Do not be unkind
So, first of all, remember that men dislike when they are reminded a hundred times. Therefore, if you know that your boyfriend, brother or friend is not distinguished by forgetfulness, one should not remind him a hundred times of clothes. He knows perfectly well what exactly he needs to accomplish and will do everything when he has the opportunity. But if you constantly buzz over your ear, repeating that this minute you must run and do all that you need, then most likely you will get a young man so that he will either do nothing to spite you, or he will, but more help you will not question him.
Well, what should we do when something needs to be done urgently? To begin with, immediately say that the case is urgent and explain why. Besides, remember that your arguments really should be weighty. For example, if you say that you need to move the cabinet right now, because you so want, then the man is unlikely to run to fulfill your request. But if you explain that the last five hundred rubles have fallen for the cabinet, and you are going to work, the young man he will tear himself away from his deeds and help you.
Unequal
Never say something in the style of "But you make Ana, but I do not." In order to reproach, you need to know why it was a young man who helped someone, but did not help you in the same situation. Most often, a man helps in the case when I'm sure that the girl really can not do this herself. For example, he will go to a friend to reinstall the operating system, because she does not understand this completely, but she will never do the same for her sister, who is a programmer by profession, and she is just too lazy or want attention. So, before you compare, think about why the guy does this. Most likely, he simply does not see the rational grain in your request. Hotlynogie women and used to argue all the phrase: "I'm a girl, I have to help everyone with the guys", in fact, this argument does not always work on men. And by the way, they are completely right. Why should a guy throw out his affairs (even if they seem unimportant to us) and run to the aid of a love affair if the girl herself can handle all of this? Strong sex, he certainly strong, but still not a servant and not a slave.
Clearly formulate requests
Another problem that constantly haunts the girls in situations where they ask for help from young people is lack of desire or desire to say everything clearly. Women like to hint and wait for the man to fool. Will not understand! Their thinking is different. It does not occur to them to hint at anything. Therefore, they often do not see the hints at all, and then they do not understand why this lady is again "puffed up" and does not want to talk.
When you want to ask for help, formulate your requests clearly and clearly. That is, if, for example, you need to help at home with repairs, you do not need to tell that "it would be nice to paste the wallpaper, but there's nobody to do, but you want something new." Speak clearly and clearly: "It is necessary to replace the wallpaper in the room, I myself can not cope, help, please. I wanted to start on Tuesday, can you do it or set another day? "In this case, the person sees a clear task before him, which he needs to solve, rather than reflecting on a free topic that he can generally ignore, because he did not address non-issues.
Learn to explain the reasons
There are some requests that seem to be male, but you really can not do without help. In this case, you need to explain to the guy that although it looks funny and strange, but you are not just attracting attention, you are not lazy, you really can not. For example, there are people who are panic afraid of heights, even if they climb onto a stool. Such a girl would not force herself, but she can not even remove the curtains. If she just asks the guy for help, he, of course, does not take it seriously, because others do not help in this situation. But if she explains it to him with an easy approach and without hysteria, admits that this is abnormal, and that she is struggling with her own fear, but she does not get it, then the guy will definitely come to the rescue, even if she teases her. This behavior generally does not take offense, because for you the main result, and even more so, sometimes it is necessary to be able to laugh at yourself.
Learn
In fact, men rarely refuse to help when they know that a woman can not cope. Only the last fool will not help nestisumki or not perform a purely male work around the house. But the guys often ignore the requests in those cases when the girl does not want to learn. For example, a man has repeatedly shown and explained to her how to install this or that program, but in principle this does not learn, and every time he asks for help. In such cases, guys rarely succumb to persuasion, because they believe that if a person does not want to do something, then he should not help. After all, if a few times do not help - the girl will learn herself. So, in the event that you notice this behavior behind you, think about how to change it. And if he does not agree with anything, promise him that now he will really learn from him, and there will be no such requests any more. Just remember that you really must fulfill your promise, because the next time it certainly will not help. If you start to do something with the vysses, and he sees that you are really trying, then he will obligatorily tell you and direct you to do everything as best you can. Men love it when others make an effort, rather than hoping that someone will come and do everything instead of themselves.
Praise the Man
If you ask a man for something, do not need to indulge. Do not act like your problems are more important than him. Especially if it's a brother or a friend. Yes, you are relatives, you are close people, but this does not mean that the guy should rush to help you for anything. Therefore, if the case is not urgent, let him choose a free hour to come and do everything. And, of course, do not forget to praise and thank. Never treat a man's help as he should. Remember that because of you he canceled some of his affairs, even if they are not serious for you. Therefore, when you ask for help from a guy, more often remind him of how strong he is, adult and courageous, how lucky you are that he is a uvas. You can even tinker a little, just do not bend the stick, because not all men like a heightened interest in their person. Simply when asking for help, show with your appearance that you are very happy with your attention to your problems and will certainly repay him with the same coin, when a young man will ask you for a favor.