Sociologists and psychologists cite data according to which only twelve percent of couples whose relationship is based solely on passion have a chance to find a strong family. Very strong sexual attraction and passion, which appeared at the beginning of dating or meeting, will gradually fade. After all, relationships need to be supported not only by intimate caresses, but also by conversations, walks, and a closer "psychological" acquaintance. This trend is particularly concerned about the female half. Therefore, many girls want to postpone the moment of the first intimacy with a partner for a longer period.
Of course, a categorical refusal of sex can offend a young person. Especially if he is set up exclusively for this. And then the relationship is likely to go wrong. But in a romantic relationship based on mutual sympathy, too, sooner or later the question will arise when intimacy will take place.
A girl can apply her circumspection and wit to postpone the beginning of sexual relations with a new partner for a while. So, not to provoke an intimate embrace, it is better to meet at first not at home or with a guy, but in public places. Especially if you like evening dates.
But at the very beginning of the relationship with his friend at all it is better to appoint for the daytime. After all, such a situation, when you, for example, lay down in front of a fireplace, covered with one blanket, and before you will have a bottle of champagne and fruit, men perceive as an open signal to active sexual activities. Do not allow such "events" in the first stages of dating and in general until you decide that you are ready to have sex. Do not bring your man to your home and do not go to him.
Let him come for you and you will go to some crowded place or public institution. Romance in a relationship is not conceivable without kissing. But such movements of the lips are very sexual and sensual. Therefore, they lead to a very strong stimulation of partners. Girls should not start kissing when you are in a place where nothing can stop you, so that the relationship goes too far. Do not kiss while sitting at home with your young man. Also, do not let a man or boy get too involved in hugs and kisses when you are alone with him.
Sometimes men who want to quickly have sex with a girl can deliberately adjust various provocative situations. So, for example, after a couple of dates, you again return home, and the time is approaching midnight. If your young hints at a cup of coffee, you can regard this hint as an invitation to sex. If you are not yet ready for such a relationship, do not reciprocate with such conversations and requests. Better say goodbye at the door of the entrance, completing the meeting with a gentle kiss. In this case, be sure to thank your young man for a wonderful evening. Remember that even if you invite your boyfriend to his home late at night "just for a little while", then inevitably there will be attempts to intimate rapprochement on his part.
Such invitations are regarded by the male sex as well as a signal to action. In order not to get stuck in the beginning on the topic of sex, joke more, laugh at the stories told and in general try to become comrades. The goal of any girl should be that a guy sees you as a friend, not just a potential lover. You can understand that you are on the right track, if you notice that a young man often tells you about himself. Men reveal themselves completely only to those of the women they really like. In such cases, a woman can safely flirt, but do not start her flirting too far.
You should also be careful with jokes on a sexual topic. Such jokes rarely have a hint or a hidden meaning. Often men use such jokes to check, so to speak, the ground underfoot. You should not be negative about any such joke, but know how to answer so that it becomes clear to the man that you are not ready for sex now.
Naturally, such a thought also needs to be brought to him with a sense of humor. In general, do not pay much attention to sexual topics, it is better to translate the conversation into another topic. If your friend has a car, then do not go beyond what is allowed and sitting in it. Do not allow a man to unbutton your clothes or remove it from you. If any of these actions begin, it will be very difficult to stop. To translate the relationship into a more friendly channel, often tell your young man compliments. The desire to get close to a person can be confirmed not only by actions, but also by words. Tell the man that he is very important to you and means very much. All men are pleased when a girl, as if by accident, but very deeply and with pleasure breathes the aroma of his toilet water during embraces. Also at the meeting, tell the man that he looks great. So you show the man that your wait and see behavior is not due to dislike for him, but he is very pleasant to you as a partner. If it's hard for you to restrain your feelings, then of course, you can and should show them. However, it should be done in public or in public places. Since something more in this situation can hardly happen. Many girls, postponing the beginning of an intimate relationship with a new guy, as if pre-set a time frame for themselves.
Do not tell the guy about the need to wait at least a month or two. And do not assign specific dates. This is not appropriate at all. You must understand that no one is obliged to enter into an intimate relationship at all. This should happen only when you consider it necessary. Such a moment should be determined solely by your desire and willingness. But do not take the position of an impregnable fortress, if a person is really pleasant and sympathetic to you. Show your own actions that you are interested in a person and have feelings for him. This can be done with simple gestures. For example, tilt your head on his shoulder, take the young man's hand. This will help him to feel his male power. Girls should not believe the masculine phrases that you just pobinimaetes. Often after the beginning of such embraces, male hormones make themselves felt and you can go very far. Watch your own actions and do not give the guy even random or funny signals. Men logically think differently. And even your innocent look they can accept for their willingness to have sex.
The male half of humanity is arranged in such a way that the girl's motivation for sex will be shown already on the first dates. However, despite this, many guys and men in their hearts want women to postpone the beginning of intimacy as long as possible. So they have a feeling that before them a special girl or woman. Much more than sex, men want you to find them witty, funny and original. Every man dreams to meet his "goddess." And women of such a plan can not give up quickly and easily. It must be conquered. So give the men this opportunity.