How to build relationships with your mother-in-law?



Understanding ... It does not always come at once, but how much it means to us and our dearest people! Nobody could believe that I could even worry so much ... Friends, colleagues, husband, parents knew my strong character very well. Nevertheless, on the eve of the New Year holidays, I was very worried ... And not because I could not afford to buy good gifts for my husband and relatives. They were bought in advance. But it was to meet the New Year in the house of the mother-in-law. This circumstance was so strained that I wanted to become a snail and hide in the shell. Mum's husband is special: just Mrs. Perfection - perfectly prepares, sews, knits and even embroideries with a cross! And what crosses! As if the car is quilted! My mother-in-law and me tried to teach. However, I ended up being able to break my fingers
only to herself, but to her. She does not come to us almost now. Probably do not like our apartment in high-tech style. My mother-in-law loves antiquity. She has wallpapers with columns and porticoes everywhere, and ivy creeps along the walls and there is even a forch tank. Under his murmur, Mrs. Perfection embroces her masterpieces after dinner. And, of course, believes that the son is very afflicted by the abundance of metal and black. And after all the husband himself chose a chrome bar rack and halogen lamps, he dreamed of arranging our home completely differently than it was done with his parents. But is it possible to say mother-in-law that Roman is the author of our super stylish house design?

This year, the husband and son agreed that we all meet the New Year together. Us with the daughter-in-law was just put before the fact. Two years ago, after the wedding, the young people went to Prague, last year they were with Marina's parents. Now here ... Surely the daughter-in-law agreed only out of politeness and again will be like a strained string. The question is, who needs such a New Year's Eve ?!
Lord, how can I not want to go to this "acropolis" again! Everything will be like at a reception with the queen ... And my mother-in-law does not tolerate me, which means that the whole evening will go wrong! It would be better to go somewhere together with Romka alone or just sit at home with a bottle of frankovka, as once in a wonderful cozy Prague cafe ...
Strange girl - my sister-in-law! Every time it cringes when I embroider. And she tried to teach me! Maybe I would have relaxed a little, it became softer ... So no, my fingers broke off, I got angry. Already after all I try to them and not to go.
I do not want to bring it to a conflict. There is a feeling that she just hates me, and I have not done anything wrong. I gave my only son ... I'm ready to teach everything I can. And to sense?

Now for the New Year to meet ... Why should he? Ur, bought a culinary guide! After all, you still have to go, but not with empty hands. And you can not bring a bought cake: your mother-in-law will again tighten a long monologue about the benefits of homemade baking. I'll take and bake an apple sponge cake! Just like we ate in a Prague cafe! The mouth will melt! I will fill in cinnamon twice more to finally please her, she loves!
When I heard from my son what my daughter-in-law planned, I had to pretend that I was very happy. However, she was really scared. Again, nothing will work, and I will be to blame, no matter how much I react. The dough certainly will not get it right! But if Marina decided something ...
So ... The dough was covered with bubbles ... It became magnificent! And apples are fragrant! Even Romka ran into the kitchen.
"What makes you so smell, Marishka?"
"Guess it!" I giggled back. He tasted the dough, dipped his finger in it, and sucked in quite a bit. Smiled, hugged me, kissed me ...
"No, no, not now!" I protested. - You can not break the process! There's no accounting for you - real art! I can imagine your mother's face when she sees this fabulous, delicious pie!
"Cinderella you are mine!" A miracle beloved!

Just do not forget: too good - too bad. You are the best! But my mother is the best. And when will you understand this?
"Go and do not bother me," I got angry. "Do not you have anything to do?"
- Just trying too hard to please, that's all and does not come out.
"This time will come out!" Rest assured! I will strike all culinary abilities, taking a worthy place next to your perfect mother!
We embraced my mother-in-law. At once it became so easy ... "Mom!" - suddenly burst out at me
When Marishka came in with a big box in her hands, a sigh of relief escaped me. Fuh! It seems, this time my foreboding did not come true!
- Congratulations! - I said, and my daughter-in-law only smiled enigmatically.
"Here, hold the present!" - and handed her a frame for embroidery. - You sit from morning till night in your office ... This will definitely help you relax.
But the girl suddenly flushed and, snatching the frame from my hand, almost threw it into the corner near the hanger. And then the whole evening was terribly tense and taciturn.
Well, why do I need this stupid frame? It is much more pleasant to read or see a film, pressing against Romka. No, my mother-in-law clearly believes that I should rest only with benefit! And today I could not help spoiling my mood! Anger only released a little when I put my pie on the table. "Now they all will finally appreciate me! Understand what I can do! "
Not at all doubtful that the delicious biscuit was, I put everything in a huge piece. But when I took a bite, I locked myself in the throat so much, I almost caught my breath. I barely had time to reach the kitchen to drink some water. And when she returned, Marina was no longer in the room.

And how did I manage to spoil the pie ?! It turns out, instead of cinnamon, there was a sharp curry that stood nearby ... Banks, after all, from the same set, and the color of the seasonings is almost the same ... Yes, even twice as much as was written in the recipe! And all for my mother-in-law to evaluate my efforts in the end!
I sat down on the step, burst into tears. Roma came up and patted him on the shoulder. But rudely pushing her husband away, I cried out:
"Bring your coat, let's go!" And my feet in this house will be no more!
- Well ... Then, maybe we can try to talk right here? Her mother-in-law stood in the doorway, her voice trembling. - Humanly, without resentment and emotion ... This drop overflowed the cup, and I decided to express everything that has accumulated!
- Yes, finally understand: I'm not like you! - the daughter-in-law threw her evil through tears. "And let him cook badly and do not know how to embroider, but your son is still happy with me!" And even today's gift will not destroy our marriage!
- How can the tapestry frame destroy your marriage? Did I suggest blocking your bed with her? And then Marishka looked at me with a stupefaction and suddenly ... laughed. Yes, it's so contagious that my son and I could not stand it and they also burst out laughing. The semi-dark staircase lighted up instantly.
"You think I do not see Roma happy with you, my girl?" And I'm not just grateful for that, but I treat you like my own daughter, "I said, laughing. "But no matter how hard I try, you take everything hostile." You will not believe it, but sometimes it seems to me that you simply hate me ...

When my mother-in-law spoke of hatred, it struck me like a current. I realized that she, too, was struggling to achieve my disposition, that she also did not get it, that she too was nervous. And these unexpected kind words about the daughter ... They are very touched!
- Yes, what a hatred! On the contrary, I've always wanted to like you so much! And you ... You are always unhappy ...
She said this, wiping her wet cheeks. And then, as if pushed from the inside:
- Mama...
This word suddenly burst out by itself, without any effort. I first called my mother-in-law. Then she came over and hugged me tightly. And my heart immediately became easy and clear, as in my childhood.
"I did not understand, will we have tea or not?" - the father-in-law standing in the door broke into a smile. "But it's me ... Tea is tea, and a bottle of champagne is waiting for everyone." It looks like we have something to drink. Come on, family, step march to the apartment! Once or twice!