We all love, joke - for different reasons and over anyone. But as soon as it comes to yourself, for some reason it becomes not to smiles. Unfortunately, many people approach their person too seriously.
Are they making fun of you? There is nothing worse than being offended and sulking. Is not it easier to laugh in response - not over the opponent - over yourself. To look at myself from the side with irony is a useful skill. He helps easier to survive unpleasant situations and get out of them with honor, and not with the appearance of a beaten puppy. Allows you to walk through life with your head up and look in the eyes of others a worthy person, capable of treating yourself with humor.
Situation. In the morning on the bus I managed to tear my stockings? Catastrophe! To run into a store means to be late for work, and this is unacceptable. But how to appear in the eyes of colleagues in this form? They will scoff! Exit! Has someone sarcastic that it is indecent to walk with the "arrow"?
Laugh: "This is all my favorite - so hot: he took me right at the door, and I did not notice that in a fit of passion he did this!" The views became not mocking, but envious? Excellent! And it's great that men will look at your feet all day! There is a third plus. If you go to the store for stockings during lunch, you will not have time to eat. Buy a cottage cheese - make yourself a day off. For a long time I was going to.
You see, there is no tragedy. A little joke - and you managed to improve your mood and even raise your self-esteem. It is important: to laugh at yourself in a good way, not to scold yourself, not to feel guilty or displeased with your own awkwardness. And if, expecting ridicule, hide your legs under the table, fearful dashes to move along the corridors, then you will look like a small frightened girl - and how not to joke about such a thing!
Situation. The teacher cares at you, understates the evaluation. And you already hate his subject and with horror you expect the next shame at the board. Exit. Try to imagine how you respond. With a trembling voice, do you babble something incoherent to yourself? Stop thinking about the inevitable defeat. Raise your head, spread your shoulders, speak clearly, looking into the teacher's eyes. Asked a trick question? Do not know the answer - do not extinguish, laugh! Let him laugh with you.
Perhaps this will not improve your assessment, but it will defuse the situation. The teacher will begin to perceive you not as a bore, who can not master his subject, but as a self-critical student, aware of his shortcomings.
Situation. The acquaintance fell down giving you offensive nicknames, making fun of you? Exit. Do not engage in wrangling, otherwise all this will result in endless enmity. She says that you are tastelessly dressed? "Oh, you're right, and the skirt is something from an expensive boutique." So buy trendy clothes! " Did she lose her temper? One fight won! Calls you a pampushka? "Yes, I'm stout, and it's so hard to lose weight." Will you give a good diet? " And now she already gives you advice, shares her experience ... Almost a friend. No longer the enemy!
Such advice is often given to people who have been offended. And how, if unpleasant words do not go out of your head, especially when there is a feeling that there is some truth in them? Write them down! This will help you to step back and turn disturbing memories into material for study and conclusions. Look at what has been said from the outside, analyze and find a solution!
Jack Nicholson is very self-deprecating. "There is no one on the set who screamed and yelled at me, and when I came home and thought through a situation that I did not agree with, I look at myself in the mirror and say:" You asshole, Jack! Clever guys told you this in other words, they were nurse with you, and you, having zazvezdivshis, just did not turn your head! "