First, let's see what kind of "treason" it is, and what we are used to already understand by this word. From the point of view of psychology, treason is one of the most common problems of married couples, especially those who have lived together for a long time, and imply an extramarital affair. According to most people - this is pure water betrayal, which is not forgiven, and because of which you should take offense, swear and divorce. But, no one in the rush of feelings takes into account the fact that treason also happens to be different, and that we are all living beings, and not necessarily as one, resistant to physical and mental impulses. Experienced psychologist, to assess the damage caused by treason, will take into account first of all the proximity of partners or spouses, then the nature of treason, and only then find out the reason. After all, by nature, betrayal can only be a sexual attraction, or, conversely, carry in itself not only a physical, but also an emotional connection. Accordingly, the presence of an emotional background will cause the traitor's dependence, from his new object of entrainment, which qualitatively complicates the situation.
Reasons for change.
Psychologists identify the seven main reasons why men leave "on the left." The most common is an accidental connection that does not cause any, special emotions, or feelings, and usually does not carry a regular character. For the remaining six species, the basis and motivation for action are the shortcomings of family life, the desire to repeat past feelings and experience feelings, unrequited love. As often treason simply becomes a revenge, for the same treason, after that the husband does not recognize and feels some sense of accomplishment, than justifies his actions.
Therefore, one can draw a small conclusion that any treason, as a kind of crime, has its own degree of severity, and therefore must have its own punishment. And like every "criminal", a traitor has the right to recognize and not admit his guilt, until then, until it is proven.
Was it so or not?
Speaking of treason, namely why a husband does not confess his sins, it is necessary first to clarify, but was it really? Perhaps your husband does not admit, because there is nothing to admit. Of course, if you caught him at the crime scene, then, in general, and something to say or explain, it is at this moment, there is no sense. Well, if this treason is only your guesswork. Many attribute to the category of change the usual flirting. Such phenomenon as flirting is inherent in the life of everyone, and we apply it more or less actively, depending on the situation and the person himself. There are cases when flirting passes certain limits, but still does not reach treason, it turns out "game on the edge", from which a person also receives certain positive emotions. So maybe your husband is just a gambler, and is it just worth adding a little game to your family life?
Why he does not admit treason?
If nevertheless treason is an obvious fact, but the culprit, as before, pretends that there was nothing, what to do in such cases and how to explain such behavior? It is worthwhile to understand that betrayal is stress not only for someone who has been changed, but also for someone who has changed. Initially, a traitor is in constant fear of "and suddenly learns," and then the next wave of stress rolls over him when the wife does find out. And, as you know, fear and instinct of self-preservation are more effective than promises to always speak only the truth. This is the pointlessness of the question of why the husband does not want to admit treason? The second argument in favor of the absence of meaning is the answer question, which you should ask yourself: "but really you would like to know about treason?". Most, of course, immediately answer "yes", arguing this with mandatory marital fidelity, the absence of secrets between spouses and other things. But, and if you think realistically, after all, betrayal could be accidental and not matter, and then you have to live with it. He could have long regretted it, and not even look at other women's punishment, and after such a truth you really wanted, a breakdown of family relations is possible. Moreover, usually clarifying the relationship does not go away without tears and hysterics. It is not enough, which woman will have the strength to take everything calmly and just talk. And men most of all do not like to be the object to which this whole stream of emotions is spilled. That's why they keep silent about their adventures, for the preservation of the nervous system, both their own and their wives. One should not forget about public opinion, condemnation of neighbors and other things that often do not give us life. Usually a trivial "what people will say" is also one of the main reasons why women decide to break the relationship. Fear of falling under the court of society, while losing his beloved wife and closing his mouth to the castle.
How is it through the eyes of a man?
In order to understand why your husband does not admit to treason, you should also look at the very fact of betrayal through the eyes of a man. However it may be trite, but often no romanticism, let alone love, does not come. Of course, there are times when it comes to high feelings, but usually from the outside everything seems low and cynical. Ordinary physical communication, to compensate for the lack of attention on the part of the wife, relieve stress, gain new sensations, etc., but not intention to leave his wife and live happily ever after with his mistress. The most interesting is that often the answer "well it turned out" is pure truth, and does not carry any secret reason behind it.
Therefore, dear ladies, do not allow the thought of treason in the head to your husbands, give them your love and emotions and try to just understand. Then you will not ask yourself "why does not my husband confess," and the conversation about treason, unlikely, will sometime take place in your family. There is no need to raise the concept of treason to the norm, but to position it as a point in any relationship, too, is not worth it. After all, in our life, as in a fairy tale, there is both good and evil, something more, something less, but without this our life was not what it is.