According to polls, most of us prefer to work with men. They do not weave intrigues, they rarely gossip and do not allow themselves to solve working problems under the influence of emotions. But to win the favor of the men's team, we will have to try. A man will always behave differently than a woman, and demand a special approach to himself, whoever he may be to you - a colleague, subordinate or boss. How to behave to a woman in a male team? Well, it's not as simple as it might seem ... At first glance it seems that it's easier to work with men: it's easier to negotiate with them, they can usually be relied on, and they are unlikely to break our bad mood. At least that's what the men themselves think. On the other hand, to earn the respect of a male colleague, we ourselves will have to change the habitual "female" behavior and play by the new rules ...
Under the same conditions
If you and your colleague occupy equal positions in the company, then, whether you like it or not, you will have to compete with each other. Do not hope that a man will give you a head start and will be lenient. On the contrary, in a female colleague, he would rather seek out shortcomings than to notice virtues. Do not be offended by such an employee and consider his behavior as gender-based discrimination. It's best to be proud of yourself: if a man criticizes you, then he sees you as a worthy competitor, and his ostentatious disdain is just a method of self-defense. But in order for a colleague to respect you as a specialist and listen to your opinion, you will have to prove to him that you deserve it. For this you need to constantly improve your professional level, competence and general erudition. Agree, it's nice to have a strong competitor in the person of a man. In fact, this is a true and rather fast way to professional growth.
In addition, career experts advise adhering to the unspoken rules adopted in men's groups. Do not openly point out the man to his mistakes and misses, especially the presence of other employees - this is unlikely to achieve respect for yourself. If you notice an incorrectly filled document or an unsuccessfully drawn up plan, wait until you stay with a colleague with an eye to eye, and politely suggest making corrections: "I had an interesting idea. I think we should move the deadline for the project the next month, so that the contractor has time to fulfill the order. Do you think this will be reasonable? "
Remember also that you should not joke about a man if you are not sure that your joke will be correctly interpreted. And try to reduce communication on personal topics to a minimum: you do not need to complain to a man about fatigue and a difficult task, start out in long stories about children or be interested in his family life, until he himself touches this topic. From the way a woman behaves in a man's team depends more than you think.
If the boss is a man
Of course, the bosses are different. However, in some ways all male bosses are similar. The man is focused on the result and does not like to go into details. Therefore, you must immediately clearly understand the task and be able to perform it without errors and on time. Numerous additional questions like "I can not get through to the CFO to find out the data I need. What to do? ", Most likely, will only annoy your boss. Therefore, try to solve all the current issues yourself and do not contact the boss without emergency.
Secondly, one should take into account personal habits of the leader, his manner of communication and style of work. For example, if the boss who appreciates the brevity, summoned you to himself and asks you to tell about the results of your week's work, your task is to briefly list the most significant achievements.
And one more important detail. Perhaps you are used to the idea that the initiator of new ideas should be a man. Well, in my personal life it's not bad. However, in business, a woman needs activity. So do not be afraid to make new suggestions and express your thoughts. In addition, modern managers increasingly value employee loyalty to the company. Try to consider each task not from the point of view of the performer, who performs strictly defined functions, but as part of the global task of his firm. If you "understand the context" and are ready to perform even the work that is not part of your duties, your efforts will sooner or later appreciate. In the end, you do not work with zealous misogynists, but with professionals in their field. Is not it?
Win a subordinate
The most difficult task, perhaps, is to deserve the recognition of male subordinates. Learn to control emotions and think logically. Without this, it is impossible to manage the men's team. Remember that from his manager a man will demand clear tasks, competent planning and timely resolution of current problems. And if, for example, he can not perform his work due to incorrectly planned terms, then he will not be angry for lack of time, not for himself, but for you.
Hence the rule: putting the task before the subordinates, formulate it as concretely as possible, preferably in writing, and in advance specify which information the employee will need to perform it. Also, try not to give male subordinates an opportunity to attribute to you "typically feminine" qualities - bias, changeability and capriciousness. To do this, in advance, consider what criteria you will evaluate the work of your employees, and do not give up your own rules. And never allow yourself to succumb to emotions - male colleagues will not forgive you and, most importantly, they will hardly forget about your mistake. Women-bosses are considered to be hysterical and self-willed. Not too flattering reviews, is not it? It's time to eradicate these stereotypes. By the way, according to statistics, women are better able to cope with the planning of complex projects and are good at delegating responsibilities. So, do not be afraid, believe in yourself, be polite, careful, and you will succeed. Men - and colleagues, and bosses, and subordinates - appreciate true professionals regardless of gender!
Star Expert
Albert POPKOV, the creator of the Internet portal "Classmates. en ยป
As a rule, gender does not influence professionalism. If a person is a specialist in his business, understands what is required of him and what he can offer himself, it does not matter whether it's a woman or a man. I myself never had to be subordinate to women, so I can not say what it's like when a woman is a boss, but I have many familiar girls who hold managerial positions, and this shows that at one time the management of companies appreciated them at their true worth, regardless of gender. I do not think that we can talk about some kind of oppression of women in terms of employment. In those companies with whom I collaborated. They equally employed women and men. Although, of course, if you look around, it becomes clear that there are much fewer women in decision-making positions and in the technical environment. I do not think that this is due to male chauvinism. Rather, it's all about some kind of ... tradition, or something. Here, take any technical college. After all, girls still go there with much less willingness than boys. And if we talk about dishonest ways to get a job, then I know several cases where women got the right positions, just as they used some of their female tricks.
At work, men do not like when a woman:
1. Loudly laughs;
2. He talks too much;
3. He hesitates and can not make a decision;
4. Explains his failure by male chauvinism;
5. Criticize their light unshaven or imperfectly ironed shirt.
A man will appreciate if you:
1. Recognize his success;
2. Do not be afraid to take risks;
3. Self-confident;
4. Take the initiative.