How to release false needs

Our mind has an amazing ability to convince us that something corresponds to reality, even if it is not. I discovered this when I changed my habits, and also when I got rid of the trash.

When you get rid of junk (and change habits), you think you need something. That you can not do without it. That you can not let it go. And yet it is not true. This is a false belief, a false need. Here are some examples:

• I need cheese. So I thought for a long time, and it kept me from giving up dairy products that do not fit my body. It turned out that this is a mistaken idea. Other variations: I need wine, chocolate, sweets, chips, etc. None of this is a true physiological or psychological need.
• Items that are sentimental, such as, for example, photographs, children's memorabilia, gifts from loved ones-most people do not want to part with them, as they symbolize memories or love. But this is not true, because love or memories are not really contained in these subjects, they are in your head and heart.
• I need things to feel safe. It seems creepy to not have a mountain of things, because for many people the possession of property is a form of protection. It's not so - things do not give you more security. This is provided by the availability of smaller debt obligations, as well as a backup plan.
• I need to check e-mail X times a day. You worry about missing something important. Of course, this is rare, almost never, is not true. My world has never collapsed due to the fact that I did not check e-mail for several hours, or half a day, or even a whole day. You just make up for everything later.

It also applies to social networks.

• I need to be something busy - because otherwise my business will not be successful or because people will not think that I am influential or competent. I discovered that this is not true. If you are less busy, it means that you know how to prioritize, and are competent in rationalization. Even the chief executive asked me how to do it. They had so long had a false need to be busy, that it was very difficult for them to give up this habit.
• I need elegant clothes. We believe that we should look in a certain way, demonstrate an image or fit into the situation. I found that I could let go of the need to dress in order to make an impression. Instead, I wear comfortable, minimalistic clothes, and no one has anything against it. Of course, certain activities may require a certain dress code, but even in this case, these requirements can often be challenged.

There are many other kinds of false needs, but I hope you understand the meaning itself. Start exploring your beliefs and stop thinking that they are all real.

How to cope with false needs

Suppose you have recognized a false need. But how do you deal with it if you are still experiencing an irrational fear that prevents you from freeing yourself from it? Here are some ideas:

1. Checking. How do you know if this need is real? Check it out. Conduct an experiment: give up what you need, for a week or even a month. And if things were not so bad, then it was a false need and you do not have to worry much about refusing it.
2. Use the box "possible". If you have things that you do not really use, but are afraid that you will need them, put them in the box "possibly". Write on the box today's date, put it in the garage or somewhere else, make a reminder on the calendar on the date in 6 months, and if for 6 months you do not need anything from this box, you can safely get rid of these things.

3. Realize that love is not contained in things. Objects with a sentimental meaning symbolize love and memories, but in fact, love is not contained in things. Items are just a reminder of love and memories, and they are very expensive, because they take up a lot of space and require you to have energy and time. Instead, make a digital photo, paste it into a slide show, which you can play every month or every three months, and throw the subject yourself. To learn this, it may take a long time, but when you succeed, you will get rid of your attachment to the subjects that cause emotions.
4. Ask yourself what can happen in the worst case. If you get rid of a thing or need, what could be the most unfavorable scenario? Often it is not so terrible or even quite good. You can safely get rid of a certain thing and not worry about any catastrophe.
5. Find a backup plan. And what if the worst scenario is not very pleasant? Can you meet the need in this case in any other way? You can usually borrow a tool that you rarely need from a friend, or take a book in the library, or find something on the Internet instead of storing things you do not use.

Getting rid of false needs consists in checking, evaluating, analyzing fears and a clear view of things.

Daily sessions

Here's how to conduct your daily sessions on a return to a life free of attachments:

1. Make a list of what you think you need in life, as well as what you just want, but that is not really your need.
2. Every day, consider one of these needs or desires. Is this your real need? Think about why you need it or why you want it? Does this really complement your life, or does it just complicate everything? Can you live without it and simplify your life in this way?
3. Consider the possibility of a temporary abandonment of need or desire to see what kind of life will be without it.

Often, giving up something, we get rid of a whole group of related things. For example, if you can abandon the need to watch TV at the end of the day, you can get rid of the TV, cable TV services, perhaps from the chips or cookies that you eat while watching TV. This is just one example, but the creation of freedom means giving up what we need only in sensations, not in reality. Very often false needs appear in eating and lead to attachments, excess weight, and a sense of guilt for eating. As with any attachment, with food, you can create neutral calm relationships based on freedom. There is a dessert as a pleasant treat, and not because you can not live without sweets. Enjoy a piece of quality cheese when you get to Italy or Switzerland and do not break down on its cheap replacement. Or let go of the need for an afternoon coffee with chocolate to give the adrenal glands a natural body energy recovery and finally lose weight. All this is possible, if it is correct to this approach. In the program "Rainbow on a plate" you will have the opportunity to create a more neutral relationship with food and get rid of attachments. For a short time this program is offered free of charge. You can enroll in this link.