, then soon you will begin to perceive him as a "suitcase without a handle." Have you ever dreamed of such a family?
Modern, self-confident men consider a woman to be very attractive. Moms now look much different than many years ago. Now they are business ladies who carefully monitor their appearance, they are responsible, that makes them a priority for young girls. Another important indicator is a healthy child, which means that a woman is capable of producing healthy offspring, which is very important in connection with the growing incidence of unhealthy children and female infertility. Over time, men did not give more time to raise children. They perceive the child as part of a woman.
Raising children is sometimes difficult because of the child's selfishness. If at first the child is calm about what an unfamiliar man comes to visit, then when a joint life begins, everything turns upside down. Here plays a big role the behavior of the mother, who once all the love, care and affection gave only to the child, and now still pleases the strange uncle. The child subconsciously afraid to lose what he is used to and begins to take revenge on the offender. Of course, nobody will like whims, and a woman will have to become a peacemaker. She will have to explain to the child that she still loves and loves no less than before. To avoid such situations, do not forget about the attention to the child.
A foreign man can not replace your child's father, but a good friend may well become.