The reasons for the change can be very different. Absence or burning out of love, lack of some need or even just permissiveness. Treason is committed twice as often as the male sex, but at the same time, the number of women who change their partners is also not at all small. Among women, the reason for betrayal is often the lack of emotional and psychological contact, fatigue from the routine of relationships, problems with self-esteem and in relations with her husband. The same reason for the betrayal of a woman may be revenge on her husband for the previous "experiments" that he had done before.
The advice of a psychologist: whether it is necessary to admit treason, largely depends on the gender of the person who asked for help. Similarly, both women and men differently perceive treason. It will be much more painful for a woman to find out that her husband is emotionally close to someone and that he trusts another woman more than she does. Falling in love with another, admiring her - that's what women are afraid of. For men, much more cruel will be treason, which is the sexual, physical proximity of the wife to another. For him, the very idea that his wife can get an orgasm from someone else is already unbearable. Also, men react to the betrayal of much more diseases than women, which should be taken into account when analyzing the situation, what should a woman do.
People who still commit treason have a feeling of guilt. There is a question, to which there is still no single answer: is it worth to admit treason? Some psychologists differentiate the answer to this question for men and women. They advise men to admit to treason, but very delicately, sincerely repent of what happened. For women, some psychologists categorically recommend not admit to betrayal, because the probability of forgiveness on the part of the husband is very low, as treason greatly affects his own "I" and is a more shocking and painful fact.
But anyway, the viewpoints are different, but almost everyone agrees on one thing - first you need to conduct a psychological monologue with yourself. Decide for yourself what exactly pushed you to betrayal, which was the reason for how you feel about it. Analyze what happened, understand yourself and your actions at that time, and this analysis will push you to solve the problem.
Whether to admit treason also depends on the cause of the betrayal that concerns you. If you really love your husband, feel grief for what happened, and also a considerable sense of guilt and remorse, you are more likely to be inclined to tell about your betrayal in order to alleviate the burden and moral torture of your own mind. But here it is necessary to take into account one more important factor: how your husband will react to this, how he will react, what will happen afterwards and how it will be better for him.
Some want to admit treason, because this is a very high and moral act on their part. Also they are sure that they should be forgiven without fail and be sure of their rightness and sinlessness, since they still repent of what they have done. This case is manipulation and in most cases rejected.
Some admit of treason, fulfilling their revenge. Or they want the husband to be jealous of them, start to appreciate them again, regretted that he did not give them enough attention. Other women in this way try to return the interest of the husband or make him suffer when he learns of treason, as a result: that's what happens when you do not please your wife. There were also cases when women purposefully committed treason, in order to establish themselves in the negative reaction of their husband, to check the level of their feelings. Of course, all these cases can be considered completely erroneous. This is just the cases when you should not admit treason and leave your ambitions to yourself, and even reconsider your attitude towards your husband. So far can he be considered your favorite person, if one of these cases suits you? Do you trust him enough or love him?
If you do not know, it's still worth confessing to treason, consider the positive and negative aspects of both cases. In case you are afraid to admit of treason, it remains positive that the relationship with your husband may not change at all, he will continue to consider you the most faithful, sincere and beloved wife. They say that sweet lies are better than bitter truth. You will protect your husband from stress, and there is a high probability that nobody will know about this incident, and the dark stain of betrayal will disappear with time. But on the other hand, the hidden sometimes becomes obvious, and no matter how much you hide treason, there is always a risk that your husband will know about it, and it will be much better if he hears from you sincere repentance than about betrayal someone will tell him another, embellishing or inverting many details. Also, do not forget about conscience and feelings of guilt, which can in this case accompany you all your life.
Recognition, however, can help to understand partners in feelings and problems. Its plus is that you are really free from remorse, and this option suits you if you think that in a family a man and a woman should not have any secrets, and the relationship should be sincere and clean. In this case, this option is for you. But in it there is a minus: the fact of betrayal can strongly traumatize the husband psychologically, and he can not forgive you this. Also, the trust in your relationship will be reduced; and for a long time, even if he forgives you, they will be tense.
Think not only about yourself, but about your partner, analyze the situation and predict its various outcomes, how would you do. The main thing, be sincere with yourself and do not listen to anyone else but your own mind. And then the advice of a psychologist: whether you need to admit treason, you will not need it.