What is frigidity?
Difficulties with the onset of detente are often confused with true frigidity, while absolute coldness toward sex is not so common. Usually this is accompanied by aversion to sex, lack of excitement and any interest, indifference even in the presence of a lot of experience. In addition, there is also a temporary frigidity, which is successfully treated.
A woman who experiences excitement, but not an orgasm, can not be called frigid. As it is impossible to consider as a frigidity irregular orgasms. Everything has its own reason, sometimes it depends on the mood, sometimes on the partner, and sometimes on the genetic predisposition.
In order to know how to deal with the problem, you need to understand what prevents you from living a full sexual life.
The causes of frigidity.
The first and very likely reason why orgasms can persistently ignore you is health. On the sexuality and attraction are affected by many gynecological diseases, the failure of the hormonal background, depression, beriberi and the intake of certain medications. So, before you sound the alarm and start solving the problem yourself, you need to see a doctor and exclude all possible causes of coldness in bed, which can be associated with health.
The second reason is psychological. The lack of orgasms in women can be affected by too strict upbringing in childhood. In some families, all issues relating to sexuality are banned, and sex is hardly discussed or discussed as something dirty and obscene. Many mothers specifically frighten daughters with abortions, sexually transmitted diseases, and wild pains during sexual intercourse to prevent early sexual intercourse. This method of sexual education often leads to the fact that girls grow up, turn into women, but feel in bed with a man, as on the battlefield, when the danger can come from either side.
In addition, do not discount the features of psychology. Women are more emotional and in order to relax, many need an infinite number of conditions. It is trust in a partner, a strong desire, a suitable moment and atmosphere, mood and well-being. Sometimes such items can be too much to coincide at the right time, sometimes women themselves think of the conditions under which there can be a full orgasm. No wonder that it does not happen - if you give yourself one chance out of a million, then it probably will not fall out.
The third reason can be called the incompatibility of partners. You can be in love with each other, you can have a wonderful relationship, but the sexual life may leave much to be desired. But this problem is solved quite easily. It is necessary only to be liberated, to allow yourself new caresses, poses, to let something new into your life, how everything can change dramatically. If you are not sure of your abilities and that you are doing everything right, it is worth turning to a sexologist.
How to treat?
If frigidity is not a disease that the doctor has confirmed, but only temporary difficulties, you can solve the problem on your own.
In sex, a lot depends on the partner, so do not rely on someone who does not like you or does not like it for some reason. With a close person to achieve the desired enjoyment is much easier.
Do not be silent about your problems, talk about them. There is nothing terrible in that you do not languish with passion, like girls in pornographic films. Even men have misfires, and this does not mean that it's time to put a cross on sexual life. Remember that irregular sex and frequent change of partners are not the best option in the search for happiness. Even those women who usually do not have difficulties with getting pleasure from sex, can not completely relax with a new partner.
Do not hesitate to connect fantasy, because sex has long been banned and there is nothing that would be taboo in the event that it brings pleasure. Find out what exactly you like, you can only with the help of experiments.
Try after trying, but concentrate not on the final, but on your feelings, on what you really like. It's worth being honest with yourself and with your partner, then there will be no problems with getting pleasure.
Many women consider themselves quite happy, but they do not know what an orgasm is. Some experience the pleasure of sex without discharge, and do not consider this a problem. Perhaps, orgasm is a worthy goal, for which it is worthwhile to work, and, perhaps, for you it is only a myth, without which life is already quite good. Remember that everything is individual in matters relating to intimate relationships, and your couple does not have to comply with any standards. In the end, no one will put a sign of quality on your bed, except for yourself.