Questions of religion are not as simple as we think. Even now, when nationality and religion, like political beliefs, are strictly personal, the baptism of children, if parents of different faiths, can become a serious problem.
Not only spouses of different faith are interested in baptism, but also their parents. And in the case of a very faithful family (or rather, several generations of two families at once), real clans enter into resistance. Montagues and Capuleti of the 21st century - that's what the baptism of children turns into if parents of different faiths.
In today's world as a whole, there is much more peace and justice. So much so that men are forced to work hard on weekends or play computer games to relieve tension and stress. After all, there is no war, as well as a moral right in the case of a dispute "punch in the face". And yet, as a vestige of past centuries, there remained dogmas.
Faith is not only personal beliefs. They are those exactly, until our continuation, our offspring, appears. And at this moment the opposing sides are included in the conflict.
About parents and other relatives
As a rule, the spouses themselves are able to solve this difficult issue. But the main actors will be parents and relatives. After all, the question of religion is often a matter of some family, clan and family history. So, the opinion of the "clan" will have to be taken into account first.
Three options for solving the problem:
- If at least one of the spouses can guarantee that his "clan" is less important issues of faith, then, perhaps, is to meet the wishes of the second half and his family.
- On the other hand, if one part of the relatives lives together with the young, and the second - in another city, then to sustain a "religious dispute" at a distance is much easier.
- Sometimes the principle "who first got up, the one and the sneaker" works best. Those. the most important thing is to baptize a child, and he will deal with this difficult matter before the rest.
How to avoid conflict?
When marrying, many dream of the sacrament of the wedding, which can accompany a civil ceremony. And yet, in the heat of love, for heated debates, how to hold a celebration, perhaps, about a wedding and forgotten.
It is not uncommon for clergymen to agree to the ties of "marriage in heaven" with representatives of different faiths. Most often this happens within several Christian currents, but there are other, more exotic marriages.
Well, if one of the spouses before the wedding turns into another faith. Then there is no conflict. But as a rule, after being left alone in their confession, the spouses start the issue of baptizing a child for nothing. So, the accident that was lost sight of, will return, and the problem will appear in all its glory. The baptism of children, if parents of different faiths, is a test for the whole family.
How to arrange in advance?
But, as a rule, everything is not so difficult and bad, if parents of different faiths decide the issue of baptizing children without haste. In this case, if it is not a baby, but, say, a teenager, it would be nice for him to ask about his attitude to religion, having preceded the conversation with a small explanation of why it is important for parents.
Well, when in general there is the opportunity to sit down and discuss the situation in advance. After all, most often the baptism of children, if parents of different faiths, occurs spontaneously.
Between themselves
Discuss the problem and possible options for its solution best within the family - that is, the parents themselves of the child. And already with the ready decision together, "united front" to act in the struggle for the chosen religion.
What this gives:
- First, the family demonstrates its independence in resolving issues. Even such complex ones as the baptism of a child.
- Secondly, a single solution stimulates to its greater importance for the older generations.
- Thirdly, it is easier to "take" interference in the internal affairs of the family.
A multigenerational family dies. Increasingly, the word "family" refers only to spouses and their children. So, the problem of confession and baptism is becoming less acute. But it must also be dealt with more gently and accurately. After all, now the question of religion, baptism and religion is first and foremost a matter of preserving traditions, family holidays and culture. And to brush it aside, as if from something insignificant - it means, to damage the family way, to destroy with their own hands that which was built by generations.