Oh, these habits
Habits in children begin to form from the earliest stage of life. They are at all without exception, good and harmful, harmless and ridiculous. Habits can tell a lot about a person. Where do they come from? As we have already said, their formation begins with early childhood, when the children comprehend the new and seize on the fly, copy the behavior of their parents. Therefore, if parents, close friends or even strangers notice the gaps in this matter, then it's time to deal with childhood habits.
Raising children is also necessary with the formation of useful habits. In fact, there is no special work in this, and higher pedagogical education is not required. It is noticed that with each new toy, subject, daily recurring event, a new habit also appears. For example, they gave the kid a basket or a box for toys - now it's a matter of habit to clean them after the game. I want to dress and undress myself - you can teach you how to neatly put things on the shelves in the closet. With pleasure draws paints - let rinses a jar of water and dries the brush. And in such small steps good habits will be acquired that will not leave room for the rest, not very useful. How to raise children so that they grow up to be good people?
Useful tips for raising children
Raising children by good people, it is not recommended to do it under a strict dictate. Do not monitor every step of the child and constantly say what to do. Try to ensure that the child and do not download academicity and leave room for individual development. Encourage creativity, initiative, but not permissiveness.
Adults are the main teachers and landmarks. What to do, but with the advent of children in the house, we ourselves are under their close supervision. Any of our actions are perceived and evaluated by them. Therefore, parents themselves must show examples of cultural behavior and explain their rules. Agree, the child is unlikely to be organized and collected, if in the morning the dad is looking for a tie in a hurry, mother is the key to the house, and the younger brother is the favorite toy with which he goes to kindergarten. In addition, a personal example does not require any additional effort. This is the case when the action itself is instructive. They greeted the neighbor, held the elevator for the runner on the stairs, quietly closed the door so as not to wake the grandmother, thanked for the fresh newspaper of the kiosk worker - the child observes and adopts the behavior pattern. A personal example is a key moment in upbringing.
Sincere actions. The pleasure of a good deed, of a good deed can not be compared to any material payment. Your task is to explain to the child that you can unselfishly receive satisfaction from the realization that you did the right thing. Adults in this case do not need to be mean to praise and encouraging words. In addition, children will quickly repeat the action, which pleases both them personally, and parents, and people involved in this general process.
The amount of patience should not be exhausted. Equally and as your invention, ingenuity, sharpness. It is not easy to immediately teach the child to sincerely believe that brushing your teeth, washing, not throwing food, falling asleep in your crib is very pleasant. The first time will have to be repeated, explained, asked to remake, remind you not to evade the duties. And here it is important not to break, avoid everything as quickly as possible, hurry the baby. Over time, he will bring the usual procedures to automaticity and even he will not notice how a useful habit has become fixed. By the way, hygiene and self-control behind appearance is one of the most important elements of good upbringing. It seems to be a banal brushing of teeth is an excellent prevention of fighting laziness.
Test of strength. As the child grows up, its crisis curves, which at first sight seem destructive, habits will also be forgotten and even ignored. Here, and surprises begin, when the child completely forgets the strong habit! Usually this happens in adolescence, when children go against the public opinion. They get bored, burdensome, it's not interesting to repeat the same obligatory actions: to clean shoes, in the evening to collect a backpack to school, to take out garbage, to do homework. It is your firmness, without a hint of cruelty, constancy of repetitions, calmness that will help you to wait this time and will not destroy the rules to the end.
Trust and independence of the child. Sometimes parents themselves provoke and root bad behavior and bad habits of their children. Either too often they allow you to violate the rules of behavior, or chaotically change or at all try to do everything for the child. At first glance, they do not want unnecessary worries, waste time, insist and be able to find a compromise. Therefore they go on the occasion not to blush before strangers. Do for yourself a child quickly any business themselves, trying to save the load. In fact, a lazy, irresponsible egoist is growing up, which any conflict or problem in life will be solved by someone else's actions. Such excessive guardianship of parents does not leave the child's chance to prove himself. Try not to tie the child's shoelaces and solve school problems. Let him spend more time and do not do well, but he will do it himself!
Remember that proper education in many ways makes life easier for children. The child will become more confident, will not suffer because of non-assortment, will save valuable time for the implementation of his plans. Will be able to achieve recognition and will be respected in society. After all, it is always pleasant to communicate and deal with a well-bred person. And how many pleasant emotions this family will experience, when one does not have to suffer and resist the whims of children. Parents "with a capital letter" are obliged to raise children so that they grow up to be good people. In this case, they are easier to adapt in this world and will be able to achieve great success both in the professional sphere and in their personal lives.
Observations of psychologists
Each child learns new things and develops habits under the influence of internal impulses, which form a sensitive period. Psychologists even distinguish clear boundaries of this time. They have their beginning, a stormy stage of development and completion. It is important not to miss them and send them to the right direction for the child. He will orientate himself in the wisdom of life by his inspiration, natural and innate feeling. Then habits will become his compass for the future.
If the child goes in opposition to public opinion, then along with the jump in the development of the personality, this is facilitated by disorder. Chaotic changes, loss of landmarks, misunderstanding in its immediate surroundings. Perhaps even this is a protest and a call to adults to understand that he has new needs and they need to be taken into account.
Fear of bad habits, frequent illnesses, nervous behavior is the reaction of the child's organism to internal disorder. In this case, correction of the methods of education is necessary. It is advisable to seek help from a child psychologist. Your task is to be as close to the child as possible, to support it and to facilitate adaptation during the training previously unknown.
Nothing so supports the truthfulness of the words of adults, as an obvious demonstration of them. Therefore, from time to time it is useful and necessary to arrange days without rules, when much is permitted and permissible. For example, let the child not hurry to refresh the bed at the weekend, wash, breakfast. I want to hang around and watch cartoons - please! The most paradoxical thing is that children are very attached to the routine of things and any disorder will cause discomfort. Relatively speaking, he will not be able to closely follow the plot, when the room is not cleaned, in the stomach grumbles with hunger and generally the general state is not vigorous. Then the child is lost, confused, trying to restore order. It's very distracting! Here you understand that the time spent on the proper upbringing of the child will avoid accumulation of chaos and will not disturb his inner world.