As there are no identical women, so there is no equal perception of the world and oneself during pregnancy. But the main stages of pregnancy of women all the same are noted. From the point of view of doctors, the first stage of pregnancy is from conception to fetal movement. First you often feel joy (I'm pregnant, I'm all right!) Or surprise (if pregnancy was not expected). Then comes a sobering sense of responsibility, anxiety - but will I manage it? There is also a slight regret about the past freedom, that now you will have to think not only about yourself.
And then comes the feeling that you are standing at the start - and excitement, and a slight impatience, and a little adrenaline! The process has gone! Often, future mothers worry if everything is okay with them, if they are not immediately happy about the future birth of the baby? After all, there is a belief that the maternal instinct should be manifested from the first days of pregnancy. Alas, it happens, rather, in touching novels.
In expectant mothers, a trembling attitude towards pregnancy, love of a crumb and a desire to care for a future child can manifest themselves in different periods and develop at different rates. The timing of these changes is individual. A woman who has long dreamed of motherhood, relishes every moment of special feeling. Cares about itself and already from the first weeks of experiencing: a boy or a girl? Someone does not think about the child yet. Here with yourself to understand: both drowsiness and salty want to horror, and wine at the party is no longer possible. During the first weeks, the joy of what happened and the gamut of experiences associated with changes in life periodically change each other.
Do not blame yourself for the initial discontent. Future parents sometimes need time to get used to the idea of their new role and make changes to their plans. In addition, the situations at the time of awareness of pregnancy are very different. And they can cause the future mom's very different feelings, and not always positive. There will have to think about. The unborn child is not to blame for the incorrectness of this world, for the "untimely" arrival to the world, for the complexities of the material and civil status of his parents. You left this baby, so you need it. Do you want him to be healthy? Let thoughts about this and be the most important. And all the rest for nine months, one way or another, will be adjusted. So, gradually mother will learn to protect herself and the future baby from the negative of the outside world.
Despite the fact that in the first third of the pregnancy, the state of health may not be very pleasant, sad or disturbing thoughts that have arisen in the first 2-3 weeks, the "beginning" future mother usually does not bother. She realizes that all the troubles associated with her situation are part of the normal course of the process. And so it starts to concern them. The most wonderful thing at this time is to think that the child is, and all this is a sign of "his" existence. And as for toxicosis, we know with you that this is not for life.
The second stage of pregnancy is marked by a miracle: you feel in yourself the movement of a new life. The first movements of the fetus make us realize that he, while still in the womb, is an independent being. He jostles, sleeps, turns. It is in these moments that the sensation of maternal tenderness and rapture before the birth of one's own child rolls and covers with the head. By the fourth month, the level of hormones in the blood levels. And, therefore, physical malaise and mental imbalance soften, become habitual. The consciousness that the mood change that took place in the first trimester is amenable to explanation and is of a temporary nature, helps to look at one's own emotions from the outside. Now, in the middle of the road, it's time for a woman to think about the future. She is preparing for this actively. He begins to monitor his health more carefully. Begins to attend courses for future mothers, tries to attach to this and the baby's dad. There, a woman, or a married couple, meets with the same confused and slightly frightened future parents, understands that they are not the only ones who are "pregnant."
However, women are becoming more demanding of the care and participation of relatives, especially the husband. Pregnant women are more sensitive to anxiety and insult when they are not shown sensitivity and love. This condition is explained by the need to provide a favorable environment for themselves and the child. Check how much the family is willing to change their lives after his birth. A woman can project onto her own life and the future of her child a situation from randomly heard life stories, movies, books. Mothers seem to be practicing, trying on themselves the possible joys and sorrows. They play various imaginary situations with the participation of their loved ones. Misunderstanding or direct clash of opposing points of view can lead to serious conflicts in the family. However, such situations arise infrequently and do not disturb the general confident and vigorous state of health. Many women estimate this period of pregnancy as the most pleasant time of their life - the time of confidence, tenderness and care.
At this time, and arose a special tenderness and a sense of intimacy, the fusion of mother and child. There is their inner dialogue: "Now we'll come home with you, eat and rest. Until then, do not push so, please. " After all, the baby is pushed, but the mother and child really eat and rest together. From the behavior of my mother (that I ate for dinner, walked on the street, etc.) depends on the new independent life of another person.
However, this merger, while quite natural, would be nice to be more careful. "We are already 25 weeks", - rejoices Mom, speaking of herself and the child in one indissoluble unity. Perhaps, all the same not to "us", and the future child? You already have a little more! And in your life there have been and will be other accomplishments. And before life was life, although now it is almost unbelievable. Let's agree that 25 weeks after all your child, and you have 25 weeks of pregnancy. It is pleasant to share with his future child his growth and development, to feel him a part of himself. This is your blood, your sun! But after birth, he still becomes an independent person. And prepare yourself for such a motherhood, correct, healthy, respecting the personality of the child, would be nice from the first days of pregnancy.
The third, last of the main stages of pregnancy of women is different in that the expectant mother is preparing for childbirth. And he does not want to think about anything, except for meeting with the child. She already feels herself different, tired of waiting and wearing a heavy body. All changed her mind, all worried, ready for anything, if only sooner! The process is almost finished, the last act is left. That's birth - and everything will be in order.
In some women, the instinct of motherhood is manifested after childbirth. His apparent "absence" during the past nine months is not an excuse for experiencing his own "inferiority". For his baby, his mother will be the most necessary, caring and beloved. Let's recall one of the heroines of the popular series "Sex and the City". Aimed at the career of a lawyer, she accidentally became pregnant, spent all nine months doing careers, problems of girlfriends, relations with her husband, with perplexity perceiving changes in her own body. And only when she saw her baby, she realized deeply and acutely what kind of miracle, happiness and responsibility - a child!
And in this case there is nothing rare and surprising. At one woman the hormonal background grows steadily, at the other there can be a splash. And the third and without the help of hormones all his life dreams of becoming a mother, becomes her, and is happy, like another heroine of the same series. Pregnancy is the most serious "adventure" that a woman makes during her life. And may these nine months, like nine passed steps, allow you to feel the happiness of future motherhood.