It is believed that about half of us already somehow faced treason. Simply put, they were deceived or deceived themselves. According to more accurate data, about 60% of men and 40% of women changed their partner at least once. It's hard to say whether it's good or bad. People are different, everyone has "ups and downs" in relationships, interest in each other comes and goes, depending on how harmoniously you feel in pairs. But it is quite obvious that one does not want to be deceived. If you suspect that your partner has a love affair "on the side", how not to be mistaken in the assumptions? Are there any "tips" in this regard? You will be surprised, but they are! There are 12 obvious signs of male infidelity that you should not miss. After all, as they say, trust, but check ...
1. Intuition tells you something.
The suspicion that something has happened is often the first sign for many women. Intuition is not something that you can explain logically, but do not trust it - it's very stupid. Even if a man is a super-conspirator and knows how to skillfully "cover up the tracks," an intelligent and sensitive woman will always understand that something is amiss. Most often a woman sees and notices changes in a partner at an unconscious level. It also depends on the time that the couple lived together. Trust your intuition in any case. But do not make radical decisions only on the basis of assumptions! This is a big mistake!
Harmless Explanation : Simply put, your intuition can not be developed enough. How much do you talk to each other? Maybe your man is just going through a stressful moment? Hence the changes in behavior, etc.? You sometimes just need to talk heart to heart.
But, to be honest, guesses are correct more often than false ones. If the instinct tells you that you are being deceived - keep your eyes and ears open for some other signs of betrayal.
2. He is overly attentive.
His behavior: He spends more time on you than usual. In everything, he tries to please. Perhaps he buys gifts unexpectedly or suddenly starts helping to look after children, pets and mother-in-law. He can even start doing something around the house: ironing, washing or cooking. Or he suddenly finishes the case, which remained unfinished for several months.
An unbiased explanation : Have you experienced constant setbacks lately? Your man could decide to just support you. Perhaps he does not know how to do it differently. He is trying to give you a good mood. Positive thinking plays an important role in relationships.
Opinion of the prosecution: He feels guilty and wants to compensate for the fact that he has a connection on the side. Such things often happen at an early stage of betrayal.
3. He began to hide and hide.
You may find that your man has an email account that you did not know anything about. Or, maybe he has two phones and you only know one number. Another common feature is the moment when he answers the call and leaves the room. Usually he tells you that it's by work and starts to talk inconsistently and indistinctly when you are next to the phone.
An insane explanation : His boss really asked him to come on call. Or he got a job on the phone and he just does not want to make it difficult for you with these work issues.
Opinion of the accusation : His mistress sends him intimate SMS or email messages while you are at home, and he tries to hide them.
4. You stopped talking.
This is almost the opposite of the second point, when the partner suddenly becomes too interested in you. Maybe he stopped paying attention to you, he no longer says "I love you" or even does not want to kiss or hug you. But the main thing is that you stopped communicating. He simply leaves any conversations under any pretexts. Or at all without them.
Hazardous explanation : Maybe he is overstrained or even suffering from depression? This can often explain mood swings or disinterest in life in general. And, perhaps, he does not even understand what is suffering. Be careful. This can be more serious than treason.
Opinion of the accusation : If he begins to become less interested in what you did during the day, and how you feel, it often means that he gets his emotional fix in another place. When kissing stops in a relationship, it is often seen as a big warning sign.
5. It's hotter than ever in bed.
His behavior: Your man suddenly starts to do something new and amazing in bed, hitting you with his sudden passion. It can be a new technique of foreplay, and maybe even new positions in sex that you have not even heard of before.
Harmless explanation : He can quite see enough of this opera on websites or find interesting tips on sex in the same place. Maybe he just wanted a change? In any case, this is a pleasant sign of anything. Do not rush to roll up hysterics! Enjoy as it should, and then find out the true reason.
Opinion of the accusation : If this happens more than once - it is possible that someone is teaching him "lessons" in another bed! He does not want to hit the dirt in the dirt - that's working out the technique for you.
6. He began to get irritated faster.
His behavior: When you ask him questions about his affairs at work, about his problems and plans, he begins to defend himself. Even if you do not blame him for anything. Its all annoying. He is tense, he does not want to discuss anything with you. He "takes the arrows" to you at every convenient and inconvenient event.
