So where do these memories come from and where do they start? And everything begins with one tiny thought, insignificantly small, which you do not pay attention to. But eventually you sink into it unobtrusively, and it begins to grow, like a snowball and with every immersion in it, becomes more and more, accumulating anxious emotions, feelings and fears. But the memories of past relationships are special, they are heavily bitten into memory, and forgetting about them is sometimes very difficult. Especially when it comes to parting with a loved one. But this period is the most difficult test for a person. According to most psychologists, people do not want to part with each other, even if they have the worst relationship, because they are afraid to return to childhood. It's like breaking up with your parents anew.
It also happens that the parting lasts quite a long time because of empty and vain hopes, from which it only gets worse. At this moment, depressions, sadness and other negative emotions are piling up with all their strength. And nothing in this life does not bring joy, and you do not want to do anything. Often there are cases when unresolved issues create a sense of unfinished business. In this case, you just have to talk with the former lover (sweetheart) in a calm tone and once and for all arrange all the points over i in your relationship.
But still how to get rid of memories of past relationships? Often the hidden grievance hones in the prison of their own feelings, for a long period of time. But even if you take into account that the abuser (offender) is forgiven (forgiven), the resentment can still come back in a few days or months. But as the saying goes, heals all wounds, it's worth waiting. The only question is: how long? And the answer is: everyone has different ways. Someone is ready to forget everything after a week, and someone will need years. The decisive factors here are the duration of the relationship and the character of the person. TIME is one of the ways to forget about past relationships and get rid of memories once and for all.
Another option is to hold a symbolic act of farewell. For example: take a pebble and heavier and then throw it away, imagining how with it all the memories of the past go. Or to light a candle and looking at it, imagine how, together with melted wax, the past feelings are also concealed. A good effect is the damage of common photos: break, burn, or simply throw in the urn.
There is another opportunity to forget past relationships. We must try to do so that in his environment nothing reminds of a former lover. First of all, get rid of his things, all his contacts on the phone and on the computer, photos, gifts. Try to avoid places of general pastime. And, in the final analysis, minimize contact with the object of parting. And it's better to take some time off for something to do. It will be good to do some kind of sport, as physical exercises help to unload the already loaded brain and improve the mood. Moreover, new impressions and acquaintances are guaranteed to distract from past memories.
Among psychologists there is a very interesting fact: from any bad habit or dependence you can get rid of for 21 days! Just as much time as they assure, the brain needs to be rebuilt to a new mode of operation. You can help him in this, avoiding negative thoughts such as: "I do not need anyone (I need)," "no one will love me anymore." On the contrary, it is necessary to think positively as much as possible, no matter how unpromising it looks. And think like this: "I will soon meet a loved one!". After all, as you know, thoughts can materialize, and maybe, the very next day, happiness comes to you. You need to be open and not to miss any new opportunity.
In a new relationship, try not to sacrifice everything, and keep self-esteem, otherwise this can only scare off your chosen one (the chosen one) and lose those good qualities that he / she was attracted to. But, as a rule, this applies to women, because of their nature. And most importantly: you must never regret the past, do not give up on the thought that this was the very person with whom I wanted to live my whole life. And adjust myself to the idea that everything is still ahead.
Each person decides how to get rid of his memories of past relationships. There would be a desire, but a solution will always be found. And it does not matter which way he chooses, the main thing is that he helped. And remember one thing: the past is on it and the past, to leave it behind, even if it was good, and if it's bad, even more so, live in the present and believe in a brighter future!