Love is a game, and who first fell in love, he lost. So sincerely believe some guys, and hide their love deeply, so as not to look losers, weak, vulnerable. But does this only prevent men from opening their feelings? What other reasons force the guys to hide, and what signs give out a secret lover?
Causes forcing men to hide their love
Reasons to hide their feelings in a boyfriend can be a lot. The reason for this personal character or social norm, to identify immediately is not always possible. But knowing about the prerequisites for this will allow us to understand the nature of male secrecy and, if the guy likes, will help to act on the circumstances in order to put him to the point of frankness:- Restrained character. Such a man is difficult to bring out emotion and eloquence. He prefers to remain silent, and express his attitude towards the girl with actions. Very much like a man! So sooner or later he will "talk" ... actions.
- Features of education. Many boys are taught from childhood that they should be strong in everything, and that real men should not be allowed to dissolve "snot in sugar", like some gossip girl. This is a sign of weakness! So the guy keeps his feelings in check, because he is sure that real men do not dance, do not cry and do not admit to love.
- Low self-esteem. The costs of too hard education, manifestations of dislike for a guy in childhood, rejection of his socium - all this creates uncertainty and seclusion. The guy would be happy to admit, but thinks that he is nobody and unworthy of such a girl.
- Fear of getting rejected. Some guys are afraid of being infringed in their male pride, that the only thought that they will be denied or laugh at the senses, completely blocks their desire to openly show their attitude and confess their love.
- Negative relationship experience. Failures in love can also for a long time repel the desire to build new relationships. Often a man hides his true feelings not only from the girl he fell in love with, but also from himself. So the psyche is easier to cope with the pain.
- Fear of losing freedom. Often, independence is regarded by men as the most expensive thing they have. Naturally, no one is going to voluntarily give up their precious freedom. So they are silent about the fact that they fell in love to the ears, so that they did not have to marry.
- Stamp in the passport. A man who is not free can get carried away, but, fearing revelation, will hide his feelings. It's not that bad, but the fact that some guys hide their marriage from a girl they like, when they decide to start a "left" relationship.
Signs "talking" about the boy's love
- Look and facial expressions. Loving eyes give out even the most reserved man. In them, and depth, and spark, and insolence, and embarrassment. Such a gamut of emotions is displayed in the facial expressions. Everything is written on his face. The guy then blushes, then turns pale in front of the girl, listens to her with her mouth open, frowns, puzzled by feelings, or vice versa, incessantly smiles.
- Gestures. The body is the best indicator of truth. Gestures will be issued with the head of a boy in love. It can be vanity or stiffness in movements, the desire to touch a "casual" girl, when he passes her some object or helps to put on a coat, unconscious dishing of her own hair, etc. Sexual attraction to a girl can be treated when a guy communicating, often holds his hands on the waist, hips, widely spreads his legs.
- Voice and speech. The voice of the guy who is experiencing emotional feelings, under the influence of hormones becomes deep, filled with languid intonations and cooing notes. But speech, on the contrary, can turn from literate and content into mooing, incoherent words and sounds. About such a man they say that he can not connect two words. But it happens the other way round, a guy who used to be explained exclusively by a mat, finds the most affectionate words for a beloved girl, calls her diminutively caressing names and gentle nicknames.
- Appearance. Interested in the girl the guy wants to like everything, and appearance is no exception. He pays more attention to his hygiene, carefully chooses clothes, shoes and perfume, often looks in the mirror. For many men, love is a great incentive to start going to the gym and a great excuse to get rid of such bad habits as alcohol and smoking.
- Behavior. Enamored people tend to rush to extremes. If the active and prominent guy in the society of a particular girl becomes surprisingly calm and restrained, and the quiet becomes a bold and resolute macho, there is every reason to suspect them of falling in love. Also, many men in love become stressed caring and chivalrous gallant, guess all desires and remember the memorable dates.
- Personal space. Having fallen in love, the guy not only appears more and more often in the girl's habitat, but he also tries to involve her in her personal space - to introduce her friends, invite her home, show her parents. In communicating with the girl, he turns on confidential conversations, shares his dreams or even secret secrets, lets in his world, into which, perhaps, to all the rest, the door is closed tightly.
- Jealousy. A guy who loves, but is silent, can unconsciously consider a girl his property. And even if the young lady does not even suspect about his feelings, he is sure that she is his. And on the object of his sympathy, he will not allow anyone to even look at what to say about flirting, courting and giving any other signs of attention. Flashes of emotion or aggressive attacks in the direction of men who are interested in his girlfriend, will say about the boy in love more than he would like.