What to do, if someone else's bad habit spoils your mood and prevents you from living? Are there ways to save her from a person, especially an adult? Of course have!
Again, everything is not so!
But first try to understand what really is someone's bad habit, and what you do not like personally, because it's not done the way you used to. For example, you always go home at home in a decent outfit, and your sister prefers a robe. You think that the towels in the bathroom should hang on the hooks, and the son always leaves his on the washing machine. In order to begin the correct re-education of the surrounding people, summarize for yourself all the pros and cons of further re-education.
It's more convenient for you when the pens and pencils lie in a certain order, and the changer puts them not so ...
It seems to be all this stuff, but they are so annoying. And sometimes a very insulting thought comes to mind: the surrounding people do it spitefully. In fact, no one wants you evil, just others do everything their own way. And if you understand this, it's possible that the problem will disappear by itself.
Setting up channels
When people live or work side by side, they should be able to adjust, given the moods and addictions of each other. And for this you need to know what people do not like. The best way to deal with someone else's bad habit is to tell the owner what feelings you are experiencing from this or that action. But do not talk about his "wrong" behavior. The conclusion must be made by man himself. If you are dear to him, he will take care not to give you negative emotions. Do you want to correctly re-educate surrounding people and put on the path of faithful relatives? Do it right now!
If you both have a good sense of humor, you can point out bad habits with jokes. Husband does not learn how to clean socks in a laundry basket? Well, put him on their favorite chair until he understands where they should be. Surely you also have habits that annoy others. Agree to fight them on a principle: you to me - I to you. Choose one habit and promise each other that you will do your best to eradicate it. Be sure to set the time for which you are ready to deal with it. And every day share successes. And in honor of victory, arrange a holiday!
Wide context
But what to do, if others persist and get rid of your annoying habits do not rush at all? That is, in words, he seems to agree with you, but the allotment ... Then do what: try to correctly re-educate the surrounding people.
Try to understand: maybe he just can not handle it himself, because in this way he tries to inform others about his problems, to say about which he is not solved in the open.
The scattered things may indicate that a person really wants to remind of himself and get a portion of "extra" care and affection from the relatives. Often this method is used by children, throwing toys in the living room, as if trying to say: "Mom, talk to me!"
Persistently doing "in their own way," people sometimes simply remind of their right to their own space (physical and psychological). Think about it, are not you pushing too hard on your relatives? Is there a place in their lives for hobbies, meetings with friends?
Girlfriend always fails to fulfill their promises? Think, maybe she just can not say "no" in response to your requests? Talk to her.
There are a number of bad habits - gnawing fingernails, twisting something in your hands, infinitely adjusting your hair or scratching your head, which gives excitement or speak of a neurosis caused by stress.
To eradicate them, it is worth taking care of two things. First, to help a person feel more confident. To do this, do not scold him, but, on the contrary, as often as possible to cheer, praise.
Secondly, try together to replace the "bad" action with something less annoying or even useful. It is better to clean the apartment or, at least, draw in the notebook of devils, than nervously clap a tie or gnaw nails.
Bad advice
Psychologists believe that those who are most irritated by those around them are those qualities and habits that they can not afford to themselves. And if you can not train your husband or children to order , try yourself to be not such an avid geek, at least a week! Even if you do not want to stay that way forever, you will feel all the delights of this approach to life.