Harmless explanation : He may be planning a vacation with you and preparing a romantic surprise. Therefore, he does not want you to disclose it ahead of time.
Opinion of the accusation : He is worried that you will check it and disclose the deception.
7. Your friends noticed that something happened.
This does not always mean that he has done anything wrong, but often friends and relatives notice changes in the relationship between you and start asking questions. Sometimes from the side, some things are more noticeable. This is from the category of "face to face, the person does not see, the bad is seen from a distance."
An insane explanation : Are you experiencing difficult times now? Or if you tend to be a little "different" when you are in the company of strangers? Sometimes this explains everything.
Opinion of the prosecution: If it is not only your mother who starts asking you questions, everything is in order between you, it may be time to stop and think about it. Especially if you did not notice anything like that. It is not right! Something is clearly not true.
8. He became a different person.
His behavior: Has your partner started looking with interest new TV programs, listening to new music or even buying new clothes or a new after shave lotion?
Harmless explanation : He can suffer from a mid-life crisis and feel that he must "shake the old days" again. Or maybe he opened a new website or online magazine and this gives him new ideas. And, in the end, the tastes can simply change. So sometimes it happens.
Opinion of the accusation : A new woman often implicitly forces him to experience new things (except, perhaps, sex). By the way, he does not always like it.
9. He accuses you of treason.
His behavior: This is likely to shock you, but he can suddenly ask directly if you have another. Men tend to be more straightforward than women. In addition, the principle works here: the main defense is an attack.
Smooth explanation : Although statistics show that men change more often than women, this does not mean that they will not have their own suspicions. If your relationship is going through a difficult period, it's not silly suspicions - especially if you stop talking to each other.
Opinion of the accusation : As a rule, a man suspects you of treason, because he believes: if he is capable of this, then so are you. This is the psychology of all deceivers. They try to justify themselves by the thought that everyone does this. As soon as your initial shock from the charge of treason will pass, it may be worth looking a little closer, what is he plotting ?!
10. He later comes home.
His behavior: Even if the place of his actual work has not changed, he begins to return all later. Or, perhaps, he says, he went to a friend, but later you will find that a friend was at the conference.
An uncomplicated explanation : Work can bring more stress - perhaps someone left, leaving him more work than usual. In addition, he may be busy organizing some kind of surprise, and he does not want you to know what he is up to.
Opinion of the accusation : As soon as someone starts to lie, it becomes more difficult and more difficult to support the law. Therefore, when small inexplicable things start to happen or you notice things that are incompatible with logic - there may be something not as innocent as it might seem.
11. He stopped taking you out into the light.
His behavior: Remember the days when you always went to visit your mutual friends, were you invited to corporate parties together or just went to the cinema together? And suddenly he stopped taking you with him. Under various pretexts, he began to avoid going out with you.
Harmless explanation : Well, the economic crisis is not just a fashionable word. Perhaps his company really canceled all sorts of activities, trying to save everything. And friends suddenly had problems and they were not up to the guests. And there's no time to go to the cinema, and money, frankly, it's a pity.
Opinion of the accusation : If he ceased to appear with you in public, it could be because he began to appear there with someone else. He is insured and does not want to create an embarrassing situation ... for him, obviously.
12. He began to take a shower more often than usual.
His behavior: Of course, personal hygiene of a person is important, but in his case it began to go to the extreme. He runs into the shower only when he crosses the threshold of the house. And after any departure "on business" - rushes there too.
An insane explanation : If he comes home drunk, he may well try to hide it in this way. The shower well sober.
Opinion of the accusation : He simply wants to get rid of the smell of another woman's perfume. And, perhaps, cool yourself after a stormy meeting.
And finally ... remember!
None of these signs is sufficient proof that your man can deceive you. But all together they are often a very good indicator. What to do next is up to you, but at least you can talk to him, knowing that you have weighed all the signs of his betrayal. Do not avoid talking anyway. Living a lie is not the best way for each of you. Maybe it's not so scary. Just take the first step - and let everything be fine.