Raising a child is a delicate matter, if, of course, you are serious and responsible for this same case. Communication plays an important role in the formation and development of the personality. Parents are always interested in the circle of communication in which their child dwells. We will understand how communication should be for the harmonious development of the child.
Often I hear such parental opinion that the child must go to the kindergarten in order to harmoniously and correctly develop in the circle of his peers. Although, more than once noticed that people who did not visit kindergartens in their childhood grew up and reached the same heights in their life as the Sadikov's peers. Most likely, the situation is quite different ... Perhaps these are hereditary factors, the makings that the parents endowed the person with and much more. That is, not only a kindergarten provides the impact of communication is not the development of personality, but many other factors. Let's talk about all this in more detail.
Mom, talk to me
The first person from whom there is a direct source of communication for a person is his mother. If the mother truly waits and loves her yet unborn child, then communication begins with fetal life. It is proved that the future child sensitively feels both the internal state of the mother, and the semantic load that she wants to convey to him through her spiritual conversation.
The next stage of communication is communication after birth. Mom here again is the direct source of communication. Do not neglect communication with a crumb from the very first minutes after birth. Believe me, the kid needs it. He loves you and feels you.
Thus, starting with conception and continuing after the birth of the child, the mother acts as the primary source of communication, and hence - the knowledge of the world, life, knowledge. No wonder they say that the best teachers for the child are his parents.
The pope has an important role in the development of the baby and the formation of his personality. Therefore, together with my mother it is very important to communicate with the child, starting with the first moments of his life.
I see the world, and there are people in it
Growing up, the kid sees and understands that there are still uncles and aunts, grandmothers and grandfathers, a doctor in a white coat, boys and girls. He gets emotions from them, learns to recognize "his" and distinguish "strangers from his own", and later learns to communicate and receive information from people with whom he communicates.
Such a new, and later main, circle of communication is very necessary for the child, and the further, the stronger and stronger. After all, our whole life is a direct contact with other people. Wherever we are, at work, in public transport, in a shop or in a gym, everywhere we come across people whose communication we have been taught since childhood. The easier a child will manage to communicate from early childhood, so it will be easier for him to make new acquaintances and establish contacts with new people in the future. This "gift" is innate, and sometimes it is acquired through education, self-education and many other factors.
Do you need a kindergarten, do you need a school?
Asking this question to the kindergarten teacher with a lot of experience, I received the answer: "I believe that in the kindergarten the child should be driven, as he disciplines. On the other hand, you can get a twofold result: one child self-organizes, receives communication and development, the other "breaks" not for the better. "Parents, if you think that the kindergarten will" break "the person in your child, Do you need a kindergarten? A good alternative to state children's preschool institutions can be modern developmental centers. They provide both communication and development in an unobtrusive active form.
As for the school, then, of course, you can hire a private teacher, provide the child with the best teachers at home, but do you need it? With the same success you can find a better school. The school is not only a source of knowledge, but also a source of communication, albeit not always good, but somewhere you still need to acquire life experience. At least, most of us studied at school and grew up smart, sociable, self-sufficient people.
In order to be friends, and so do not make friends
Often parents try to control the circle of communication of their child, being sure that only they have the right to choose friends for him. If you are trying to influence your child in choosing friends, then you must be 100% sure that you are really right. Excessive control, bans and dictatorship on your part can only aggravate the relationship between you and the child. Thus, you will become a dictator, a strict parent, but not a friend for the child. Naturally, there can be no question of trusting in such a situation.
Your child should definitely have friends, because you do not want your child to be limited in communication. The lack of communication with peers generates complexes, depression, isolation, especially during the adolescent period of life.
Also, you do not need to judge your child's friends about the wealth of his family, because the best human qualities are not determined by the level of education and financial condition. Especially in childhood, the choice of friends on the above criteria is unacceptable. Otherwise, in the child from early childhood is brought up prudence and self-interest.
The world is near - communication with nature
Teach your kid to love the world around him. Children are the best researchers, as never before they see the grass around, fluttering a butterfly, a dandelion or a grasshopper. Tell your child everything you know yourself. Give him a world of colors of nature, fragrances and sounds. Thus, you charge yourself and the child with positive emotions, give joy and love.
The influence of communication on the development of personality is difficult to overestimate. As can be seen from the foregoing, communication is not only contact with others. First of all, the child learns through you the world around him and what you give him will sow the grain of his future future. Communicate with your children and sow only the best grain, because soon to reap the benefits ...