Let's nevertheless decide what the tyrants are. These are people who impose their will and opinions on others, do not tolerate them when they object and argue with them. They deprive their close and native people of the right to make independent decisions, they are not allowed to have their own personal space that they do not control. They need to know about your every step and action. This is relevant not only to cash costs, but also to your wardrobe, to the choice of your social circle, the time of communication, both with friends and with your parents. Also, the tyrant husband finds fault with how you serve the table, and the fact that the bed is not tucked up the way he likes and to the breadcrumbs you have not noticed under the kitchen table.
Of course, there are tyrannical husbands who only partially show their nature. For example, in the control of only spending money or reveal control in communication with the opposite sex. If you want to go with a girlfriend in a cafe, he will not listen to your objections, but simply forbid it to do everything. It also happens that a man turns into a tyrant only at home, after being nice and polite in communicating with colleagues at work.
In fact, the psychology of relationships, where the husband is a tyrant, and the wife is a victim, is very complex. Indeed, the violence committed over the human will, and especially if it occurs between spouses (and in fact an authoritarian and excessively demanding husband frankly rapes and oppresses the will of his wife) is a process, in fact, disgusting and inhuman. However, this does not always mean that the husband does not love his mate. Perhaps he's just tyrannical?
It is possible to conditionally divide tyrant husbands into three groups.
The tyrants of the first group are characterized by the fact that they seek to establish general control. The most favorite question of tyrannical husbands, which they ask to their wives: "Where was it?". This person needs to know where and with whom his wife or child went, what they do, who are his children's friends, why the wife later returned home from work and where she was hanging for thirty minutes. He must know everything and control, because only then he feels confident.
Tyrants of the second group like to morally humiliate their wife. Slowly torture her. Sometimes they use such phrases as: "You're a crouch without education, you can not do without me" or something like this: "You're getting away with everything, who will take you to work", "Look at you yourself in the mirror, who do you need besides me? ". Thus, he increases his self-esteem, and his wife is inspired by the fact that she without him will disappear and nothing can. She just needs it, without it it's nothing, just an empty place.
Tyrants of the third group can afford to use physical violence against their wife and even children. To use fists is the highest measure of the manifestation of tyranny in the family. Statistics tirelessly suggests that women and children are most often victims of beatings of an aggressive husband and father. Even more can aggravate and so the difficult state of things, the use of alcohol or drugs, because they have the ability to multiply aggression and are able to completely disable the control over the actions of a person.
As a rule, the domestic tyrant shows his cruelty only in relation to his family, within his home. And when he meets a hooligan on the street, he is unlikely to be able to resist him. Because inside of him sits a small and weak coward.
Why do one get a normal husband, and others suffer from tyranny? Yes, because one girl, having heard several times the questions of such a plan as "Where were you?" Or "Why was late for ten minutes" breaks off relations and does not want to constantly report for each step taken, and another, will tolerate, then leave for he will be married and will be justified before him all his life. It's all about our choice, because no one imposes a marriage on us for tyrant, we choose it ourselves. All of these seemingly innocent questions are an indicator of his insecurity. After all, he is seized with panic fears because he does not leave the obsession that you will find a more worthy challenger for your heart. And many girls at first think that if they are jealous, then they love. Hm, does she? Perhaps he loves, but with his own, special love.
So we came to the conclusion that tells us that some girls allow the tyrant to control themselves, while others do not. What type of women are allowed to manipulate?
These are women who had the same situation in their family with their tyrant father. She absorbs everything like a sponge and forms such an opinion that this is the correct model of relationships, where a man is bold and aggressive, and a woman is submissive. Here it is instinctive and looking for a brazen man, capable of humiliating, which will give her the opportunity to be submissive.
As for the influence of the tyrant, female victims may fall. They have psychological dependence on such relationships. The tyrant husband, aware of his power over the domestic, enjoys it, and the wife constantly seeks excuses for his behavior and manifestations of aggression by fatigue, workload at work, etc. Sometimes violent disassociations due to disobedience result in the fact that they swear to each other in love to the grave or are reconciled with the help of violent sex. And the wife becomes dependent on such scandals and reconciliations, as a drug addict.
The woman is inside the situation, which means she can not immediately determine what she is manipulated. And when my family and friends start telling her that he controls her like a puppet, she does not believe them. And she claims that they are just jealous of her and want to prevent her from happily, because he is good, just his character is heavy.
If you are thinking about how to curb the tyrant, you need to take action. You need to show the tyrant that your relatives, friends, brothers will know about all his actions. And they will always come to your aid and punish him.
Inform him that there are such articles in the criminal legislation that call for accountability for assault, torture of the moral and physical plane.
If you do not work, be sure to get a job and earn your personal money. Then you will have self-confidence and financial independence from her husband. But then you can move away from him and cut off all relations with him, which is the most effective way to fight a tyrant husband.
This is the psychology of relations, where the husband is a tyrant, and the wife is a victim. Each of us needs to decide for herself whether to live on with this person, trying to re-educate him, or to leave forever, hoping to find a real prince?