For some reason, the view that with the birth of a baby, the female joys end, densely populated in the minds of modern young mothers. The constant impact of fatigue, lack of sleep, nervousness, misunderstanding of relatives, and in addition dissatisfaction with their figure - all these factors completely kill us in true femininity.
Down with the negative energy!
Appearance is a mirror image of our inner world. At first, the young mother after the birth of the child is terribly tired of not getting enough sleep, then - from the efforts to take care of the baby, then - from the monotonous life, then - from misunderstanding of the relatives, and so on, without breaks and days off. It's not surprising that you sometimes want to cry, scream, even fight. It's just your negative energy that needs to be exited. Try not to admit the situation when your negative will ricochet in the child, in the husband, in other people dear to you. To do this, you need to give in advance a safe splash of your energy.
It is best to enroll in a fitness associated with martial arts (for example, taibo), or you can just hang a pear at home and pound it. Stress will come down, although this is not the whole solution to the problem. Then you need to assess the situation with a "cooled" head and understand: the cause of your indignation was real problems or you just got tired and there was a breakdown. If there is a problem, it must be solved. Simply releasing a couple here will not help. And to endure is also not an option. So you pound yourself, turn into an old woman, hate yourself and ... better not continue.
Do not make a lightning rod from your husband!
According to statistics, after the birth of a child, the greatest number of divorces occur. Husbands often leave the family, leaving their wives alone with the child. And in this most often the woman is guilty. She completely forgets that next to her - a man. What he wants to see in his beloved woman is sexuality and femininity, to feel her care, and not just to be used as an object for the release of a couple or a factory for making money. The woman believes that the husband is obliged to listen and tolerate her hysterics, pretend that he likes her forever unwashed hair, bitten nails and tired, swollen from sleepless nights face. And he does not have to, he's the same person as everyone else, he loves his eyes, after all! And, not getting any comfort for the eyes and soul, he leaves.
The worst thing is that in the absence of a number of men, young mothers generally turn into a hell of a thing. They forget their original purpose - to be a woman. By giving themselves to the child, they plague their souls with suffering, and their bodies with indifference to themselves. Hence the important conclusion: take care of men!
They are necessary not only for making money and helping the household, but also for preserving one's own femininity. Of course, many young dads can be blamed in many respects: they spend less time with their children, do not have time to help with housework, and do not always understand that maternity leave is not a holiday, but the most that is work. But here the main thing is to use peaceful methods: you know your own husband better, you know what kind of levers you need to pull, so that he himself wants to meet you.
Do not forget about beauty
Remain beautiful and attractive woman, even after childbirth can and is even necessary. A woman must constantly feel her sexuality. Therefore do not be shy to like your man, and yourself.
Do not be afraid to defend your right to go to a beauty salon or shopping. Let it happen infrequently - the main thing that such impulses were. Look in the mirror more often - because now you are looking not only at the husband, but also your baby. Do not dare to go down to stretched shirts, ugly dressing gowns and worn out exercises.
Sex - "yes"! !! !!
The child is not at all an obstacle to sex. The temporary absence of desire is normal. The most difficult thing is to start. So start - the appetite comes with eating.
Let first you do not feel the former pleasure. You are a little out of touch, but it's fixable. Remember: a young mother needs sex. The sight of an unsatisfied woman, let alone a man, is a miserable sight. And fatigue in addition to sexual dissatisfaction is deadly for your femininity.
In a cage or in the wild?
You, of course, can sit with the child at home: day after day, month after month, and amuse yourself with the hope that everything will pass. And you can not initially suffer, but learn to live on a new one, only with a child. Start going to visit, to exhibitions, to the store, try to pass on the right, get additional education.
Each mother, if desired, invents her own ways to feel life. Do not neglect such useful things as sling, backpack-kangaroo, stroller, carrying and other convenient modern inventions. This will help you be with your child more mobile.
More sexuality!
And it's not about dresses, manicure and hair. A young and beautiful mother in a mini-skirt and lace pantyhose with a baby and a stroller looks rather ridiculous than attractive. Just do not forget to keep an eye on the figure and do not dress well, but stylishly. It is better to give preference to a sports style - such things are fashionable, they will not lose their sexuality, but will only emphasize it.
Keep your posture. She will say everything for you: either "I am an unhappy and exhausted woman, how hard are the children given", or "Look, what a beautiful mother I am, what a lovely kid I have! "
And yet, sometimes it is not a sin to resort to flirting. This is a harmless game that adds confidence to a woman. Do not forget that you are a woman who can draw attention, give warmth and positive, admire yourself. If you do not go too far, such "exercises" are very useful. In the end, enjoy your results will be your favorite man.