How to behave if there are envious people at work

Ever since childhood, some have loved something to boast, and others could not help envying. Once, we cried and bragged to each other, who is more beautiful than a typewriter or a doll. Then the insults, cries, tears, and even fights began. Of course, each child expressed his own opinion, but the essence was the same. Years passed, and now envious people are already worried not because of the dolls. Envious people are everywhere: at home, at work, even in the store. A person may not know us, but after seeing something, envy. Of course, envy is not only black. There are people who themselves admit that they are a little jealous of you because you were lucky. But, at the same time, they do not want evil. It's much worse when this black envy is. And even worse, when such envious people at work. It's hard to foresee how you behave at work so that such people do not harm you. After all, when you can correctly behave, if those with whom you need to see each day envy, then you can avoid many troubles. So, how to behave if there are envious people at work?

In order to protect themselves and learn how to behave, if there are envious persons at work, it is necessary to know the reasons for their behavior and the levers of pressure on such people. Firstly, it is worth remembering that people are, by their nature, envious. You yourself envy someone, just do not say it, or you try to suppress this feeling. This behavior is commendable, as well as when you notice that someone envies you, but does not try to hurt, but, on the contrary, takes an example from you and wants to become better. But, quite another thing, if people can not look at the fact that you have a good family, home, car and you are achieving something at work. When such people are in the team, they need to be able to be protected. Of course, being at work, you can not completely isolate yourself from such individuals, because you still have to rotate in society. But, nevertheless, you can learn to behave in such a way that they have as little chance of insulting, offending and harming you.

There are several basic rules explaining how to behave with such people. So, first, learn not to be too frank. Even if you are a very open person, you need to be careful with such people and think about what you are saying. Never allow yourself to publicly announce that the boss praised you for the work done or you received a bonus. In general, try to talk as little as possible about yourself, brag about your personal life, relationships with your loved one. Remember that envious people get angry not only because of your achievements at work, but also simply because you are a happy person. Also, if something happens or something does not work out, do not let yourself complain to everyone. Remember that envious people can use this against you. But, at the same time, you should not be gray and inconspicuous, so long as no one envies you. The fact that there are bad people next to you is not a reason to take care of yourself, to walk in the cabins and ride a tram, when you have the opportunity to buy branded clothes, go to the beautician and come to the office on an expensive car. It's just that you never need to do something through a measure. If you constantly brag about new things to employees who can not afford it, and literally despise their poverty, then there is nothing terrible in that they envy and get angry. It is necessary to always remain a normal and adequate person who respects himself, but does not forget about others either. If you see that someone from the staff has done a great job, and a colleague has acquired a chic dress - be sure to praise and compliment. The main thing is that your words are sincere. If people feel false on your part, they will be angry, irritated and envied even more. In the fact that you are more successful and happier than someone, there is nothing bad and terrible. It's bad when you constantly put it on display and literally pokes in the eyes of those who, for some reason, do not.

Also, some employees may think that you have achieved something because of an attractive appearance or connections. Naturally, they begin to envy you and get angry, because they do not have the opportunity to achieve the same, because the appearance is so-so and communication is absent. If this is not true, people should not be allowed to slander you. You have achieved everything with your own labor and have every right to reap the benefits. Therefore, do not be afraid to tell the truth. Let them know that you have achieved that you have a car, for one simple reason, for example, because you have been working since the age of fourteen. And the salary and praise of the boss you also get is not by chance and not for beautiful eyes. It's just that when your friends walked and rested, you sat over books, and finished two specialties at the same time. Let everyone know that you are not so lucky as they think. Only, make sure that your explanations do not turn into a pitiful excuse. Do not act like you feel guilty for what you have. Do not belittle yourself like that in other people's eyes, and in your own. You have not in vain tried and are trying to continue. And, if these people could not and did not want to do something, then this is only their fault. And by the way, they can fix everything if they really want to.

In fact, a good and kind person can be fenced off with envy. Of course, someone will still look at him obliquely, but most, if they envy, only in white. The fact is that your friends and acquaintances will always know that you have achieved everything yourself, do not boast about what you have, are always ready to help and share. Such people will always help you, support and protect you from envious people. Therefore, try to be optimistic, do not let yourself be discussed and gossiped. And yet - never envy the other with black envy. In this case, near you there will always be a lot of good people who just let her bilious and greedy envious people spoil your life.