About distant countries about the blue seas about beautiful eyes


"Sex tourism" - sounds playful, piquant and very fashionable. Every year more and more men and women spend their vacations, being free love with strangers or buying sexual services right on the spot. Are there any limits to the permissible consumer tourism in the world and where does the pleasure route lead? About remote countries, the blue seas, the beautiful eyes - all the delights and pitfalls of sex tourism talk today.

Fifty-eight-year-old actress Charlotte Rampling knew in advance that she was provoking a scandal when Ellen played in the movie "To the South", released in 2006. In the late 70's an English middle-aged teacher went to Haiti in search of sexual adventures. Ellen meets a resort with a local black boy and pays him for sex. Cinema fearlessly violated many taboos at once and showed that side of life, about which society usually prefers to remain silent. Rampling in one of the interviews said she decided to star in this shocking film "out of solidarity with the poor country of Haiti and out of pity for women who have to go to the far end of the world to feel loved."

Hot routes

Annually in February-March, thousands of Canadian, American and Western women open a hot season in the Caribbean islands of Jamaica and Barbados. Other favorite sex routes are Southern Europe (mainly Greece, Italy, the countries of the former Yugoslavia, Turkey and Spain) and to a lesser extent Thailand and Africa - Kenya and the Gambia.

According to the estimates of the American researcher Jeanette Bellevo, who published in 2006 a book about women's sex tourism "Love away from home", over the past 25 years, at least 600,000 women from developed countries experienced this type of rest.

Thirty-, forty- and fifty-year-olds, financially independent, they spawn novels with young and attractive waiters, dancers, souvenir sellers, unemployed "beach boys". Spend time together in bed, on the beach and at holiday parties, and after the holidays they pay for expensive gifts (branded clothes, watches, etc.) spent together, and - less often - with money. In Southern Europe, escort lovers often do not require any compensation for a joint romantic holiday.

Unlike female male sex tourism is strongly associated with prostitution. In Thailand, for the sake of paid sex entertainment, about half a million foreigners leave each year, most of whom are men aged 35-55, middle class. They know Russian not by hearsay about distant countries. According to Rosstat, over the first 9 months of last year, Thailand was visited by more than 84 thousand Russians. This figure is 2.5 times more than for the same period in 2005. According to the experts of tour companies, most go just for paid sexual entertainment.

"This type of tourism is most popular among young male clients from 25 to 38 years old," says Natalia Kovaleva, manager of the Moscow travel agency Laurel, among others offering sex tours to Thailand. - They go alone, with friends or even couples, with a girl. In principle, a sex tour neither by the price, nor by the program from the usual does not differ. Simply, our local guide helps to orient, gives recommendations on the question "Where to go?" To the addresses of local entertainment establishments. Although, it should be noted, our tourists are very "advanced" in this respect, they themselves perfectly know everything. They choose Pattaya, other islands in Thailand, after all, for a more relaxing holiday. "

The received impressions our tourists on return are exchanged in numerous tourist forums. The main reason for such trips is the opportunity to combine cheap and quality sex services with an interesting tourist program.

"Why did I" hang "on taek and asian in general? - one of the visitors to the Internet forum asks, "The work got me. From sex with compatriots do not get such satisfaction. Aa and not quite I'm Brad Pitt. Family life? As my friend said, "for 10 years we have both become, in the apt words of the writer Victoria Tokareva," stools. " One "stool" brings money, just knowing that when you come home from work, you will see a bowl of borsch and a second "stool" in a dressing gown or a torn shirt ... After thirty to flirt already orderly bothers. Flirt-flowers-gifts-restaurant-numbers ... There is nothing new in this. In addition, emotional relationships have a habit of being captured and wounded at the time of rupture. A much simpler and more effective option is "I'll give you money, you need me - chairs," since in the end the man is exactly what is required ... And if there is an opportunity to get the same, yes, plus more for the same amount, plus plus travel, see peace, then "why pay more?"

Bed without obligations

Russian citizens a few years ago joined the general flow of sex tourists, at the same time expanding its geography. They are extremely resourceful as to where to go - sex tourism has a place almost everywhere. In domestic sex travelers, demand is primarily enjoyed by Turkey, Egypt and the Crimean coast. Next on the list are Spain, Greece, Croatia, the Indian island of Goa and Thailand's Phuket.

At the same time, unlike Western tourists, romantic vacations most often cost Russians for free. In most cases, develops a classic spa romance. Short communication of two adults during the rest. Without any mutual obligations and "on a free basis." But the motives are the same, global - loneliness, the need for attention and intimacy, albeit illusory.

