How to teach a child to stand up for himself? Not all children successfully master self-defense classes. In many cases, children are even more complex, because they can not overcome fear and they have fear, which can cause discontent of the father. Consequently, they try to complain less about their offenders, hide their emotions, and do not trust their parents either. The problems are even greater, since losing support for adults, children feel completely defenseless. Although if the baby is still timid from birth, then the fear of the world will always be. There are cases when children are given to a kindergarten so that they get courage, but sometimes vice versa. There he too can be offended and he ceases to communicate with other children. It used to go out at least to play in the yard, but now it can not be pulled out into the street.
There is another extreme. There are children who are accustomed to rushing to offenders with fists, it is very difficult to find yourself in a team and get along. They are called hooligans, and then often expel these children from kindergarten. And in cases where parents persuade the leaders of the kindergarten to forgive their child, a special vacuum forms around this child. With him no longer want to be friends and even get involved. And feel away from everyone is not very pleasant. And those people who are rejected from others usually become very angry, they have a desire to take revenge. It gives rise to hatred. And even in school, children can have the conviction that there are only enemies around him. And this creates depression in children, which sometimes even leads to suicide in adolescence.
How to deal with this? It can all be divided into two parts, namely the attitude towards this situation of children and their parents themselves. The question arises: perhaps the parents themselves have surfaced early grievances, and try to ascribe to children their ideas about life? It's a pity, but that's sometimes the case. But why pity? Because this method creates an inferiority complex in children. Children's grievances are often not persistent and quickly forgotten. Most often, yesterday's enemy becomes a good friend, and maybe the opposite is true. And in the event that adults register for offense, they get a more formal look. There are times when many adults not only sharpen children's attention to simple grievances, but they also say that their child is humiliated. Of course, there are real humiliations, when classmates or teachers can really offend someone in a way that can be humiliated. However, most often adults make a molehill from an elephant, and they only do all this to their children badly. Insult is a bad enough and harmful feeling.
The child must believe that the world is full of good, so that the development of the child was full and normal. In the world, you can meet certain moments of evil, but only moments, but always good triumphs over evil. Even those children who have gone through a terrible war, also try to forget all the terrible experiences. And, of course, very much in the course of time much is forgotten and begin to live more joyful impressions. It is parents and no one else who can become support for their child and enable the child to understand how much kindness and justice surrounds them. The child himself must be able to protect himself. If he could protect himself from the abusers without the help of outsiders, of course he would. Nobody wants to feel weak. At a time when he can already defend himself, adults will not be needed. The duty of parents to protect children from offenders, but in the right way. After all, adults, too, can not cope with the abusers on their own, even turn to the police. Even many people think that all children are now very aggressive. But you can not think of everyone like that. Adults in this case play an important role. If parents allow their children to behave indecently, then they certainly will not give up and will do whatever they want. And if adults will teach, then the most ill-bred boys will become obhoytsya without a fight. Two different kindergartens or schools, which are a short distance from each other, can be very different. Often there are times when you can only change your kindergarten or school and everything will be in its place. However, if this child is everywhere a victim of hooligans, it means that it is not only in the team, but also there is something in it that provokes offenders. Adults, however, believe that he has a fear for everyone. How can you overcome fear? First of all, you need to overcome fear in yourself. It is easier for a child to overcome fear if he defends someone, not himself. This is a great stimulus, as he forgets his experiences. Then adults take their children to a peaceful resolution of the conflict by a truce and try to awaken in the child some kind of pity for his opponent. And to be honest, everyone at any age should be able to stand up for themselves, because life is very cruel.