So, how is the dependence on shopping revealed, how is the passion for shopping associated with our complexes?
First, you need to understand the causes of this disease. So, to get rid of the problem forever, let's look at its root. Let's understand once and for all how everything starts and with what exactly this passion is connected.
Initially, signs of excessive shopping are not so noticeable. Just a woman, time after time, buys different clothes and shoes for her pleasure. She likes every time to please herself with a new blouse or beautiful earrings. But, in time, the lady notices that something is starting to go wrong, and her passion for shopping is growing. She wants to get rid of the habit of buying, and nothing happens. She begins to get frightened by the fact that she can not get rid of her obsession. A woman realizes that she needs to buy home food or basic necessities, but, instead, gets shoes or a dress. This becomes a dependency. Every time, the lady promises herself that there will not be any more, and she will start with the purchases forever. But nothing happens. The girl understands that buying things is pointless, because she does not even have time to wear everything. But she can not stop. Here comes the understanding that everything has become an addiction, which must be finished once and for all.
So, why do people show such a passion for things? Why are they so often ruined by the passion for shopping? In fact, this cause of the problem is revealed, and it lies in our subconscious. First of all, such a lady does not know how to refuse to sellers. Maybe she's too shy or too kind. The consequence of this is her inability to say "no", to take off her clothes and leave the store. Girls of this type are very worried and do not like to refuse to sellers, because they believe that in this way they can upset. It is for such people that elementary psychological techniques used by managers and sellers to promote their goods perfectly function. In addition, another cause of shopaholism is revealed. It is connected with the fact that a woman could not get something in childhood and adolescence. Many of us survived the crisis, the deficit, the hungry years of perestroika. Therefore, we have a desire to get everything that once was not. That's why women shopaholics, often buy things to prove to the seller: I and I have enough money for this and I can buy whatever I want.
Shopaholics, buying the next thing, satisfy not physical, but emotional needs. They like the process of selection and fitting, communication with the seller. If the store also has a cozy atmosphere, pleasant music and good sellers, then undoubtedly such a woman will come out with a bunch of unnecessary things. Modern sellers have already learned to be sufficiently unobtrusive and, at the same time, affable. Therefore, many buyers see them as practically friends. In this case, you need to put a big plus to modern Russian marketing. But, of course, this does not help shopaholics. Their problem is often associated with the behavior of store employees.
What to do to get rid of this disease and such a craving for purchases. Firstly, those girls who have deep complexes and are insecure in themselves often suffer from shopaholism. Since childhood they are not loved and they are trying to please everyone. Of course, they do not always get it. And then a smiling salesman appears in the arena, who compliments, listens and even supports the conversation. Naturally, the girl on the subconscious level begins to see him as a friend. And we do not offend friends and do not deny them help. Therefore, when the seller begins to praise a thing and offer it to a lady, she is afraid to refuse it, so as not to offend and not lower his self-esteem. In this situation, the girl really thinks that the seller treats her in a special way, and she simply has no right to insult him and offend him. Therefore, they return to new and new purchases. In this case, you need to learn not to deceive yourself. The seller listens and speaks to you because he needs to sell the thing. Naturally, he can be a good person, but you for him no one and his behavior - no more than a technique with which you can sell this or that thing. Therefore, if you know that you get a lot of respect for sellers, remember one thing: you are not rude and do not be rude - that means respect. But, at the same time, you have the right to choose and do not have to buy anything, just to please someone. Never think that the seller will think badly about you or say something. If he is a normal person, he will always understand that your choice does not depend on his personal qualities. If, however, this person is outraged, this should not concern you. He is nobody and nobody will be to you. You can no longer go to this store and never meet him on the street. Moreover, the seller, most likely, will forget about you right there, as soon as a new buyer enters the door. So is it worth worrying and nervous about him.
Also, do not worry about what the seller thinks, as if you can not buy something. He is for you no one and prove to him something you also do not have to. Try to fight with your complexes, which were laid down in childhood. You do not have to win the love of strangers and prove something to them. Remind yourself that you are a self-sufficient person who has relatives and relatives who love and appreciate him. Sellers in stores clearly do not feel this to you. So you, too, should not love them and help them.
If you yourself do not succeed in convincing yourself that you are charming enough and attractive, and you do not need to seek love from strangers, then it is still necessary to seek the advice of a psychologist. In fact, there is nothing strange, terrible and shameful in this. Such a person will simply help you overcome the complexes that lead to psychological problems with relatives who appear on the basis of your thoughtless material waste.