And this statement can not be called unjustified: indeed, a constant stay in one collective, where there are no conditions for manifestations of jealousy, and the reasons for its occurrence - a mass, is not easy for each of the participants. And, nevertheless, the practice to the logic of the convenience of relations between a man and a woman remains indifferent: in almost every company there are several examples of love that arose between employees of one department.
What difficulties can there be?
The main difficulty in such relations is not to be mistaken with an assessment of the attention of one of the colleagues to another. And if a woman in the office can still behave quite secretly, without giving out any sympathy for a seated employee, the actions of a lover in the office can be seen with the naked eye. What distinguishes a man from other colleagues, just sympathetic to a charming employee?
First of all, to determine that a man in his colleague is in love easily, if you pay attention to the amount of time that he next to her conducts. On official corporate parties, he will certainly be arranged either to see the subject of his sighs, or directly next to it. At the same time he will try in every possible way not to show his feelings openly: he is unlikely to invite her to dance, but she will certainly be the first to fill her gentlemanly cup. To see off his beloved wife to a house, too, most likely will not be called, but he will definitely check that she gets home without adventures. If he becomes aware that the windy heartbreaker of his heart is not going home after the end of the next corporate party, then the next day he will appear in the worst mood in the office. Provided that it does not happen at random in the same nightclub as she, where already filled with the magic of a merry atmosphere, it will be able to demonstrate to the colleague how touchingly his attitude towards her.
Further, even after several occasional kisses or frank conversations, a man in love in the office is afraid to publicly show his feelings at work. This male quality very often caused a delay in the beginning of a very serious and long-term relationship. The problem is not that at night in the club the man just flirted with his colleague. His experiences are much more profound: being constantly under the supervision of members of the collective who are hungry for intriguing events, he simply seeks to preserve his personal space, which makes love particularly vulnerable. Here everything depends on the woman herself: if she has noticed on herself the attentive views of a colleague, his vigilant attention to her affairs and the constant desire to be somewhere close to her, then for the development of relations she needs to do only one thing: to talk with him, starting with own sympathy or antipathy towards him.
How else to distinguish such a man in the company from other colleagues?
It's simple: he is always interested in every little thing, connected with the life of the chosen one of his heart. The behavior of a man in love with an office is often dictated by factors about which he himself rarely guessed. Therefore, it is unlikely that he will be able to hide his emotions from public attention. One of the most striking signs of the love of such a man is his interest: he will always ask the same colleague how her day went, ask what's next her project. And, being enthusiastic, such a colleague will certainly be aware of all work plans of the employee who has fascinated him and try to protect her as much as possible from disappointments. To her, she can boldly address not only for the necessary advice, but also for the most serious help. A man in love is nothing more exciting than collaborating with her on a particular project, does not represent himself. But here lies the danger: if something goes wrong during the work, the result may turn out to be unpredictable - from the complete loss of interest on his part, to the transformation of warm love into a burning cold, keen hatred.
A few typical actions.
The actions of a man in love in the office are permeated with attention not only to his beloved. Trying to hide his feelings, which he considers unrequited by default, he will show a keen interest in the affairs of each of his colleagues. Just to level the degree of attention shown. Of course, it will not be possible to completely achieve a balance, but it will certainly confuse the staff in terms of determining who their colleague is in love with. Although it is not as difficult to determine as it seems: by sight. A man in love likes to look at the subject of his sighs. Especially when he thinks that nobody is watching him. Therefore, when choosing a new workplace, he will certainly prefer a table located behind the place of his beloved, and on a break with friends he will choose a point from which position the place for smoking or tea drinking of the female part of the office is best viewed.
The behavior of a man in love is necessarily entangled with fears, regardless of whether his beloved colleague or stranger, seen in the window of a passing bus, will become his. It is in the office that these fears will be most visible and dangerous for the most admirer in terms of career prospects. And it's not so much the publicity of the development of relations or the threat to be exposed in the eyes of a beloved by someone from colleagues, and not personally. The problem is the constant fueling of doubts. To see the coveted woman every day, to know who she likes and who does not, to assess her abilities and well-being, and to keep the objectivity of views is not just difficult-it is almost impossible. And unlike a woman, a man understands this perfectly. That's why he's afraid. A scared lover often behaves unpredictably. It is characterized by sharp flashes of irritation. Or vice versa - a smile that does not come off the face, resembling a grin or a child's joy from buying a new toy. But most often the man in love with the office behaves in an emphatically restrained manner, notably trying to keep under control the accumulated emotions.