"My husband is ten years older than me, intimate relationships with us are practically reduced to nothing, " Irina, 39 , says. - At home all the time I feel "under pressure": I do not behave this way, I look bad and so on. Once a year, in September, I throw everything and go with my friend in Sharm El Sheikh. We live in a four-star hotel, during the day we sunbathe and swim, at night we relax. These young Egyptians are just crazy with their sensuality, admiring glances, warn your every desire. At the time of vacation, I am completely satisfied with such relations and literally revive - I feel like a beauty and a queen. About any gifts or money speech is not. The most difficult thing is to go home: the first couple of weeks the depression is rolling. "

Another motive for female sex tourism is the thirst for sexual freedom. Far from home, you can forget for a while about the "moral principles" and complexes without fear that you will be considered dissolute and condemned.

Olesya, a twenty-four-year-old Muscovite, who visited Ibiza last summer, says that the very atmosphere of the island is very conducive to free love: "Ibiza is such an eternally gay noisy island where no one thinks about problems. We all just enjoyed the music, the sea and each other. Most tourists, of course, young people - Americans, Australians, Europeans (more often Poles and Bulgarians). A lot of rich people. The abyss of the "blue" boys. The main attractions are discos and clubs. Like on the beaches, drugs are offered near the entrance to the clubs - there is always pandemonium. Very easily you lose your head - a continuous holiday and love. "

In the format of "fast food"

What will turn a holiday romance in your life, depends only on yourself, psychologists are sure. Perhaps, light and short-term relationships will help perk up and again believe in their attractiveness and desire, be cured of the psychological trauma inflicted by love in the past, and give the strength to move on. Perhaps, they will expand your love and will free you from complexes, will help to realize at least some of the most secret sexual fantasies. The main thing is to preserve the sense of reality and not "sit down" on holiday romances, as a kind of narcotic. Otherwise, you risk becoming a cynical and deeply unhappy sex.

"Sex for such people is not an apotheosis of love and relationships, but pleasant minutes (analogue of massage)," warns Yevhen Kulgavchuk, a practicing sexologist, psychotherapist, vice-president of the Russian Association of Sexologists. - Over time, specific sexual starts are formed. Really gets this, in a permanent relationship, sex becomes uninteresting. People are disaccustomed to love. Useful or, conversely, this "tourism" harms sexual health, it is impossible to say unequivocally. Cons - sexually transmitted diseases (condom does not give a 100-percent guarantee). Pros - a way to raise sexual self-esteem, get a surge of emotions, feel the power of sexual energy. "

In the end, what to look for at the far end of the world - unpredictable, but true love or sex in the "fast food" format, everyone decides for himself.

Bible sex tourist

The popularity of sex tourism is promoted by books and films on this topic.

✓ In her best-selling book "How Stella started smiling again" in 1998, Terry McMillan told the story of her life: a lonely businesswoman travels to Jamaica and finds female happiness in the arms of a young playboy. In real life, Macmillan married a prototype of her hero. They divorced when the husband publicly confessed that he was gay.

✓ The play of Englishman Willie Russell "Beloved Shirley" about the romantic adventures in Greece of the elderly housewife Shirley enjoyed such success that the nickname of Shirley valentine was fixed for sex tourists from Great Britain.

✓ The most scandalous work about sex tourism is the "Platform" of the French writer Michel Huelbek. There is everything: distant countries, blue seas, beautiful eyes ... For a middle-aged and ordinary official, sex tourism becomes an idea fix: he dreams to make happy with his help all of humanity.

OPINION EXPERT:

Svetlana PROKOPYUK, psychologist, Gestalt therapist, employee of the psychological center "Here and Now"

People in our era of individualization, when the psychology of the individual, the wolf-man, the beneficiary of welfare, dominates, are increasingly alienating from each other and at the same time desperately wanting intimacy. We get used to watching each other from the side, not approaching. Every man for himself. It is more difficult to trust, to be friends, to love and to have strong families. At the same time, the need for

in a warm, trusting relationship. As a result, a monstrous lack of communication, including at the physical level. After all, bodily relations - caresses, touching each other - for a person from childhood are very important. When there are none, this is painful. And sex tourism in this case is one of the easy ways of substitution.

If the relationship undergoes a turning point or there are none at the moment, a holiday romance can be one way to gain recognition from the opposite sex, to immerse in a state of love, to revive one's own feelings. Such relationships do not imply obligations, as in the family. And at the same time help to feel necessary, attractive, to swallow romance, which is so lacking in everyday life.