As practice shows, not everyone dares to talk about contraception with a loved one. And it's very sad. After all, a woman (however, like a man) should feel protected. Especially when it comes to the first sex and protection from unwanted pregnancy. Here are just the most common questions that excite the beautiful half (and not only).
Should a man participate in the discussion of contraceptive methods?
And should a man participate in sexual intercourse? If he is a full-fledged sexual partner, then, of course, he thinks about the consequences of his sexual activity. The same as a woman. Which of them will speak about this first? It depends on the relationship in the pair, on the role that they play in it. If a woman "fulfills the party" of a capricious child, most likely, the contraception will have to take care of the man. And if a woman takes an active stance both in relationships and in sex, then the decision of the issue of contraception will surely take over. There are no rules. It is important that the issue of protection be resolved to mutual pleasure. If your man does not show any interest in this topic, decide everything yourself. After all, this is your first sex, and it should not be overshadowed by undesirable consequences. Although, of course, at leisure it is worth considering - and what, in fact, is the reason for this inattentive partner attitude.
Who is responsible for choosing a method of contraception?
It is important that the method of contraception is convenient for both partners. After all, it happens so - a man, for example, prefers a condom, and a woman disgraces this option of protection. Or a woman wants to use a vaginal ring, and her partner, this method of protection is slightly frightening. If you can not agree, then sex risks becoming a problem, and not a pleasure. Do not hesitate to discuss the method of protection together. The main thing is to come to a mutual decision. In addition, the ability to negotiate on such an important issue will be an excellent test of your future relationship.
How to discuss this intimate topic, if the relationship is just beginning?
Take care of contraception before the first sex is quite natural and even necessary. You're not ready for the baby, are you? If the partner does not talk about it, openly tell him how you would like to be protected. Offer to use a condom. Or warn him not to worry, because you are drinking birth control pills. Either expressly state that you are not protected at all and "dream" about an interrupted sexual intercourse. Such openness will not prevent intimacy - on the contrary, make you both more relaxed. If you still do not dare to discuss this issue with a partner, then take full responsibility for yourself and choose your method of contraception in order to be confident and protected.
How to make the right choice of contraceptive?
To get started, get the most information about this or that kind of contraception from different sources: consult with a partner, read articles on the Internet, chat with friends. Now, together with a gynecologist, it will be easier to make a choice in favor of this or that method. Take into account your psychological characteristics, personal preferences, the desired regularity of sex life and so on. Think about whether you will be comfortable taking contraceptives every day.
- If you are prone to stability and "rituals", most likely, you will be approached by oral contraceptives.
- If almost every day you forget that phone, then the cosmetic bag and in the mornings absent-mindedly examine the jar of vitamins, trying to remember whether they have accepted or not yet, this method of contraception is not for you. Then it's better to think about the vaginal ring (it changes once a month) or the weekly hormonal patch.
- If your sex life is not regular, you are prone to spontaneity, perhaps the most optimal solution is to use a condom.
- We should not rely entirely on the interrupted sexual intercourse or calendar method (it is very inefficient). That's more for women prone to anxiety and emotional instability. After all, all of them with special excitement wait for the onset of menstruation every month and feel relief only when it does come.
Do not nod to forgetfulness
The effectiveness of contraceptive pills, weekly plaster and vaginal ring is very high - more than 99%. But subject to strict adherence to the rules of admission. Do we always follow them clearly? It turned out that no. In regular "infringers" according to statistics are: 70% of taking pills, 30% using a band-aid, 20% preferring a vaginal ring. From 10% to 20% of girls claim that anxiety due to improper intake of contraceptives leads to quarrels with the second half or troubles at work. The methods of contraception are especially important in the first sex. They protect against unwanted pregnancy, infections and form a hygiene culture.