You were together, loved each other, but then you broke up. Time passed. The pain subsided a little, but the hope of happiness did not die. And you decide to try to revive love. Is it possible to start a relationship again, to rewrite them from scratch?
Crises are in any relationship: child-parenting, friendly and, of course, in a close relationship between a man and a woman. The crisis causes problems that need to be addressed, to understand the causes that gave rise to them. Our trouble is that, faced with a crisis, we often instead of trying to understand what its origins are, we perceive it as an inevitable point in the relationship. "Probably, it's just not" my half "", we think, and decide to break with a man. Or, quarreling, in the heat of passion we slander each other insulting words and slam the door, and come back and apologize for anger and pride.
Time passes. Life goes on. Perhaps you are experiencing new meetings and partings, but thoughts come back to him. You are thinking about what would not be so bad if he called, you can take the first step yourself, but ... Is it worth it?
Return to the former partner - the situation is very common. According to statistics, about a quarter of broken couples subsequently start relationships again. However, before imagining a picture of a happy reunion, it is worth considering how much you need it.
It is important not to mix up nostalgia for the former love with a real opportunity to revive the relationship. The memory is arranged so that it often stores cute romantic moments, erasing something unpleasant, so as not to injure us. It's unlikely that his character and habits have changed much, so do not expect that you will not have to look for more under his sofa dirty socks or wait half an hour under the toilet door while he is sitting there with a laptop. In addition to these household trivia, most likely, the problems in communication will return. Of course, growing up and learning new things, a person becomes more understanding and tolerant. Think about whether you have enough strength to accept it as it is.
If you are sure of your desire to start all over again, the first thing you need to do is understand the reasons why your gap occurred sometime. Talk with your partner openly, honestly and calmly, without falling for mutual accusations and without hiding anything. "I stopped loving you" and "I fell in love with you again" - answers that do not say much about anything. It is important to understand what exactly caused the break-up: the extinction of sexual attraction, the problems in mutual understanding, the lost trust? It is equally important to determine what led to the desire to revive the relationship.
Starting a relationship after a break is difficult. Do not hope that it will revive exactly the love that you had before. Conflict always reveals the shortcomings of both people, leaves wounds on the soul. Over time people change. But your relationship will not be completely new: you know this person well, his strengths and weaknesses, habits. It takes courage and readiness to recognize not only its mistakes, but also its own, openness and trust to each other. Starting with a clean sheet is difficult, but no one bothers to try.